Recently, a new concept has appeared on the Internet - the principle of avoidance of happiness.
Its explanation is that in the case of family happiness, when encountering unwarranted provocation or abuse from others, one should avoid too much entanglement and take the initiative to choose to back down.
The principle of avoidance for the happy is based on a social morality and ethical concept that benefits others and oneself. The emphasis is not on a zero-sum game, but a win-win situation for everyone.
Suppose you are an ordinary person with a happy family and a little money. One day, you encounter a provocation from a desperate person, so what should you do?
If you do it against others, you will be "tile touching porcelain", and you will suffer. On the contrary, keep a good attitude and stay away, you will be safe, and others will not make trouble, isn't it a win-win situation?
In the future, the anger of society as a whole will become more and more serious. If you want your family to be safe, take the initiative to avoid these disasters.
1. Don't conflict with a middle-aged singleton who is alone.
There is a group of people in the world who have the highest crime rate, and they are middle-aged singles.
This type of person has 4 characteristics. First of all, there is no family bondage; secondly, there is no concern from parents, partners, children, and relatives; Third, the concept is easy to go to extremes; Fourth, the sky is not afraid, and the earth is not afraid.
You in front of the screen, you definitely don't understand, everyone has legal protection, what are you afraid of?
For people who have families and concerns, they are afraid of making mistakes in everything they do, and they naturally abide by the law. But for people who have no family and no worries, they are not even afraid of death, how can they be afraid of the law?
You are a person with a family, and he is a person without a family. If you have a conflict with him, and both of you don't know how to take a step back, then he may exchange one with you.
Once a tragedy happens, you will lose a lot if you have a family, and no matter how much he loses, it is just himself. It's scary.
In the future, the number of singles will increase. For singles, it is still necessary to be polite and respectful, and never offend them.
Second, don't be unforgiving for a little thing.
On the subway in a big city, it is possible that if you step on someone's foot, they will quarrel with you. Because everyone's life is very stressful, and the anger is very serious.
In other words, everyone is like a powder keg about to deflagrate. Whoever rubs a little spark and ignites the powder keg will have to pay for his actions.
It's not a good idea to get into a fight with someone over a trivial matter.
In the beginning, it was a small thing indeed. As the quarrel becomes more serious, it is possible to cause a major incident or a bloody tragedy. It's not good for others or for yourself.
What the society pays attention to is not to be unforgiving, nor to force others into a corner, but to "leave a line of human affection and see each other in the future".
If it's time to take a step back, then take the initiative to take a step back; If you shouldn't care about it, then choose not to care.
If you let others go in small things, others will not do extreme things. Otherwise, the evil of human nature is stimulated, and the follow-up problems will be serious.
3. Don't bully people because you feel rich.
Tell me something.
A few years ago, there was a man driving a luxury car in Guangzhou, and because he looked down on the security guards in the parking lot, he quarreled with the security guards. Under the impulse of the security guard, he did something extreme.
Whenever I see a similar tragedy happening, I think about a question: why do rich people have to bully others when they have been quiet and have a worry-free life?
Later, I figured it out: the more people reach a certain position, the richer they are, and the more they look down on those who are below them. For these despised people, they will only suppress, not respect.
This is the typical human nature of "bullying the weak and fearing the hard". But these rich people have forgotten one thing, although there is a gap between people in terms of wealth, ability, and status, but everyone has only one life.
It is not easy for rich people to make so much money. In this case, why not choose to respect others, protect yourself, hello, hello, hello, everyone? After all, wealth only makes sense if you are alive.
Those who bully others will only suffer from the "counterattack" of others in the end. And all the counterattacks are your life and death.
Fourth, for the bottom service personnel, don't give bad reviews.
I believe that many people have ordered takeout, picked up express delivery, and taken online car-hailing. What is people's attitude towards food delivery workers, couriers, and ride-hailing drivers?
Some people are more respectful, thinking that they are not easy and should be praised for them; Some people think very highly of themselves and look down on others, so they give others bad reviews; Some people also embarrass others in various ways, and even have a bad attitude.
In the past, it was easier to make money, so if you give others a bad review, others will not embarrass you. Nowadays, it is particularly difficult to make money, and if you give others bad reviews and make others lose their jobs, the risk is relatively greater.
Let's put it this way, if you give a bad review casually and make these low-level service workers lose their jobs, then their anger will be vented on the person who gave the bad review.
Cutting off people's financial means is tantamount to killing their parents. If your financial path is cut off and you have no income, then you will also go to extremes.
Since we are all ordinary people who support our families, don't embarrass each other. In the end, the bottom hurts each other, and those who suffer are still ordinary people at the bottom.
The essence of the principle of avoidance for the happy is that the happier people take the initiative to respect the less happy people and take a step back, which is conducive to social harmony.
Text/Shushan has deer