When we ourselves reached middle age and walked to the position of our parents, we really understood what it was like.
When my father came home, he always looked like he didn't say anything, eating with his head bored, watching TV with his head bored, and he was like a stake when the family was turned upside down.
Mother, I am grinding my mouth with you for a few dollars.
You may feel annoyed, but in fact, behind these behaviors, there is the helplessness of life, silence and slamming the door, which is another way for them to barely support their lives.
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Mother's slamming of the door was just a helpless move.
When you reach middle age and carry your family and children on your shoulders, you will understand your mother's hard work.
For example, some mothers can afford expensive clothes and cosmetics before marriage, but after marriage, they give up all these expenses.
Their money is no longer spent on themselves, but on the knife edge of the family.
The mother slammed the door, not only to reduce the family's expenses, but also to sacrifice a lot of her personal consumption, just to make the whole family run better.
Think about it, how much pressure is on a mother's shoulders to protect her life while also considering future risks?
In reality, mother's slamming of the door does make us sometimes live a less comfortable life, and that kind of taste is really uncomfortable, and even makes people complain in their hearts, "Why don't you enjoy life?" ”
But in fact, behind this kind of slamming the door is a deep helplessness and responsibility.
02
The silence of middle age stems from the exhaustion of life.
The silence of many fathers is not entirely due to indifference, but because life has long exhausted their energy.
Those silences that we didn't understand when we were young, and we gradually understand in middle age that behind the silence are countless days and nights that have been squeezed dry by life.
The work takes up too much effort, and people become more and more silent because they really can't afford to deal with more voices.
Some fathers simply don't want to say a few words to their families.
It's not because they don't have love in their hearts, but because they're so tired that they can't speak.
Look at yourself, do you have this experience?
For example, if you work overtime for a few days in a row, or you don't sleep well all night, and when you come home the next day, the whole person seems to be hollowed out by life, and you don't even want to say a superfluous word, you just want to lie in bed and brush your phone, which is the real reaction of exhaustion to the extreme.
Life is sometimes a ruthless grinder for people.
The father's silence is often a silent choice under this extreme tiredness.
So, stop blaming those silent fathers, behind this is their compromise on life, the silent protest of the exhausted body against life.
Behind every silent voice are those who are tired day after day, and those souls who have been consumed by life over and over again.
03
Life is difficult, and it is good to understand more.
When you reach middle age, you will slowly understand that you have no choice in many things, and you can only try to provide security for your family in your limited income.
The financial slash is often due to the fact that the family's income has reached the upper limit, and it is really difficult to increase the income.
To put it bluntly, life is not easy, so be more understanding.
No one wants to live a tight life and live by counting money every day, but in reality, there is only so much income, but family expenses are always rushing over like a flood, how dare you squander it casually?
You can understand, in order to understand your mother's helplessness, and to know the deep affection and hard work behind her "slamming the door".
In the face of such a reality, it is better to give each other more understanding, and stop hiding those grievances in your heart.
The mother's slamming of the door and the father's silence are for the sake of a more stable foundation for the family, not to make life sad.
Life is difficult, understand each other, and maybe there can be more relaxed moments in life.
Let my words come into your heart
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