In reality, who hasn't met a few people who are as strong as a bucket? It makes you feel frightened, and your headache is like eating a piece of ginger, and the taste goes straight to your brain.
But in fact, if you keep these three points in mind, you can deal with this kind of person.
Don't think about confronting them, it's the same as being uncomfortable, this kind of person has to see the moves, not only have some bottom lines, but also can't tear his face with him, so that he can keep himself and not be crushed by strong arrogance.
01
Learning to say "no" is a matter of respect for yourself.
People live for a lifetime, they have to learn to fight for themselves, whether at home or outside, the requirements that should be made must be mentioned, and those who should refuse must be decisively refused.
For example, if you go to a stall to buy lo-mei, and the other party weighs you an extra ten yuan of duck goods, you may forget about it before, but at this time you have to learn to speak and boldly ask him to weigh it again. You see, if you do this a few more times, your guts will be trained.
In reality, personality can be exercised, even if it is an introvert, through continuous exercise, become eloquent and brave to express themselves.
To change this situation, you have to learn to face strong people, say "no" more, and ask for more, so that you can live more freely and no longer always sacrifice yourself.
In the face of those strong people, they will have a little quarrel with you at most, what's the big deal?
Gradually, you will find that rejection is not so scary, and you are no longer afraid to face these so-called strengths.
Saying "no" bravely is a way to protect yourself and make your life no longer easily manipulated by others.
02
It's better to reduce contact than to compromise.
Some people have a strong personality and are always uncomfortable with you, especially those relatives or bosses who like to be aggressive, so it is best not to get along with them for a long time, so as not to find themselves unhappy.
Instead of becoming inferior in order to curry favor with these powerful people, it is better for you to directly reduce contact, or even cut off contact.
Some people are the type of person who gives pressure as soon as they open their mouths, and their attitude is so bad that you panic in your heart, and the best choice for this kind of person is to reduce contact.
Even if you tear your face once, the result is that you don't have to worry about their bad things anymore, which can be said to be once and for all.
In reality, strong people always put pressure on others, and prolonged exposure will only make them more and more painful.
If you're feeling too stressed, try putting off the decision, or just say "no," and if that doesn't work, cut back on the contact.
Don't think about changing these people, after all, their personality is difficult to change, but you keep compromising and living more and more aggrieved.
Reducing contact and staying away from people who make you uncomfortable is the best relief for yourself.
03
In the face of strong people, learn to procrastinate in decision-making.
People with a soft personality are always easy to suffer in life.
Take the example in life as an example, on some occasions, you obviously don't want to drink, but someone forces you to drink, and the words are hard and urgent, as if you have offended the king of heaven if you don't drink.
At this time, don't let their emotions dominate you, don't rush to cater to them, find an excuse to drag it out first, unwilling is unwilling, don't be defeated by temporary pressure.
In fact, most of those who force you to make decisions want to make a decision when you are at your weakest and most overwhelmed, so that you can't resist.
They see that you are a little hesitant, so they keep forcing you, for example, someone forces you to meet the blind date she introduced, you are in a hurry, and you agree as soon as your heart softens, and it is useless to regret it afterwards.
There are many such scenes, and you have to understand that when dealing with strong people, you must stick to your own rhythm and don't be led by the nose by the other party.
In the face of these strong pressures, your weapon is to "drag". You don't need to make a decision right away, you don't need to sacrifice your thoughts in order to get rid of the pressure in front of you, so if you really can't find a reason to take it off and leave some time for yourself to think.
If you are always in a hurry to compromise, then you are only for the immediate peace, but you have left behind the long-term comfort and happiness.
Let my words come into your heart
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