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Text: Lu Liuyun
Edited by Lu Liuyun
"Do you think we really want to have children in our lives?"
"What is the proportion of pain and happiness that children bring us?"
This is the question that "Huanbi" Lan Yingying asked her predecessor "Shen Meizhuang" Huanxi in a variety show.
Then she said: "When I was in my twenties and thirties, I really wanted to get married, and if I had gotten married, I might have a husband and children now." ”
As we all know, many years ago, Lan Yingying had a sweet relationship with Cao Jun, but they failed to achieve a positive result in the end.
And from what Lan Yingying said in this show, we can clearly perceive:
Although it has been separated for 5 years, Lan Yingying seems to regret it a little, and has even begun to struggle with the question of whether to have children.
In the face of Lan Yingying's entanglement in giving birth, Huan Xi directly broke her mind.
The tangled "Huanbi", the sober "Shen Meizhuang"
Recently, in a certain program, Lan Yingying expressed her views and entanglements on the matter of having a child to her predecessor Hui Xi very frankly.
And Huan Xi also gave her own answer to Lan Yingying's question, she thinks:
"Having a child is mainly based on personal thoughts, and other people can't actually give any advice."
This is especially true when it comes to the question of whether having children is a pleasure.
"Every child's personality will be different, you may feel happy, or you may be troubled by it, and you can't generalize at all."
"The only thing a child can gain is growth, and he will open the door to a new world for you and let you gain a lot."
And then, because of Huan Xi's persuasion, Lan Yingying, who was a little moved, said bluntly:
As she grew older, she also had the idea of getting married and having children, but when she saw her friends around her living so unhappy in marriage, she felt very frightened.
Moreover, pregnancy and childbirth will not only make her restrained by the child, but also greatly affect the development of her acting career, which is also the most tangled place in her heart.
As a "senior" in getting married and having children, she broke through Lan Yingying's inner troubles with her sober words.
In Huan Xi's opinion, since Lan Yingying has chosen to take on the responsibility of being a mother.
Then it is unlikely to be able to achieve both the child's career, after all, the child will inevitably occupy a lot of the mother's time.
Then Huan Xi pointed out that Lan Yingying's entanglement now comes down to the fact that she wants both children and a career, but such a choice is neither possible nor too greedy.
Life can't be all sweet, basically everyone has a bitter time, but some people are bitter first and then sweet, and some people are sweet and then bitter.
Although what Hu Xi said in this matter is not wrong, it is even worth thinking about to some extent for many women who work hard in the workplace.
But even if Lan Yingying's thoughts are indeed a little greedy, they are actually completely understandable.
After all, Lan Yingying's current thoughts are, to some extent, a concentrated epitome of the fertility problems faced by many women in the workplace.
Whether to choose to make your career develop smoothly, or choose to get married, have children, and have a warm and happy home, this may be a question that everyone is very confused about.
Lan Yingying chose her career, and she even gave up her boyfriend Cao Jun, who had been in love with her for three years.
Whether Lan Yingying's choice is worth it or not, only she knows.
However, in the eyes of those of us outsiders, her relationship with Cao Jun is indeed a bit regrettable.
The story of the year
In fact, it can be seen from the question asked by Lan Yingying to Huanxi earlier that she is now 35 years old and has begun to doubt whether her choice was correct back then.
Lan Yingying back then, since she announced her relationship with Cao Jun in 2016, the relationship between the two can be said to be quite sweet.
Lan Yingying is a well-known actor who is very ambitious in her career, so she will inevitably have some sharpness in life.
It just so happens that Cao Jun has a gentle personality and is more Buddhist in career development, and he is also very willing to tolerate her in his interactions with Lan Yingying.
During the relationship, they are even sweeter, and it is trivial to go in and out together.
Cao Jun, the actor who debuted as a child star, once wrote his love with Lan Yingying into a song "Dear" very sensationally.
This pair of "Miss Late" and "Mr. Punctual" were under every social media dynamic at the beginning.
The reply of netizens is either the depression of being suddenly stuffed with dog food, or the happiness of seeing the CP of their own powder making sugar.
Perhaps because of the nourishment of love, Lan Yingying's career development is also quite good.
Especially the fragment of "Tsing Yi" that she completed with Zhang Ziyi in 2017.
Her performance was so good that Song Dandan even cried, and her partner Zhang Ziyi praised her acting skills.
Not only that, but it is precisely because of this clip that the audience finally broke the inherent perception of Lan Yingying's "Huanbi" image.
Some netizens even felt that in this clip, Lan Yingying's acting skills overpowered Zhang Ziyi.
And Cao Jun's career has not fallen, in 2017, he participated in the very popular "Lin Hai Xueyuan", and received the attention of many netizens.
Because of this, this little couple was the most optimistic in the entertainment industry at that time, and everyone felt that the two of them would definitely be able to achieve positive results in the end.
But what netizens didn't expect was that the love between Lan Yingying and Cao Jun came to an abrupt end in October 2019.
There have been many theories about the reason for their breakup during that time, and many netizens believe that it may be because of the incompatibility of the two of them in terms of personality and career development.
However, Lan Yingying and Cao Jun have never given a positive answer.
But no matter what, this hastily ended relationship still left regrets for both parties, so much so that five years later, it is still remembered.
Lan Yingying's growth path
Mentioning this, some netizens may be curious, Lan Yingying and Cao Jun, the two once made in heaven, is there any possibility of reuniting now?
There may really be a possibility that Lan Yingying and Cao Jun's reunion will appear, but the most likely outcome for them may be that the two of them go their separate ways.
After all, the problems that led to the separation of the two of them at the beginning, whether it were personality issues or career direction issues, have never been resolved.
In such a situation, it should be possible for them to become friends with each other, but if they become lovers again, it must be more difficult.
Moreover, they have been separated for five years, and in the past five years, they have grown and harvested, and they have gradually started their own lives.
Lan Yingying gradually grew up after leaving Cao Jun, as an actor, she enrolled in many classes, and while studying, she also honed her acting skills.
Although she has not played the leading role in the play over the years, her acting skills have not fallen.
In the past two months, whether it is her guest appearance as "Guan Zhizhi" in "The Story of Rose", or "Su Zhenzhen" in "Dislocation", her performance in the play has been very good.
And the videos that Lan Yingying posted on her social media recently also showed.
Maybe she is really a little entangled in whether to have a child, but she still will never give up her career, she is still the one who hoped to become the "big heroine" in the past.
epilogue
On the question of whether career or family is important, Lan Yingying, who was in her twenties and thirties, answered.
And after the guidance of Huan Xi, what choice will Lan Yingying, who is already 35 years old, make? This is the future, and we don't know yet.
We can only express our blessings to Lan Yingying, and hope that this strong actress will develop better and better in the future.
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