<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > two places are separated and dependent, and the dream of a stubborn tough man is on the road</h1>
Kang Honglei
Kang Honglei's love was born in March 1982. At that time, 20-year-old Kang Honglei was studying drama performance at the Inner Mongolia Art School. He quietly fell in love with a girl in his class named Bow Xiaoning. Bow Xiaoning was a gentle and handsome Mongolian girl, two years older than Kang Honglei. She combed a delicate braid and walked with the "clanging" of the bells on her Mongolian robes.
Kang Honglei tried to get close to Bow Xiaoning, and the class rehearsed skits, and he invited her to be a partner and wrote poems for her. Only then did she seriously examine Kang Honglei, although his appearance was not outstanding, but he was versatile and persistent, and his two youthful hearts were tightly attracted like magnets. After graduation, Kang Honglei entered the Inner Mongolia Repertory Theatre in Baotou as an actor, and Gong Xiaoning became a music teacher at the First Vocational Middle School in Hohhot. Kang's father worked in the Inner Mongolia Department of Commerce, and his mother was a worker in a wool mill, and after contact, they felt that Gong Xiaoning was sensible and understanding, and was very satisfied with her.
Kang Honglei, on the other hand, ran into a wall with Bow Xiaoning's parents. In May 1983, Kang Honglei went to Bow Xiaoning's house for the first time to meet his future father-in-law and mother-in-law, and Bow Xiaoning's father said bluntly: "If you get married, you will face the reality of separating the two places." And you are Han Chinese, Mongolian-Han intermarriage will encounter many differences in living habits. No matter how Kang Honglei assured him, the parents of the Bow family just did not agree to their daughter's dealings with him.
Kang Honglei with his wife
In order to change the opinion of the parents of the Bow family, Kang Honglei began to practice Mongolian and eat hand-caught lamb. Half a year later, Kang Honglei came to Gong Xiaoning's house again, communicated with the parents of the Bow family in fluent Mongolian, and tasted milk tea with them. This made the Bow family's parents look at him with astonishment. Knowing that the Kang family's parents are kind and rigorous, this makes them completely relax. In October 1986, Kang Honglei and Gong Xiaoning held a wedding ceremony in Hohhot.
In July 1988, Kang Honglei and Gong Xiaoning's daughter Kang Ning was born. Because the husband and wife are separated, Bow Xiaoning carries the "three mountains" of work, housework and children on his shoulders. Kang Honglei rushed back to Hohhot's home from Baotou every weekend, saw his wife holding the child in her left hand, holding a spatula in her right hand, and humming a lullaby in her mouth, he couldn't help but wet his eyes At this time, Kang Honglei had been a dragon set actor in the Inner Mongolia Repertory Theatre for 6 years, the career was not satisfactory, coupled with the guilt of the family, he had the idea of leaving the repertory theater and transferring back to Hohhot to find a job to work and support his family. Because the drama troupe refused to release people, Kang Honglei had to go through the procedures of leaving his job without pay, and was hired to the Inner Mongolia Television Station and became a temporary worker.
Although Kang Honglei was reunited with his wife and daughter, his work was not satisfactory, and he was assigned to work in the public relations department. Scene notes, editing, photography, recording, dubbing... He did everything, but he didn't have any benefits except for a few hundred yuan a month.
Such a day is 4 years. Four years later, Kang Honglei's situation not only did not change, but deteriorated, according to local policies, tv stations did not even give him a salary. The burden of raising a family fell almost entirely on Gong Xiaoning. After 8 years of waiting, the dawn has finally come. In July 1996, Kang Honglei, who had not received a salary for four years, was transferred to Inner Mongolia Television Station and became a regular worker with excellent work performance. On the day he received the transfer order, Kang Honglei and his wife cried with joy...
After becoming a regular employee, the unit gave Kang Honglei a three-bedroom apartment of more than 100 square meters in Hohhot New Town. Bow Xiaoning is very content, she decorated her home warmly and elegantly, and lived a comfortable and peaceful happy life with her husband and daughter. But Kang Honglei gradually stopped being satisfied with the orderly life of television stations. In the past 8 years of hard work, he not only familiarized himself with all the processes of the director's work, but also shot a number of feature films, which was well-known in Inner Mongolia.
But he dreams more of a magnificent, spectacular war television series, and he is eager to go to a wider world to show his talents.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > "run away from home", and the "three-year covenant" witnessed the years of burning passion</h1>
In March 1997, the dream of going out and going out was already surging in Kang Honglei's mind like an ocean wave, and he plucked up enough courage to say his thoughts to Gong Xiaoning. Bow Xiaoning was anxious as soon as she heard it, and she was resolutely opposed to the desire to live a simple and peaceful life with her husband. Seeing that she could not convince her husband, Bow Xiaoning hid Kang Honglei's clothes and camera. The wife's "blockade" on the contrary strengthened Kang Honglei's determination. On June 5, Kang Honglei took 500 yuan borrowed from his colleagues and "ran away from home" to Beijing.
Looking at her husband's back, Bow Xiaoning cried, thinking that her husband had only brought a few hundred yuan, and she chased him out. At the train station, she found her husband and handed him 2,000 yuan and a down jacket: "There is no one to take care of you over there, you have to be more careful about everything." Kang Honglei choked and said, "Give me three years." If within three years, my career does not improve, I will go back to Hohhot to live a good life with you and your daughter. The couple said goodbye with tears...
Kang Honglei rented a basement near Fucheng Gate and ate steamed buns and vegetarian dishes every day. With the connections accumulated in inner Mongolia TELEVISION, he went around looking for the crew to introduce himself. Eventually, he served as an assistant director in the crew of the TV series "Water Margin".
In the next two years, Kang Honglei successively served as the assistant director of many TV series such as "Smiling Proud of the River", "Oriental Merchant", "Swallow Li San" and so on. In those two years or so, Bow Xiaoning carried all the family burdens with his weak shoulders. Father Bow suffered from hemiplegia in 1991 and has been living in the hospital for many years. In those years when Kang Honglei was in Inner Mongolia, he fed his father-in-law, scrubbed his body, cut his nails, and washed his feet, and now all these tasks fell on Gong Xiaoning, and the long-term labor made her exhausted. Every time he returned to Hohhot and saw his emaciated and haggard wife, Kang Honglei had to feel uncomfortable for a while.
In those years, Kang Honglei always reported good news and no worries to his wife, and Gong Xiaoning thought that he was mixing well in Beijing. In the summer of 1999, Gong Xiaoning told Kang Honglei on the phone: "My daughter and I are on summer vacation, and we have come to Beijing to play for a few days, and my aunt's daughter heard that you are in good condition in Beijing and wants to come with us." Kang Honglei's head grew bigger as soon as he heard it, but he was embarrassed to refuse.
Kang Honglei found a good friend and said that his wife was coming to Beijing to play and wanted to borrow his house for a few days. The friend agreed. In the middle of August, Gong Xiaoning and his party came to Beijing and saw Kang Honglei living in a spacious and bright building, with all household appliances and good conditions in all aspects, which was very gratifying. That day, Kang Honglei went to the set, the staff of the residential property came to collect the water and electricity bills, and Bow Xiaoning handed over the money to the other party. The other party muttered: "Before, another woman paid for utilities, how did it suddenly change to you?" Bow Xiaoning was shocked: Could it be that Kang Honglei found another woman?
At night, Bow Xiaoning did not hesitate to ask her husband to explain what was going on. When Gong Xiaoning knew that the house where her husband lived was temporarily borrowed, and he usually lived in a dark basement, his heart was full of mixed feelings. When he left Beijing, Gong Xiaoning said to Kang Honglei with tears: "I hope you don't forget our 'three-year agreement', if you really can't do it, go home." Kang Honglei bit his lip and nodded.
In early 2000, Zhang Jizhong got the script for the TV series "The Years of Burning Passion", and he was ready to let Kang Honglei direct. But when I went to find an investor, I encountered resistance, and the other party thought that Kang Honglei was not well known and worried about smashing the film. Zhang Jizhong changed 5 investors in a row before finalizing it was directed by Kang Honglei.
Kang Honglei on the set
Finally having the opportunity to direct a TV series independently, Kang Honglei was both excited and nervous. The crew invested tens of millions, in case of failure, how to account to the investor? Thinking of this, Kang Honglei was a little less confident, and that night, he dialed his wife's phone. Bow Xiaoning cheered her husband up: "Where is your courage to be unafraid?" Over the years, you have been accumulating, don't you expect to accumulate? I believe you can succeed! His wife's encouragement injected Kang Honglei with infinite courage and confidence.
In February 2001, the TV series "Burning Years of Passion" hit a new high in ratings after being broadcast on major television stations across the country. Bow Xiaoning, like thousands of viewers, has become a loyal fan of the show, and after watching each episode, she has to text Kang Honglei: "The details of the father beating his son are handled well, and I am in tears when I look at it." ”...... Kang Honglei exchanged with his wife with great interest in text messages: "I fulfilled the original 'three-year covenant', and now you still force me to go back?" "Actually, the 'three-year contract' is just to give you some pressure, and even if you don't succeed, I will continue to support you!"
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > True love follows, all the way bumpy all the way "assault" forward</h1>
Stills from "The Years of Burning Passion"
"The Years of Burning Passion" made Kang Honglei famous in one fell swoop, and he received a reward of 150,000 yuan. The economic conditions improved, and Kang Honglei moved out of the basement and rented a two-bedroom apartment near the Olympic Village. Since then, in just over two years, Kang Honglei has directed several popular film and television dramas such as "Qingyi", "Migrant Worker", "There Are Tears Flowing", etc., and he has stepped into the ranks of first-line directors.
At this time, Kang Honglei and Bow Xiaoning were still separated from each other, and he owed his wife too much! In July 2005, Kang Honglei took the time to return to Inner Mongolia and emotionally said to his wife: "You have paid too much over the years, and your children are older, it is time to take a break, follow me to Beijing to live!" Gong Xiaoning agreed to her husband's request, quickly went through the formalities of suspension of pay and retention, and came to Beijing with Kang Honglei. Entering his residence in Beijing, Kang Honglei affectionately pinched his wife's nose and quipped: "This time I did not lie to you, the house was rented by me, but I did not borrow it from a friend to deceive you." In a word, Bow Xiaoning's bitter tears flowed down.
In March 2006, Kang Honglei led the "Soldier Assault" crew to Kunming to shoot films, and Gong Xiaoning returned to Hohhot with his daughter who had returned from studying abroad. Because he was afraid of disturbing her husband's filming work, when the shooting was about to be completed, Gong Xiaoning flew to Yunnan to visit her husband. Kang Honglei was tired and dark and thin, and the vest he was wearing was very old and old, and he was still reluctant to throw it away. She said to her husband bitterly, "After making this film, you should go home and rest well, and you will not suffer like this again." But Kang Honglei said excitedly, "My dream has just begun!" ”
The following summer, "Soldier Assault" was broadcast on television and achieved a miracle in ratings. Kang Honglei was awarded the Best Director Award at the Golden Eagle Awards of Chinese Television.
On April 8, 2008, Kang Honglei began filming "My Regiment Leader My Regiment" in Tengchong, Yunnan Province, and Guo Yan, a pyrotechnics hired from Xi'an Film Studio, had an accident while rehearsing fireworks, was shot through the chest by shrapnel, and died of ineffective rescue, and two assistants were also seriously injured. On April 20, 12 days later, while filming the "Battle of South Tianmen", the long bridge suddenly collapsed, and 200 extras fell under the bridge, injuring more than 50 people. Two major casualties almost completely destroyed Kang Honglei's confidence, and he suddenly had a feeling that life was worse than death. In the evening, when Kang Honglei called Gong Xiaoning, he only said one sentence: "The pressure is too great, I really can't bear it..." And choked up.
The next morning, Gong Xiaoning flew to Kunming and then transferred the car to Tengchong. Seeing Kang Honglei, Gong Xiaoning was heartbroken: her husband had white hair on both sideburns, his eyes were red and swollen, his face was unusually haggard, and he even walked a little hesitantly. In those days, Gong Xiaoning accompanied her husband all day, boiling mung bean porridge for him and making light and delicious meals. Gong Xiaoning also mobilized his daughter to text and call Kang Honglei. The daughter said emotionally on the phone: "Dad, I went to Singapore to study alone when I was 14 years old, and I have to face everything alone. I'm sure you won't fall because you're a strong and good dad in my mind! The comfort and encouragement of his wife and daughter made Kang Honglei's confidence recover little by little. Yes, they are right, in the crew of "My Regiment Leader My Regiment", I am the regimental commander, if the regimental commander falls, what will happen to so many soldiers? Kang Honglei stood up strongly and filmed "The Regiment Leader" with full passion.
Kang Honglei and Luo Wei
In April 2009, the TV series "My Regiment Leader My Regiment" was simultaneously broadcast on many TV stations in Beijing, Jiangsu, Jiangxi, Shanghai and other television stations. Looking at the scene of the war, Kang Honglei and Gong Xiaoning burst into tears, only they knew what kind of difficulties they had experienced in filming this war drama, and what kind of mental journey they had gone through!
After filming this big drama that represented the realization of his dream of directing, Kang Honglei was so relieved that the first thing he did was go straight to the airport and buy a plane ticket from Yunnan to fly back to his home in Inner Mongolia. He put on his apron and cleaned up the house spotlessly. Knowing that his wife and daughter loved to eat their own grilled lamb skewers, "Master Kang" simply made a roast lamb table in front of his house and gave Bow Xiaoning roast lamb to eat as soon as he had time. Watching him intently turn over pieces of meat in the face of the fire, carefully sprinkling cumin pepper noodles, and concentrating on the roasted lamb, Gong Xiaoning felt that there was a look on his face that no one else had. After more than twenty years of marriage, she felt that her husband, like the blockbuster he had shot, still had the most unique charm in her eyes.
In Kang Honglei's view, Beijing and other places are the battlefields where he fights, and the home in Inner Mongolia is the rear of his recuperation. When he was tired and tired in Beijing, he would go to the warm nest that his wife had built for him in Inner Mongolia, honor his parents with his wife, visit friends, cook milk tea, and make hand-grabbed lamb. When his confidence was like a rising sail, he returned to Beijing and the set with confidence. Looking back on his bumpy directorial journey over the years, Kang Honglei sighed with emotion: "Without the support of his wife, there would be no me today." When I attacked the front line, my wife was my peaceful rear! ”
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