"Me Who Live Elsewhere" Xia Guo and Yu Jian are childhood sweethearts, and the two have a very deep relationship. When Xia Guo was a child, her father left her and her mother, and her mother was the kind of person who was more strict and harsh, and even Xia Guo had to charge rent for living in her house, so Xia Guo spent almost more time at Yujian's house than at her own house.
After graduation, Xia Guo and Yu Jian both have relatively stable jobs, their hometown is a small city, the pace of life is not so fast, the pressure of life is not so great, and life is easy and dull.
But Xia Guo is a person who is not very willing to be ordinary, she wants to go to Shanghai to develop, have a "slightly extraordinary" career, and live a "slightly extraordinary" life.
Go, or stay?
The TV series "I Live Elsewhere" shows us the different lives of Xia Guo after making different choices in a double-line parallel way, and this unique way also makes us think more about how we will make choices if we are Xia Guo.
After Xia Guo decided to participate in the assessment of the head office, she hoped that her boyfriend Yu Jian would also be able to go to Shanghai with her, but Yu Jian did not agree on the surface, but secretly participated in the interview in Shanghai and got the offer as she wished. Yu Jian wanted to surprise Xia Guo.
Dramatically, Yu Jian got an offer from Shanghai, but Xia Guo failed to pass the assessment of the head office. In order to accompany Xia Guo, Yu Jian decided to give up going to Shanghai. However, Xia Guo still did not give up, she directly asked Mr. Chen from the head office to recommend herself, and Chen Nan promised to take Xia Guo to Shanghai.
Just when the two were fully preparing to go to Shanghai, Yumi's father was accidentally injured and hospitalized, and he was likely to be paralyzed. At this time, Yu Jian definitely couldn't leave his father and leave. At this point in the plot, there are two choices, Xia Guo went to Shanghai alone, or stayed for Yu Jian?
Many people feel that Xia Guo should stay, after all, Yu Jian will be willing to give up her stable job to go to Shanghai for her, and she will be heart-to-heart, and now that Yu Jian is in trouble, she should not leave alone.
But when we saw the direction of the line of "staying", we really felt panicked. Marriage is never just a matter of two people, but two families. No matter how good Yu is, once it is mixed with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, firewood, rice, oil and salt, the relationship will also face a huge test.
If nothing else, just "where will they live after they get married" almost caused the couple who had been in a relationship for nearly two decades to part ways.
Mother-in-law is worried about her in-laws' house.
Xia Guo's mother later remarried and married a rich man, and the original house was empty. In this house, the names of Xia Guo's mother and daughter are written in the house book, but for a long time, Xia Guo lived here and had to pay rent to her mother.
Xia Guo's mother-in-law-to-be, Zhang Xiaoqin, was very upset about Xia Guo, and felt that Xia Guo's mother didn't think about the child at all. In addition, when Xia Guo and Yu met to talk about marriage, Zhang Xiaoqin moved her mind and wanted them to live in that house after getting married.
But at the same time, Zhang Xiaoqin didn't want people to think that her son was upside down and lived in her mother-in-law's house, so she had more eyes, thinking about letting her in-laws give up the property rights of this house and only write Xia Guo's name, so that Xia Guo and Yu Jian would be a family after they got married, and they would not live in someone else's house.
Zhang Xiaoqin is also a woman with a strong personality, once she has this idea, she wants everyone to agree with her and achieve her goals. She deliberately used her high blood pressure to scare her son, but her son refused to agree, so she refused to take medicine.
Yu Jian was worried about his mother's health, so he had to accept it on the surface, saying that he would persuade Xia Guo. But Yu Jian also knew that this matter was quite excessive, and he couldn't talk to Xia Guo at all, so he had an idea and made a fake picture to show his mother.
Zhang Xiaoqin saw that there was really only Xia Guo's name on the room book, and happily wanted to feast her mother-in-law in a high-end restaurant, but in a few words, the two families broke up unhappily, and Xia Guo also moved the mind of breaking up with Yu Jian.
A mother-in-law like Zhang Xiaoqin really won't please her daughter-in-law, but Xia Guo wants to break up because of this incident, and it's really unnecessary. In the past 20 years, Xia Guo and Yu Jian have understood each other, and it can be confirmed that the relationship between the two people is true and their character is good.
In other words, there are twists and turns in the relationship between them, and the most important factor is Zhang Xiaoqin's mother-in-law. And Zhang Xiaoqin, the mother-in-law, is really not an evil mother-in-law.
Having such a mother-in-law is a "blessing" for a daughter-in-law.
There is no doubt that Zhang Xiaoqin must be wrong to worry about her in-laws' house. Whether her original intention is for the good of her children or for her daughter-in-law, this cannot be a reason for her to arrange her in-laws' real estate without authorization.
Does that mean that such a mother-in-law cannot be wanted, and such a family cannot be married? Not.
A mother-in-law like Zhang Xiaoqin is more than enough than the top. Although she has some shrewd calculations, she will not do anything in secret, but will say everything in the open. She is worried about her in-laws' house, even if this matter is wrong, she can do it generously and say it.
When mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along every day, what they are afraid of is not that there are contradictions and conflicts, but that they don't know when the other party will secretly stumble on you. For example, some mothers-in-law, she is very good to her daughter-in-law in front of her son, and once she leaves her son's sight, she immediately changes her face and shows her most vicious side to her daughter-in-law.
There are also some mothers-in-law, she is polite to you on the surface, but she turns her head in front of his son but counts you in various ways, when you find that your husband's attitude towards you has changed, and his feelings have faded, you still don't know what the problem is.
This kind of mother-in-law who secretly makes a stumbling block is what you can't guard against.
And what about Zhang Xiaoqin? She was worried about her in-laws' house, she would clearly tell Xia Guo what she thought, and after Xia Guo was noncommittal, she did not continue to ask her, but turned her head to pressure her son to do Xia Guo's work.
It can be seen that she is not a mother-in-law who secretly makes a stumbling block, nor is she a mother-in-law who specializes in embarrassing her daughter-in-law to protect her son. Such a mother-in-law, it is much easier to get along, you just need to meet the tricks according to her ideas.
Just like the matter of changing the name of the real estate certificate, no one will be so stupid that others will really change it for no reason. Mother-in-law's worries are simply vain worries, as long as you don't clash with her head-on, there will be no big problem.
But through this incident, it actually gave us an answer, is it really right for Xia Guo to stay? In fact, a mother-in-law like Zhang Xiaoqin is wise to stay away. Because she is not big and the boundaries are not clear, although she will not secretly calculate you, but she is close, and trivial contradictions are indispensable.
Therefore, having such a mother-in-law is a "blessing" for a daughter-in-law. It's not that such a mother-in-law is good, but such a mother-in-law can make her daughter-in-law see the direction of marriage more clearly and make her own choices, which is much luckier than having a mother-in-law who makes you unguarded.
Of course, you will say, why don't I find a mother-in-law who treats me like a daughter? It's good to have such a mother-in-law, but in the adult world, there are not so many fairy tales.
About the author: Xiang Xiang Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write, focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television, as well as the analysis and solution of problems in the emotional field, I hope my words can accompany you warmly.