Tutor stories
Xiao Ming is a smart and hard-working elementary school student, and he is now in the fourth grade. The teachers said that he usually studied very well, but when it came to the exam, his grades were not so good. It turns out that Xiao Ming will be so nervous before every exam that he can't sleep. Lying in bed at night, he always worried that he still had something to learn, so he got up and read. But as soon as I opened the book, my heart was messy, I couldn't read it at all, and the whole person was in a trance. His mother advised him to go to bed several times, but he didn't listen, so he spent the night in a daze.
When it came to the exam on the second day, Xiao Ming felt that his eyes were dazzling, and he remembered the knowledge points very clearly, but he couldn't remember them, and his mind seemed to be a mess. Because he didn't sleep well the night before, he was dizzy. If you answer the question like this, of course, the results will not be good.
This happened every time he took the exam, and Xiao Ming became more and more nervous. He felt that he had failed to satisfy his parents, and that he felt that he was quite useless. Mom and Dad saw that Xiao Ming usually worked so hard, but they didn't understand why he couldn't do it when it came to the exam, and they were also very anxious.
Tutoring tips:
In our fast-paced society, everyone is trying to move forward, and children are no exception. On their small shoulders, they are not only carrying school bags, but also countless exams and parents' full expectations. These are like hills, which make children study very hard every day, and they are even more tired when they take exams.
Just like Yun Can in the story, he was overwhelmed by these pressures, and he didn't know how to make himself easier, and he didn't know how to achieve his parents and his goals. As a result, as soon as the exam arrived, I was so nervous that I couldn't sleep, I was in a trance, and I didn't even have the heart to study.
Actually, pressure is a bit like a seasoning, if you put less of it, it will not taste, and if you put too much, it will be salty. Moderate pressure can make children more motivated to learn, but too much stress can prevent them from learning. It's like we have to eat, we have to be just right.
Some children will try to turn stress into motivation, but accidentally go too far, become anxious, and can't eat or sleep well. There are also some children, who simply avoid the pressure and walk, usually looking quite normal, but when it comes to the exam, they are so nervous that their hands are so shaky that they can't hold the pen.
Neither of these methods is a good way. Children have to learn how to face pressure correctly, otherwise this pressure will be like a big rock, overwhelming them and affecting their growth for a lifetime.
As parents, we have to pay attention to the stress of our children and don't take it seriously. Some of the pressure on children is due to the shortage of educational resources, and some are because the expectations of our adults are too high. Let's look at the actual situation of the child, don't just stare at the score.
We need to help children find the source of stress and teach them how to deal with it correctly. Don't let stress push your child too hard, and don't let them hide too far. In this way, children can not only run on the way to growth, but also be in the mood to enjoy the scenery along the way.
Teacher's Tips:
Today's children have their parents' expectations in their hearts, and they are actually quite stressed. As parents, we have to act in time to help them unload their burdens, so that they can travel lightly in their studies and life.
The first trick: find the little tail of stress
Why are children stressed? We'll have to think about it. Some children panic when they get to the exam, afraid that they will disappoint their parents if they don't do well. is like Li Zhongzhen, he studied so well that he was not even afraid of the Olympiad exam, but he was still a little apprehensive in his heart. His father said: "The exam is to test yourself, not others." Study, the most important thing is to be happy, don't take it too seriously. As soon as he said this, Li Zhongzhen's heart brightened up a lot. Therefore, we also have to help children find stressors, talk to them, and let them know that exams are to check their studies, and they don't need to be so nervous.
The second trick: teach children to look down on winning and losing
Success and failure are temporary. After working hard, there is nothing to regret. Linlin was going to participate in an essay contest and was too nervous. Her mother comforted her: "The important thing is that you participated, you learned, and the result is, just let it be." When Linlin heard this, her heart was relieved, and she used celebrities as examples to encourage herself. We also have to tell our children that it's important not to keep staring at the results and to enjoy the process.
The third trick: don't let the exam become a "tight spell"
The exam is approaching, and the atmosphere at home is tense. Some parents also set goals for their children: "How many points will I score in the Chinese test this time, and how many students will I want in mathematics." "What a help, it's just a mess! Let's put it another way: "Baby, just do your best, just play normally." "Give your child more encouragement and less pressure.
The fourth trick: the sharp eyes to escape
Some children hide in games as soon as they get to the exam, saying that they are relaxing, but in fact they may be evading. At this time, we have to be careful not to let our children become "deserters". You have to talk to them and tell them to be brave and not be afraid of challenges.
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