Have you ever been in an online dating? Is there a rush to the present, and is the running successful? In fact, seven out of ten online datings have not succeeded.
Ordinary love is only started after face-to-face contact and understanding. At least I met once, and after falling in love at first sight, we chatted and chatted together online. And online dating is love across the network, without meeting offline or actually contacting.
People, in front of the people you like, you always care about your own image, especially when you haven't really met. Now that the Internet is so developed, photos can be repaired, and videos can also be beautified, whether it is a man or a woman, they all hope that they can have a good first impression of each other. Therefore, the necessary process of online dating - explosive photos and videos, both parties will beautify themselves. Even if you haven't seen a photo or a video, when you describe yourself to the other person, you will do some beautification and retouching.
This is human nature, in order to attract the attention of the object of their choice, people will unconsciously carry out a careful packaging of themselves, from appearance to character, from life status to hobbies, all of which have been carefully screened and beautified.
And not only will you beautify your own image, but online dating also has a characteristic - fantasy. There is no actual intersection between two people in online dating, only on the Internet, and the Internet can allow both parties to build a dream world based on words, pictures or sounds.
People are very fantasical, and they will match certain characteristics in their minds to the corresponding characteristics. For example, for voice control, when only a person's good voice can be heard, he automatically matches this person with a good image. In this dream world, every detail of the other party is endowed with infinite reverie. In addition to liking the other party's exposed side, online dating also likes the other party that you build in your imagination.
Online dating is like a dream, the Internet is the place where the dream begins, and the rush is the time to wake up from the dream. As two people move from the virtual to the real, the differences that have been ignored or deliberately ignored come flooding in. Different living habits, personality friction, identity differences, and even differences in appearance may become the last straw that crushes this relationship.
For example, the image of the other person is very different from the self he describes, and the image he shares; For example, the other party's words and deeds are very different from his on the Internet, and they are very different from what he likes; For example, the other party deceived himself in identity, he beautified his profession, he concealed his marriage and love status, and so on.
When the gap between ideals and reality is too great, people will inevitably feel disappointed, and it will not be possible to communicate as before.
If online dating can be successful, either both parties are ready and have been honest on the Internet; Either the two people are really mentally compatible; Either he can accept these gaps, it's okay if he doesn't look so good, or his words and deeds don't quite match his habits, even if he is not single. It's a big deal to use the private chat software disguised as a calculator online to chat with good luck, you can only enter the password to enter, no password retrieval, chat information encryption, someone close to immediately flip the phone back to the calculator interface. Offline met secretly behind everyone's back.