Hello everyone, I am Sister Dimples, a 40-year-old second-child working mother.
Recently, the Li Xueqin certificate incident has caused a lot of uproar.
I also went to find out, and it turned out that in an interview, Li Xueqin said that she couldn't swim. This sentence triggered an earth-shattering discovery from a careful netizen: it turned out that in 2013, Li Xueqin obtained the certificate of second-level swimming athlete.
A man with a certificate who says he is a "landlubber". For a time, Li Xueqin's fraudulent college entrance examination results were pushed to the forefront by public opinion.
Although someone who claimed to be Li Xueqin's classmate and work partner later came out to explain that Li Xueqin's college entrance examination score consisted of a naked score of 633 plus 20 extra points in the independent entrance examination, there were no sports bonus points in her results.
But what Sister Dimple wants to discuss today is not this, as a mother of two children, I am more concerned about how lethal our ordinary families are because they don't understand the poor information about going to school.
Sister Dimple is a post-80s generation, born in the countryside, and her parents are also authentic farmers. When I was in junior high school, two of the other three girlfriends who played since I was a child dropped out of school and went out to work, and the other dropped out of school after two years of junior high school.
It was just me, insisting on going to school, although I studied at a moderate level.
I remember very clearly, after entering high school, my grandmother rolled her eyes and said: What kind of book does a girl read, and if she reads, she will read it in vain! It's not going to be around the stove in the future, don't believe it, look at your cousin!
Indeed, not many rural babies, especially rural girls, have completed junior high school, and even fewer have completed high school, and even fewer have been admitted to college.
During the college entrance examination, my parents said: Apply for volunteering? We don't understand~ Yes, they haven't graduated from elementary school, where do they know how to apply for volunteering, and what to report?
But on the other hand, in big cities, even if you are not a top student, you can take a shortcut to go to a prestigious university.
CCTV genius Sa Beining was successfully sent to Peking University just because he participated in a winter camp of Peking University to screen talents and sang a song "Little Poplar";
CCTV host Nigmaiti, who also "walked through the back door", participated in --- "National Middle School Student Host Competition" and won the third place, and was finally directly admitted to the Communication University of China.
He Jiong's parents began planning when he was in elementary school. He was admitted to middle school without examination, and the reason was that he won the first place in a painting competition.
Dong Mingzhu's former assistant Meng Yutong Everyone knows that she was sent to Zhejiang University, and the school that escorted her was the famous Shijiazhuang Foreign Chinese School (part of 43).
And there are 16 such schools in the country, do you know which ones?
I'm ashamed, and Sister Dimple doesn't know.
But I know: it turns out that the way to change everyone's fate is not only the college entrance examination.
Therefore, there is a very cruel reality in front of us: when the children of ordinary families cross the single-plank bridge in thousands of troops, the escort students who do not need to take the exam have already started to plan for the next stage of their lives.
Therefore, this distance of "information difference" threw ordinary people out of 108,000 miles.
However, behind the escort of other people's children, our parents should also see that you can get the escort place, and you have at least one outstanding.
For example, Peking University Wei Shen entered Peking University through a mathematics competition, and took the single-trick route.
For example, Pang Zhongwang, the champion of the college entrance examination, was admitted through the self-improvement plan and obtained the policy of reducing the score of 60 from Tsinghua University.
Now that the information on further education is gradually transparent, many ordinary families also know the "poor information" of the guaranteed path outside the college entrance examination, so they have switched from the track of the college entrance examination to the seemingly "shortcut".
However, there is a heart-wrenching fact: the vast majority of children cannot become so-called cow babies.
Two days ago, a friend sent me a video of her going to a cram school to pick up her children, but the people there couldn't squeeze in at all. As far as the eye can see, it is all parents who ride bicycles or cars to pick up their children.
A friend came to say: Crazy~
As an ordinary parent of an ordinary family, I have slowly figured out that whether it is a "college entrance examination" with thousands of troops crossing a single-plank bridge, or a shortcut to various famous schools, the most fundamental thing is the child.
If we just follow the crowd to roll up children, we also learn when we see others learning programming, and we also take the TOEFL test when we see others taking the TOEFL, it is very likely that we will become the "leek", denominator or cannon fodder harvested by other institutions.
So, what is the right educational plan for the average family?
Let me share my thoughts with you:
1. Cultivate a hobby for children
There are three reasons for doing this: first, interest is the best teacher for the child, he likes the sport, and he will take the initiative to learn it.
Secondly, the benefits of exercise are self-evident.
There is such an experiment in "Exercise Transforms the Brain", the author found a group of children, exercised for one hour a day, and after persisting for a month, they found that this group of children interacted more in class, spoke more, and caused less trouble and fights. As for the results, on the contrary, they have improved.
Why? Because of the bardolamine, adrenaline, and serotonin produced by exercise, they all promote brain development. Bardoamine makes the child feel good, adrenaline makes the child focus, serotonin increases the child's memory, the child is in a good mood, has strong concentration, and has a good memory, then her learning will definitely not be bad.
Moreover, sports can strengthen people's willpower, develop teamwork skills, and improve children's sense of competition.
Finally, there is a more utilitarian point: physical education should be tested during the high school entrance examination.
2. Cultivate children's reverse quotient
Today's children, there are too many glass-hearted ones. Running away from home at every turn, jumping into the river and committing suicide, especially adolescent children, many people have mental illness.
Let children have a sunny and optimistic attitude, do not go to extremes when encountering problems, do not retreat when encountering difficulties, and improve children's ability to resist frustration and pressure, which can lay the foundation for children's life.
A few days ago, the female employee of Zhongjin jumped off the building, isn't it a good illustration of this~ She studies well, has good looks, and has strong ability, but she has been hit by multiple pressures such as falling housing prices, falling wages, pregnancy and marital conflicts, because she couldn't bear the good years of choosing to commit suicide ~ 30 years old, it's really sad and regrettable~
Therefore, as long as you raise a child with a strong personality and strong ability to work under pressure, you will exceed 60% of your peers.
3. The family does not have internal friction, so that children can feel relaxation and love
After a day of studying at school, I can finally relax and rest when I get home, but many parents will be particularly disappointed to come up and chatter: It's almost okay, hurry up and write your homework~
It's like when you're busy with a bunch of work and finally have time to catch your breath, but the leader throws over a bunch of materials and tells you to change it before getting off work and hand it over to her.
So, first do a good job in the parent-child relationship, have a harmonious and harmonious family atmosphere, parents are not anxious, not impatient, no internal friction, so that the child feels the warmth, relaxation and love of home, she is rich in her heart, satisfied, without you to say, she will take the initiative to learn.
As a parent, don't be dazzled by the general environment, let alone be coerced by the anxiety of the outside world, use your own insight, calmly see clearly, think clearly, children work hard, parents are dedicated, this is fine.
You tell me?
How do you plan for your child?