Sometimes a word of praise, a word of comfort, a smile, a look or a hug, even if you sit there and say nothing, you can make others feel warm and comfortable, and that is the emotional value you provide to others.
So what is emotional value? The so-called emotional value is your ability to influence the emotions of others, you make others feel comfortable, happy, and happy, you provide others with positive energy emotional value, on the contrary, you make others angry, uncomfortable, uncomfortable, you provide negative energy emotional value.
So how can we provide better emotional value to others?
First, recognize others
For example, the food that my wife fried today tastes good, and you say that your wife's cooking today is delicious, and your wife is recognized, she is very happy, and for example, today your wife bought a piece of clothing, and he asked you after putting it on, does this dress look good? You must go around her three times, and then say that this dress is so beautiful to wear on you, it seems to be customized for you, and the wife must be very happy, it is likely that she wears this dress every time she goes out. The children in the family have made progress to be affirmed, the husband has achievements to be recognized, the wife has paid for the family, the husband wants to say that the wife has worked hard, the family is happy, and it is the same outside, you take the bus to give up a seat to others, and others are respected is also a kind of recognition, which is the emotional output of positive energy.
Second, like others
For example, if a friend comes today, you are very happy, shake hands with him when you enter the door, and tell him that I am so happy that you are here today, and he feels that you like him, and for example, if your husband has not come back for a few days, as soon as he enters the door, you say that you have not come back for a few days, and you miss you, give him a big hug, let him feel that you love him, you like him from the heart, and for example, on your wife's birthday or New Year's holiday, you give her her beloved gifts, make her happy, let her like, all provide emotional value.
Third, care for others
For example, it is raining today, and my wife does not bring an umbrella when she goes to work, so you send the umbrella to the door of her unit, and she will feel that her husband cares about me, and for example, if my husband is going on a business trip, you help him prepare a change of clothes and daily necessities, and tell him to send a message when he leaves, and the husband feels that his wife is careful, and his wife is good to him, and it is also an output of emotional value.
Fourth, understand others
Understanding others, that is, being empathetic, for example, if your husband loses money in business, you say it's okay, you lose it, you lose it, business is like this, there is a loss, the husband is much more comfortable in his heart, and then for example, the wife goes out and loses something, at this time you say, if you lose it, it's okay, go back and buy another one, the old one doesn't go, the new one doesn't come, the wife is still entangled in self-blame, maybe I'm afraid that you will say her, you say this, the heart is down-to-earth, this is all in the output of emotional value.
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