Hello everyone, I'm Xiaoxue's mother
In the past, children all wanted to be "boys", and the plot of "patriarchy" was relatively heavy, thinking that raising children to prevent old age and children would be blessed, and after the daughter got married, it was just water that was spilled.
However, with the progress of society, everyone's concept of fertility has also undergone great changes, many people no longer have the idea of "preference for sons", and even many families feel that daughters are better than sons, and they hope to give birth to an intimate "little padded jacket". For a while, the saying that it was better to have a daughter was more popular.
But some people said that giving birth to a daughter is a very happy thing, but the family that gave birth to a daughter is not as "popular" as everyone thinks!
Why do more and more families want a "daughter"?
In fact, the reasons are very realistic, just two points
First, there is little pressure to have a daughter
The family belongs to the son, and in the future, the parents will prepare the car, house, bride price, three golds, etc. for the son's marriage, and the pressure to have a daughter is really much less. I have seen some street interviews with bloggers, some old men in their fifties or even sixties, who still insist on working on the construction site, asking why their son is getting married and their son's mortgage is to be repaid......
It can be said that Chinese parents are probably the most responsible but tired group in the world, living in the world of their children all their lives, especially those with sons at home, they can only work hard.
On the contrary, the daughter does not have such a big pressure, the parents do not need to prepare a house for the child, and they do not have to worry about the bride price, they just hope to cultivate their daughter to be excellent and let their daughter live freely and happily.
Second, the daughter is caring and sensible
It is said that the daughter is the father's "intimate little padded jacket", and more and more men want to have a daughter, realize their dream of being a "daughter slave", and leave their gentleness and smile to their daughter. I hope that my daughter can grow up safely, happily and healthily, do what she likes, and don't have to bear so much pressure in life.
However, people who came over said that there is a good side to raising a daughter, but there is also a "worrying" side
First, it costs more for girls to grow up than for boys
Many families raise their sons are relatively "rough", and it is not so expensive, and they buy clothes and shoes for their sons in the changing seasons, a total of only a few pieces, but the family is a daughter, but it is different, just say that in summer, there are many colorful skirts, as well as all kinds of shoes, all kinds of hairpins, dolls, so it is even more expensive to raise a daughter than to raise a son when I was a child.
After going to college, my daughter's living expenses are also a lot, in addition to meals and expenses, the girl also has to buy cosmetics, clothes, go out to dinner, etc., my sister-in-law's daughter goes to college, 2500 yuan a month is not enough to spend, every time I call back, I ask for money.
In addition to these, who raises a daughter now does not enroll their children in an interest class, but whether they learn dance or music, these hobbies are very expensive.
Second, the adolescent of their daughter, parents are more "worried"
Unlike boys' adolescence, although parents also prohibit their sons from falling in love, they rarely worry about the problem of losing money if their son falls in love early. But it's different if it's a daughter at home, and I'm very worried about my daughter's "adolescence" early love.
For fear that her daughter would suffer emotional setbacks and fail to protect her body, in short, the feeling of having a daughter at home can be understood. If the daughter is really rebellious, it will be much more difficult to communicate than the son, the son is uneasy, and the parents may really beat him, but which of the daughter's parents is willing to do it?
Third, I am afraid that my daughter will be "unhappy" when she marries
The daughter's marriage is also the most worrying thing for parents, why so many families are daughters, and the marriage does not let the daughter marry out of town, not that the daughter is wronged in the in-law's house, she can return to her mother's house at any time, and her mother's family is by her side, and the daughter is more confident in the in-law's house.
Especially now, when the divorce rate is so high, many young people get together but soon separate, and parents want their children to have a happy marriage and hope that their children will live better.
Therefore, it is pitiful that parents in the world, whether it is a daughter or a son in the family, they will always have the heart to, and most families are now only girls, so whether it is a boy or a girl, parents will raise their children very hard, and there will always be pressure, but the pressure of raising a boy is different from raising a girl.
But as long as parents educate their children attentively, and their children can live better in the future, and they can face the society and life independently, then we will be satisfied as parents.