In the life of an adult, there is no word for easy.
Author:Nightly · HeiFa
Recently, the topic of "teachers as nannies to pay off 800,000 debts in 4 years" has been on Weibo hot search.
Her name is Yang Yerui, 34 years old, formerly a teacher, coming to Shanghai as a nanny is actually a helpless choice.
One day in 2017, her husband stood in front of the window sill and told her with a look of pain: "I really can't do anything." ”
At that moment, she learned that her family's business not only did not make money, but also lost 800,000 yuan, and her monthly salary at that time was only 5,000 yuan.
During that time, the phone at home was filled with all kinds of debt collection sounds, and she fell into a collapse at one point.
But seeing her apologetic husband and two screaming children, she had to stand up and tell herself she had to keep the family.
So, without hiding from her family, she secretly resigned and found a job as a nanny in Shanghai.
The housekeeping industry looks bad, but as long as you are willing to work day and night, the salary in hand is considerable.
For 4 years, in order to make a little more money, she has not had a day off, in order to save money, she has not been willing to buy a single piece of clothing for herself.
The kung fu paid off, she worked as a housekeeper for 4 years and paid off the arrears.
Her experience reminds me of a girl's question:
If you are unfortunate enough to encounter a major setback in life, how do you get out of the predicament?
On this subject, I would like to tell three stories.
01
The first story is about Liu Chuanzhi, the founder of Lenovo.
Someone once asked Liu Chuanzhi a question: "Which person do you admire the most, and why?" ”
Originally, everyone was still guessing which business giant it was, but Liu Chuanzhi gave an answer that surprised everyone: Liu Xiaoqing.
At that time, Liu Xiaoqing was still serving a sentence in prison.
In the face of the confusion of the crowd, Liu Chuanzhi explained:
I admire her because she can keep running and exercising every day, even while serving her sentence in prison.
The purpose of the exercise is to be able to better devote himself to work after he is released from prison.
This calmness and perseverance deeply affected him.
In the year when Lenovo Group suffered a crisis, he went to Hong Kong alone to preside over the overall situation.
On the day of arrival, it rained heavily, and unfortunately, he accidentally fell into the well, which was extremely embarrassing.
Coupled with the crisis at that time, he said that he was so desperate that he could not cry, and countless times he felt that he simply gave up.
But he gritted his teeth until the end, forcing himself through the darkest moments.
And then the story, I think everyone already knows, he led lenovo Group to successfully acquire IBM's PC business, and became the world's first PC manufacturer.
02
The second story, about gao Yifeng, a guest of "China's Got Talent".
When Gao Yifeng was young, he went to Hainan alone with 300 yuan.
From waiter, to singer, to set up their own company, after 6 years of hard work, the accumulation of 300 yuan to 20 million yuan.
1996 was the peak of his career.
During that period, he not only appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, but also opened several entertainment cities, and often celebrities came to him to cheer him up.
Unexpectedly, the good times were not long, and due to the impact of the financial crisis, his company went bankrupt in just one year.
Tens of millions of dollars were lost, but instead of debt of 3 million.
The sudden blow left him white-headed overnight.
After bankruptcy, life is very difficult.
In order to make ends meet, he drove motorcycles, rented them, and set up stalls.
From multi-millionaires to millions in debt, it can be regarded as falling from a tall building to the bottom.
But even in the most difficult and difficult moments, he did not give up on himself, but often told himself that life must go on and the money must be paid back.
With this thought in his mind, he made up his mind to start from scratch and use the little money he had to open a bun shop.
This is how the road comes out step by step.
Later, as everyone can see, he made a small bun shop into a national big brand, with countless chain franchise stores.
And he himself is worth nearly 100 million, and his brilliance is even better than ever.
In an interview, the reporter asked him how he survived at that time, and he only smiled slightly and said:
"I firmly believe that life is not afraid of zeroing, I am afraid that we will give up, it does not matter if we fall, it is a big deal to start again."
03
The third story is about Wu Jing.
In 2017, Wu Jing, who won the title of movie emperor with "Wolf Warrior 2", also has an unknown past.
Fate had dealt him two fatal blows.
Wu Jing was sent by his family to learn martial arts when he was a child, and before the age of 13, he had already won 3 national championships.
However, at the age of 14, he suffered a back spinal injury, coupled with a lack of good recuperation, resulting in paralysis of his lower limbs.
Paralyzed in bed all day, even urinating in bed can only be solved, Wu Jing was suddenly beaten into hell, he was discouraged, and even thought of taking his own life.
From a promising martial arts genius to a paralyzed patient in bed, this was the first heavy blow that fate gave him.
But just when everyone was sorry for him, he spent half a month to complete the rehabilitation training and miraculously recovered.
He stood up from his wheelchair in severe pain, sweating every two steps, but he insisted every day, without interruption.
Even the doctors couldn't believe it.
But his misfortune was not over.
At the age of 18, he was accidentally injured in a game, his heel bone was dislocated, his ligaments were broken, and he was hit with a nail.
After the injury, not only did he face the problem of retirement, but the attitude of the people around him also plummeted.
The diet changed from eight dishes and one soup on weekdays to three dishes and one soup, and the dormitory was replaced by a five-person room.
At his best of times, his dreams were shattered and he was left disabled, which was the second heavy blow that fate brought to him.
But Wu Jing still did not become decadent because of this, opening restaurants, selling watermelons, kebabs... He kept looking for a new way out for himself.
Later, he chose to enter the show business circle to work hard.
In order to shoot, he broke his fingers, sprained his waist, and even almost exploded his right eye.
In the days of obscurity, he gritted his teeth and persevered for more than 20 years, until the emergence of "Wolf Warrior 2", he really survived.
Years later, standing on the stage of "The Lecture Begins", he calmly told the audience:
The most worthy thing to show off in my life is not the so-called achievements, but that I am never afraid to start from scratch.
04
Under the pressure, if it were not for Liu Chuanzhi gritting his teeth and insisting, how could Lenovo Group survive the trough.
At the time of bankruptcy, if Gao Yifeng chose to confess his fate, how could he make a comeback.
Twice seriously injured, if Wu Jing is not strong, how can he create glory again.
Zhang Ailing once said: "In this strange world, no one can live a smooth life." ”
This man who walks in the world, who does not carry tears and is wounded, who has not experienced the darkest moments of life:
Being deceived by partners, betrayed by lovers, failing the college entrance examination, failing to start a business, flying disasters, disasters falling from heaven...
There is no shortage of things in this world, and what turns your world upside down is whether you can hold on to it.
Back to the question at the beginning: how to get out of the predicament when you encounter a low point in your life.
One of the highly praised answers in the comments section is: take a few more steps.
Yes, when life falls to the bottom, as long as you don't give up, wherever you go is progress.
When there is no help and no one to help, you can only slowly survive on your own.
Ren Zhengfei once said: "Falling is not terrible, the terrible thing is that you can no longer stand up." ”
Those who are truly strong are not those who have not been knocked down by fate, but those who can stand up and continue to move forward after being knocked down.
05
In Antifragility, the author uses three myths to draw analogies to three human personalities:
Fragility – The Sword of Damocles:
Psychologically fragile people, seemingly powerful, but always hanging above their heads is a sword that is about to fall, and once they are hit, they will collapse.
Toughness - Phoenix Nirvana:
People with better resilience will not be defeated by setbacks, and every challenge is a test for them to be reborn from the fire, forging them into a new self.
Antifragility – Hydra:
The real strong will not only not be defeated by difficulties, but also can sum up experience from every suffering, so as to constantly improve themselves.
Just like the Hydra, every time it cuts off, two new heads will grow, which is more tenacious than the original life force.
People with antifragility will use the suffering of life as a ladder to climb upwards, and the deeper the suffering, the closer to success.
Wang Xiaobo once said: "Life is a slow process of being hammered. ”
In this world, some people live in tall buildings, some people are in deep ditches, some people are radiant, and some people are covered in rust.
Most people shed three or four layers of skin, but they just climbed from the deep ditch to the foot of the mountain.
Getting through means everything.
Finally, a message to Haruki Murakami:
I may lose, I may lose myself, I may not reach anywhere, I may have lost everything, and no matter how I struggle, I can only cry out in vain.
Maybe I'm just throwing a handful of rubble ashes in vain, and I'm the only one in the dark, or maybe no one here has bet on me.
It doesn't matter, one thing is clear, at least I have something worth waiting for, something worth seeking.
Encourage your friends.
【Today's Interaction】
Faced with the low points of life, how did you get out of the predicament?