Author: Xue Mo Editor: Jia Fangfang
Publisher: Marriage and Family Magazine
id：hunyinyujiating99
I don't know if you remember the will made by fat sister Shen Dianxia 13 years ago?
She said she left behind a 60 million yuan inheritance that she would not be able to use until her daughter Zheng Xinyi was 35 years old.
Now, less than a year before the day of inheriting this huge inheritance.
Not long ago, while attending a concert, Zheng Xinyi was once again asked about her heritage.
Her answer was absolutely stunning:
"This report has come out several times, there are many versions, once in my twenties, once in my thirties, and once again in my thirties, in fact, the outside world is constantly changing my age, I think it doesn't matter."
No matter how old I am, there will be this kind of reporting, and I can only do my job and sing my songs well..."
Just a few words, full of sobriety in the world. Many people have said that the little girl who needed her mother's protection at the beginning "grew up".
Remember in 2008, at her mother's memorial service, the 21-year-old wept bitterly and said:
"I'm going to be angry, I'm going to be good, I'm going to try to be a useful person."
Thirteen years later, on her mother's 13th death day, at the age of 34, she wrote affectionately:
"From childhood to adulthood, you have given me a lot of free space, trusting me that I will be obedient and will spur myself on, teaching me to be a man with a beginning and an end, and to be able to do it when I can... I remember what you taught me, rest assured. ”
She spent 13 years fulfilling her promise to her mother.
However, along the way, she was over-expected, self-abandoned, and angrily scolded by the media, and she finally achieved a perfect counterattack on her own.
After surviving the pain of growth, he transformed into the best version of himself.
01
Born with a golden spoon, fate made a joke
As the daughter of Shen Dianxia and Zheng Shaoqiu, Zheng Xinyi is a proper "Princess of the Hong Kong Circle".
Her mother is a fat sister, a hall-of-fame figure in Hong Kong's showbiz, and her father is known as the "Autumn Official" who is known as the first beautiful man in ancient costumes.
But unfortunately, her parents divorced when she was only 8 months old.
In fact, from the very beginning, the combination of Shen Dianxia and Zheng Shaoqiu was not optimistic. When they fell in love, Fat Sister helped Zheng Shaoqiu a lot. However, after 11 years of long-distance love, their feelings still cracked.
When she first heard about Zheng Shaoqiu's scandal, Fat Sister chose to believe and marry the other party, and she struggled to give birth to a daughter at the age of 42 and suffering from high blood pressure and high blood sugar.
But Rao was so, the husband still chose the scandal object of the year, Guan Jinghua.
Enduring the grief in her heart, dragging her young daughter, the fat sister took the initiative to divorce.
It is reasonable to say that she has enough reasons to resent such an injury, but she has always been open-minded, never said a bad word about her ex-husband in front of her daughter, and never stopped the father-daughter relationship.
Even when her daughter graduated, she invited her to the graduation ceremony. Looking at her daughter's happy look, she said generously: "Thank you really, Ah Qiu." ”
For the sake of her daughter's happiness, the mother can care about everything.
In order to make up for the pain of her daughter in a single-parent family, not cutting off the father's love is on the one hand, and the fat sister is also doing her best to make up for her daughter. However, because she always wants to give her daughter the best, excessive love also leads to her daughter not understanding moderation and is raised into a "little fat sister".
In adolescence, Zheng Xinyi, who weighed more than 200 pounds, could not stand the gossip and cried and said to her mother that she wanted to lose weight. Shen Dianxia also hoped that her daughter would be healthier, so she chose a suitable way to lose weight and spent a year with her to lose 73 pounds.
After the success of weight loss, the daughter who has always liked to sing and dance proposed to enter the circle to develop. Shen Dianxia knew her daughter and knew that she did have the talent in this area, so she used her own connections to personally pave the way for her daughter.
If things go on like this, perhaps a new star in the music world will have already risen.
However, the world is unpredictable, and no one ever thought that a huge disaster awaited them ahead.
02
The loss of a mother, the pain between growing up and giving up
In 2005, Fat Sister was hospitalized due to ill health.
I thought it was a small problem, but it turned out that I had cancer when I checked it out. When the word "malignant" came into her ears, the first thing she thought of was not herself, but her 90-year-old mother and daughter who was less than 20 years old.
She did not shed a tear and actively cooperated with the treatment, all she wanted was to be able to accompany her mother and daughter for longer.
It wasn't until the day the doctor announced she could be discharged from the hospital that she cried out in pain.
She thought she had won the disease, and who knows, in the years that followed, her physical condition was not optimistic.
Knowing that her time was short, she dragged her sick and weak body and played a "big game" for her daughter.
Participate in interview programs and accumulate "audience popularity" for your daughter;
Participate in the parties and concerts of insiders, and ask the "big guys" to take care of their daughters;
In TVB's 40th Taiwan Celebration, he injected two doses of cardiac injections, sat in a wheelchair, and led his daughter to make her official debut;
Finally, in addition to leaving real estate, cars, etc., he made a will, requiring his daughter to be at least 35 years old to inherit her own 60 million yuan inheritance, before that, she could only receive 20,000 yuan of living expenses every month.
You know, the cost of living in Hong Kong is very high, and Zheng Xinyi is used to being extravagant, and the living expenses of 20,000 yuan obviously cannot maintain her former living standards.
However, it is often said that parents love their children and have far-reaching plans for them. Thinking that Fat Sister is so painstaking, she just hopes that her daughter can stand on her own, and at the same time, she is also afraid that her daughter is still young, simple-minded, and deceived.
For the sake of her daughter, she did everything a mother could think of.
And it turns out that Fat Sister's worries are not unfounded.
In 2008, in the midst of regret and reluctance, the fat sister who was regarded as a "pistachio" by countless people passed away. Since then, all she has left behind is the legends of the jianghu and her beloved daughter.
As a result, the eyes of the whole world are focused on Zheng Xinyi's body, and people are waiting to see how the girl who said she would fight at her mother's funeral would fight for her anger.
In this way, before Zheng Xinyi could digest the huge pain of losing her mother, she was surrounded by people to "prove" herself, and her behavior was slightly careless, and she was maliciously amplified.
Look, Fat Sister's daughter is down! Without mom, she was nothing.
The faster you try to run, the more you fall.
Finally, Zheng Xinyi, who was overwhelmed, fell into self-abandonment.
Overeating, selling property, spending money like water, falling in love and talking one after another, and being responsible for the boyfriend's expenses...
Soon, she was beaten back to her original form, changed back to the fat she once was, and lost the endorsement she signed when she was successfully slimmed down, and squandered herself step by step into a "poor egg".
At the most embarrassing time, she was so poor that she could not even afford to drink coffee, and only 26 yuan was left in her account.
Looking at her in such a "non-contentious" situation, the Hong Kong media ridiculed her as a "pig steak girl" and a "loser girl", and the former "Princess of the Hong Kong Circle" became a complete joke.
However, don't forget that when her mother died, she was just a 21-year-old girl.
03
Don't be an "ugly duckling" and learn to be your own goddess
When Zheng Xinyi hides in her own world to heal her wounds, as the "second generation of stars", she will inevitably be discussed.
Unexpectedly, without asking his biological father for help, he could become someone else's after-dinner. Some people concluded that their father and daughter were not in harmony, and some people complained about the fat sister.
However, the truth is not what many people expect.
Zheng Xinyi has publicly stated that she does not ask for help, but feels that she is about to turn 21 and should learn how to take care of herself.
And the relationship between their father and daughter has always been harmonious.
In fact, over the years, Zheng Shaoqiu often accompanied Zheng Xinyi, when her daughter held a concert, no matter how busy she would appear to help, every time Zheng Xinyi could see her father in the crowd.
Every now and then, she would be very happy and sing more vigorously.
Perhaps, Zheng Shaoqiu is not a responsible husband, but he is still a competent father.
Therefore, although she grew up in a single-parent family, walked through detours, and was injured in love, Zheng Xinyi has enjoyed her mother's unconditional love and experienced her father's concern.
Fortunately, Zheng Xinyi, who has always had love in her heart, waited until the time to heal everything, followed the light, and climbed out of the mud by herself.
After experiencing the years of "soldiers and horses", Zheng Xinyi finally thought bitterly:
The mother who loved her the most really left, but her love never went far.
She has to listen to her mother, not to be lazy, to work, to support herself.
She wants to be a useful person and reassures moms in heaven.
And the love of the fat sister has indeed never left, and she has woven a "human love network" for her daughter before she died. At the critical moment, all her kindness turned into a boost for her daughter's growth.
In those years, filming the drama of her mother's old owner TVB, and practicing singing under the guidance of famous teachers, Zheng Xinyi gradually found her direction and ran farther and farther on the road of singing and acting that she liked.
And as she earned more and more money, she also learned to "live a life.".
No longer pursuing material, precipitating herself, and washing away the lead, she finally had an epiphany, money cannot make up for the emptiness, only dreams can light up the black hole in her heart.
And she immersed herself in making music, and soon burst out of brilliance.
From 2011 to 2016, she won many awards for songs such as "Half Caring", "Small", "Supporting Role", "Embracing Love", "Goddess" and so on.
Remember her singing in "Goddess" that was all over the streets:
Don't look down, the aura will fall,
You are a goddess, don't converge on the color of the vulgar eye.
Somehow, looking at the fat her, singing confidently, many people can't help but wet their eyes.
In the past few years, like many girls, Zheng Xinyi is either losing weight or walking on the road of weight loss, so that the Hong Kong media often publishes such news:
Zheng Xinyi is fat, Zheng Xinyi is thin, Zheng Xinyi is fat again...
Now, she no longer provides jokes to others, and she truly accepts herself.
She felt from the bottom of her heart that it was good to be healthy and happy. And that's the power she got from her mother. How about being fat, as long as you work hard, it will not prevent the audience from loving themselves.
Yes, Zheng Xinyi, who successfully counterattacked, is no longer the "ugly duckling" who was ridiculed.
Refuse to be anxious about body, anxious about appearance, and be brave enough to be your own person, the most beautiful.
04
Life has gone through ups and downs several times, but it is still born to the sun.
Sooner or later, one day, the suffering of the past will become a medal.
In 2016, with "Goddess", Zheng Xinyi won two ultimate awards at the Hong Kong Grand Music Awards Ceremony, "My Favorite Female Singer Award" and "My Favorite Song Award". Later, it also won the 2016 Cantonese Top Ten Golden Melody Award.
Allegedly, she wore her mother's glasses and invited her mother to "witness" her award with her own eyes, and she cried bitterly and said:
"I can finally be worthy of you!"
Looking back on these years, the focus of the outside world around Zheng Xinyi is always inevitable weight and heritage.
This is the narrowness of many people's thinking, but it has also invisibly turned into a girl's heaviest shackles.
However, Zheng Xinyi, who reconciled with himself, reconciled with fate, walked out of the mud, climbed to the peak, was not afraid of the voices of the outside world, and bravely lived out his own Zheng Xinyi, can finally say frankly now:
With or without the 60 million, she can live well on her own.
The greatest inheritance she inherited from her mother was not the house, not money, but open-mindedness, optimism, and acceptance.
Let go of the past self, the future, is always worth looking forward to.
Resources:
Shen Dianxia and Zheng Xinyi interview video
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