I recently looked at a very interesting internet term called "middle-aged waste switch".
It just so happened that I recently received some netizens' requests for help and consultation, and their conditions are basically "too comfortable" physically, "suffering" mentally, and the whole person's state is to turn on the "waste switch".
So I also want to talk about how to avoid or trigger this very figurative "middle-aged waste switch" later.
Whether a person is abolished or not depends mainly on his internal drive. Internal motivation is a kind of internal motivation, and children with internal motivation will have a strong interest in learning and desire to explore, and they do not need adult supervision and control in their studies. And adults with internal drive will definitely not "lie down" at home and lose their love for life, but on the way to continuous growth and improvement. It is an inner spiritual force, and a person who lacks this inner motivation lives physiologically and dies spiritually.
How can the "waste switch" be avoided or delayed?
My own experience is that first of all, you have to "suffer" physically.
I'm a bit busy during this time, driving more time and not getting on the treadmill for a week. I got up early today, worked in the gym for 50 minutes, and got on the treadmill to complete a 2km jog.
Why am I in such a hurry to resume jogging? Because I was driving for two hours on Saturday, when I got out of the car, my legs were a little weak and I couldn't walk so steadily.
It shows that this person must not maintain a posture for a long time, otherwise it is easy to scrap quickly.
I used to run in the park, but now I only do it on the treadmill and run it at two kilometres. Running is the engine of physical vitality, if you don't practice running, after the age of 45, you can't run, several people of nearly 50 years around me can't run, one is the weight problem, too fat, and the other is because of muscle loss. Running too much hurts your knees, especially when running outdoors. The treadmill can cushion the pressure on the knee during running to avoid injury, after all, many roads are uneven, and if you fall and break your foot, you may not be able to run again. Therefore, it is best for middle-aged people to run on a treadmill, and they can also monitor the running distance and calorie consumption.
To avoid triggering the "waste switch", it is important to control your weight and not let yourself gain weight, and it is really important to keep exercising. Middle-aged people have no capital to "enjoy" their bodies at all, and they can only support themselves by constantly sweating in the gym and begging for hardships.
A fat destroys everything, old and fat, and truth, goodness and beauty seem to be very close, and "greasy" and "waste wood" seem to be quite close, and people are basically abolished.
What I saw in the gym was full of strong pecs and abs, and I rarely saw fat people. The last time I saw a fat man come in, I thought it was quite rare, sure enough, he turned around and went into the sauna to lie down, too fat, too hard to move, how comfortable it is to lie down!
Secondly, let me talk about spiritual "enjoyment". Spiritual "enjoyment" is divided into two levels, one is spiritual "relaxation", which is what we often call "powerlessness". Don't be too sensitive and care too much about other people's attitudes and evaluations of you. No matter how good a person is, there will always be someone who doesn't like you. No matter how perfect a partner is, it is impossible to match your heart everywhere. If you pin your joys, sorrows, and sorrows on other people's words and deeds, you will not be able to achieve spiritual relaxation for the rest of your life.
Some netizens asked me how to crack my partner's "cold violence". Some bloggers are teaching "He's cold, you have to be colder than him". I don't think so.
Being colder than anyone else is an act of active confrontation. The most effective way to make the other party's cold violence ineffective is to be mentally weak and not confrontational, but to default to "the relationship is normal".
The last time I went to France, Lao Ai and I had a little problem, and he began to be cold and violent. Taurus is the best at cold violence, and he is the first in the world. I saw that he was silent and ignored me, and it was late, so I took care of my skin and went to sleep.
The next morning, I got up and washed first, and when he woke up, I took the initiative to say hello and say good morning. He scribbled a perfunctory sentence, and it could be seen that he was still cold, and his breath had not subsided.
I saw that he started checking his phone, so I sent him an email: "Honey, shall we go to this castle today?" "Put the link to the castle I want to go to below.
He was looking at his phone at the time, and when he saw my email, he suddenly sneered and laughed, but still didn't speak. Then my phone rang again, I picked it up and looked at it, and he came back with "ok".
The ice just broke and I got the results I wanted and went where I wanted to go.
This is not enough, the atmosphere is still not harmonious enough! I started saying again, "My back hurts!" Urgent need for a massage, otherwise I can't go. I handed him the massage oil, and he took it and helped me massage it, and of course I had to say, "Thank you, thanks to your help!" The ice that floated on the surface of the water melted. Then we had a great day.
Great view of the French castle
A woman's most powerful wrist is either strong, not colder than anyone, or two words "gentle". If you quarrel, calm down first, when nothing happens, a woman turns a blind eye to a man's indifference, and continues to live a normal life, say it when it is time to speak, be gentle, ask him for help and mention it, take the initiative to say when it is time to use a man, and say thank you when you are done.
Men are a steel plate, don't clash with them head-on. In the last online video, the woman in it chased her husband and beat him at first because of dissatisfaction, but her husband put down the child and called him back. Who do you say won the battle? Such a woman can only say that she is stupid and naïve. Obviously, something that can be done with a few words and a glass of water, she has to escalate to domestic violence. The best way for a woman to be angry is to let the man work, hang a carrot in front of him, instead of corporal punishment and vicious abuse, otherwise he will wait for the strong opponent to turn his fist. Don't set yourself on fire, remember!!
Only by living like water can a woman avoid being mentally harmed. Women's gentleness is not weakness, but a manifestation of inner strength. I just don't rush or get angry, I don't enter the "minefield" buried by men, you are cold to me, I don't care, I still talk to you as always, ask you for help, your cold war does not affect my normal life! It didn't affect me to see the beautiful scenery of the castle, and the driver was him. Who is smarter? Who benefits more?
In addition to being mentally "weak", managing emotions properly, not being led by others, but also rubbing up to a level, that is, "pleasing yourself". Knowing how to please yourself and make yourself happy, that is Wang Bang. The man went to the cold war, Ben Niangniang went to the sauna, enjoyed the food, did the hair, and went home in a happy mood. At this time, the man found out that he snubbed you, you are not so miserable, the Cold War is invalid, he will not use this trick to punish you next time, because it is useless! Moreover, you are happy yourself, it is contagious, a happy hostess, in order to have a happy house, a happy family atmosphere.
There are many women, when they encounter conflicts and contradictions, they lose their faces all day long, speak with thorns, ignore answers, and live very sadly, which is to automatically turn on the "waste switch". Whether it is the Cold War or self-attack, the final result is to live a bad life and turn yourself into a "dead fish's eye".
See how to do it? Let me know in the comment section that practice and feedback are welcome.
Therefore, a "king of the Cold War" like Lao Ai, who has a stubborn personality, as long as I talk to him normally, as long as I don't turn my face, he can't do anything about me. In the "Cold War", it was definitely women who were hurt the most, and men were far less injured than women. Why? Because men secrete more serotonin, it is easy to alleviate negative emotions. If you don't believe it, after a quarrel, whoever falls asleep and snores first will do less damage.
Women don't hurt themselves, this is the key not to be scrapped!
I live and manage relationships according to the above principles:
Physically, "endure hardships", avoid gaining weight, avoid grandma's buttocks, exercise more, and insist on fitness.
Mentally, I will never participate in the Cold War, I will not be able to do anything, I will develop more projects to make myself happy, please myself, let myself be happy first, and then face any relationship, and I will not hurt myself and others.
To be a gentle and powerful person, who knows how to use his own advantages to make skill, he really needs self-cultivation, which is a road full of thorns and flowers. As long as we are on the road, rest assured, we can't waste it, because smart people are sunny and good weather everywhere.