Chapter01
To be honest, when I first read this article, as a woman, I was a little confused. I can't help but wonder how greedy and irresponsible people can say such things.
It should be understood that both men and women agree with the concept that "feelings without material support are easy to disperse".
Men often complain that women's expectations of love are too realistic to be met. But in reality, men's need for love is far more realistic than women expect.
From a man's point of view, a woman's love for herself needs to be shown through practical actions, not just in the depths of her heart.
Chapter02
If a woman truly loves herself, she must not only chase the perfect love fantasy, but also adapt to the needs of real life.
My colleague Xiaohui is a fat man, but his flexibility is amazing. He has a kind personality and is loved by everyone. In addition, he has a girlfriend who loves him deeply and is affectionate.
By chance, when we met his girlfriend with a good figure and good looks, we were all curious about how he captured her heart.
When Xiaohui showed a photo of him when he was young, it dawned on us. It is undeniable that Xiaohui at that time was a man who could easily survive with his appearance.
Still, as a woman, I don't like Xiaohui's unbridled behavior towards his girlfriend.
Although the two are not officially married, his girlfriend has become his life partner, preparing three meals a day and helping him do his laundry. It can be seen that she is a responsible nanny for life.
Chapter03
When we jokingly asked Xiaohui how much dowry he planned to give his girlfriend, Xiaohui's answer surprised us. He said that not only did their family not need to take a bride price, but his girlfriend's father would also prepare a Mercedes-Benz for him as a dowry. This can't help but make us sigh: in this world, love can be so beautiful.
Hearing such an answer, my female colleagues and I were skeptical. We thought to ourselves, how can there be such a simple parent? If you marry your daughter, you have to send a luxury car, is this really not afraid that your daughter will be bullied after marriage? After all, marriage is a lifelong thing, and you can't just think about the glory and face in front of you, but also think about the happiness after marriage.
Xiaohui thinks this is perfectly normal. He thinks this is what his girlfriend's family should do.
Even though I don't know what his girlfriend thinks, as a woman, I can't support it.
It must be admitted that Xiaohui's girlfriend's parents like him very much.
Xiaohui wanted to smoke, and his girlfriend's father gave Xiaohui all the high-quality cigarettes given by his friends, and even took the initiative to fill up the gas needed for Xiaohui to go to work. This kind of hospitality made Xiaohui feel extremely warm and touched.
To be honest, being able to meet such a competent father-in-law is a rare blessing in a man's life. However, Xiaohui did not regard this incident as an advantage of his girlfriend's family, but suspected that it was favored because of his ability and integrity.
Chapter04
Xiaohui believes that if their daughter marries him, they will need him to take care of them in the future when they are old until they die. This is his commitment and responsibility for family affection.
Every time I hear Xiaohui say this, I always feel very angry. He seems to think that his girlfriend and her family should give him money. This is a counterintuitive idea.
Even if his girlfriend occasionally loses her temper, he will not take the initiative to coax her, preferring to wait for her to take the initiative to contact him herself. This is his usual style, even when it comes to feelings.
To put it mildly, there are thousands of men in the world, and there is no woman who hangs herself from a tree.
Whenever we try to deny Xiaohui's emotional outlook, he always says that we are too realistic. But in reality, the love he pursues is more pragmatic than ours.
Feelings are like a scale, and only when both parties reach a balance can they continue to move on with peace of mind.
Chapter05
If you are just blindly greedy, then even if you have a deep love, it will gradually fade or even disappear.
As Xiaohui believes, his girlfriend must constantly meet his needs in order to express his love.
Women bear too much pressure and dedication in their appearance, body, life, and even marriage. This phenomenon needs more attention and improvement.
I believe that as long as women have their own outlook on life and judgment, they will not pin their future on such men.
It happened that I learned the news of Xiaohui's breakup with his girlfriend last week. And this breakup was proposed by the woman.
This incident has always made Xiaohui feel frustrated, and he doesn't understand why his girlfriend broke up. It also made him feel uneasy about the relationship all the time.
Chapter06
You must know that there is no such thing as a relationship that only accepts and does not give, and when you are asking a woman to be unrealistic, you yourself are not qualified to be realistic.
It must be admitted that in reality, men often complain that women have various requirements in their relationships. But in reality, are these requirements only for women to benefit from? This is a question worth pondering.
Whether it's a car, a house, or an asset, it's all the embodiment of the stable life that women want after marriage.
As the saying goes, "poor couples mourn everything".
Men often accuse women of pursuing practical interests without noticing that they have the same tendency.
The requirements for women are not only to be highly qualified and do housework well, but also to be able to switch between work, family and life freely.
We all received nine years of compulsory education, and we all grew up under the care of our parents. However, why can men only accept the reality and not let women think more about the future? This is a confusing phenomenon. After all, women have the right to think, plan, and pursue their dreams. We should break this sexist discrimination so that everyone can move forward on the road ahead and achieve their dreams.
Chapter07
The next time a man says female reality, put away your love of reality first. In addition, in order to achieve true happiness, both men and women need to be more sincere and work harder.
Only in this way can love compete with life and continue happily for a long time.