In interpersonal interactions, there are certain boundaries. As long as you get along within this boundary, people are acting reasonably. However, once the boundary is touched, it can bring a lot of trouble. We need to be mindful of the boundaries and avoid crossing them.
In reality, there is no clear boundary between men and women. Love may be incorporated into friendship, and there may also be an element of friendship in love. There is no certain pattern to these relationships, so we need to be more understanding and tolerant in order to maintain a good relationship with each other.
Because of this, sometimes people fall in love with a friend, and sometimes lovers end up becoming friends.
In other words, the boundary between men and women often starts with friends, and the ideal love also tends to be in the realm of friendship. This passage is rephrased in concise, more relaxed, formal language.
This kind of friend is irreplaceable, as precious as Audrey Hepburn's relationship with Givenchy.
How can you tell if a relationship between a man and a woman is out of bounds? Remember, these habits are manifestations that go beyond normal relationships.
NO.1 Physical contact
It is said that the distance between two people's hearts is 13 centimeters. In my opinion, physical touch is more touching than words when it comes to communication between people of the opposite sex.
Body language, while silent, conveys a sense of intimacy better than verbal expression.
If the two people are used to physical contact and do not feel uncomfortable or disgusted, it is a sign that both parties find the relationship comfortable and pleasant.
When friends of the opposite sex can go this far, it means that they have recognized the possibility of further their relationship with each other.
Because it is only when people feel comfortable that they will agree to touch themselves of the opposite sex. This kind of intimacy is more intimate than between friends and requires the tacit consent of both parties.
When you have frequent contact with the opposite sex, although you may not have the intention of being in love, this behavior has gone beyond the boundaries of ordinary friends. We should be more cautious about dealing with physical contact, especially when it comes to contact with the opposite sex.
NO.2 Resonance on the soul
When men and women can't help but cross the line, in addition to the attraction of appearance, the resonance of the soul is more important. It's not just an emotional connection, it's also a spiritual exchange. We should pay more attention to the similarity of hearts so that we can build deeper relationships.
Everyone longs to have a "soul mate", not only because of love, but also because of the need for spiritual support and dependence. Whether it is at the peak or the trough of life, such a partner will always be by your side.
This relationship will not be a bondage because of love, but will make each other a salvation. In each other's company, we are constantly reconciled with ourselves.
We often have friends of the opposite sex around us, but why is there always one person who stands out and becomes the person we hold very dear, so that we can't help but get closer to him/her? This is a thought-provoking question.
Indeed, the transgression of the relationship between a man and a woman is driven by the heart. However, what you care about is not as simple as love at first sight.
Although a beautiful appearance will affect people's choices, it cannot weaken the emotional connection and sense of belonging in the heart.
Men and women who turn into lovers between friends often need to spend a lot of time together, acting as partners with each other, talking freely and chatting without distractions.
In this process, we gradually identified with each other, and our hearts became closer to each other unconsciously. The feeling is light-hearted and at the same time more formal and polite.
NO.3 Synchronization in life
The implication is that mutual salvation between men and women only exists in the romantic love of fairy tales, and does not necessarily apply to the trivial matters and stresses of real life.
If we can gradually get used to the rhythm of each other's lives, it only takes a while for irregularities in relationships to be diluted by emotions.
After all, the order of parents and the words of matchmaking were the mainstream way of marriage in the past.
Even so, they can still spend the rest of their lives together hand in hand in the long years because of the tacit understanding of life.
Similar life experiences can also make people feel intimate. People will naturally gather together, because things gather like and people gather in groups. After all, humans are social animals, and they feel comfortable and natural to interact with people who are similar to themselves.
NO.4 Help each other at work
I've always believed that the value of a stable relationship should not be underestimated. Especially in the workplace, many men and women fall in love because of their work.
Today's migrant workers are busy between work and family day in and day out, and rarely have time for other social activities other than going to work. This lifestyle has become the norm in everyday life.
At work, when you are in contact with the opposite sex for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be some people who will impress you, and even develop dependence or protection. This feeling is normal, but we also need to be careful to maintain a professional and personal balance and not let this emotion affect our work.
When a person has a desire, there is a desire, and it will push you to take action.
You've come up with a way to approach each other with softness. You show your tenderness and make the other person accept your assistance. Gradually, you became a tacit partner, and everything you did worked together perfectly.
Over time, you gradually get used to this way of getting along and start to expect further progress in the relationship. Eventually, you went from being friends to lovers all at once.
It can be seen that the cross-border behavior between men and women is often due to the influence of the factor of "habit".
Everyone has inertia, and feelings are no exception. When you decide to end a friendship with someone, it must be because the other person has given you a sense of comfort and ease in some way. It's a natural instinct, and even if the other person has shortcomings, if they can make you feel comfortable and relaxed, you won't give up the feeling easily. However, we should also be aware that friendship requires effort and dedication from both parties, not just the comfort of one party.
Whether it is physical, mental, life, or professional dependence, it is all based on the trust between you. Over time, this trust gradually became a habit. Whenever and wherever you believe in each other, this affection nourishes each other and becomes more profound.
You begin to want to be more intimate with the other person in order to rely on this trust forever. This is the fundamental reason why the relationship between men and women crosses the line.