In the workplace, many people feel that the leader praises himself in person, which is equivalent to promoting himself from the heart, which is a sincere affirmation. But as everyone knows, many times the leader is a "honey-bellied sword", praising you in front of you, but behind the scenes, he is deliberately manipulating you.
For example, the leader praises you to your face, what ability is outstanding, and the future is immeasurable. But in private, he abuses you everywhere, buttons your hat indiscriminately, and infinitely magnifies your little mistakes at every turn. This is a typical "one set on stage, one set off stage", praising you on the surface, stepping on you behind your back, and not taking you seriously at all. To deal with such a hypocrite leader, we must be smart, not only to avoid offending him, but also not to be stupid and sincere. Otherwise, in the end, it will be you who will be hurt.
There is also a situation where the leader holds you up to the sky and praises you. But when it came to the critical moment of promotion competition and evaluation, he was silent, wisely protected himself, and even stumbled behind his back. Although this kind of leader has done enough work on the surface, he actually has a ghost in his heart, and he is nothing more than using you to coax you to work hard for him. To deal with such a leader, we don't need to be polite, people play with yang and yin against that set, let's use the way of others to govern their bodies, what to do, there is no need to be sincere.
If your leader praises you for your ability and business skills, and seems to value you very much, then you should be careful. Maybe people are moving to let you be a free laborer, obviously you have done so much work in vain, but the key resources have not been tilted, and important opportunities have not been fished, and in the end it is still empty, which is really thankless. For this kind of leadership, don't be stupidly grateful to Dade, think that people really appreciate you, maybe they just want you to be a capable person who works hard.
To determine whether your leader genuinely treats you as one of his own, you have to keep your eyes open to see how he reacts when you make a mistake. Leaders who really value you and value you will definitely support you when you make mistakes and accidents, and do their best to help you minimize losses and impacts. And those who talk about it all day long, once you get into trouble and get into trouble, they may draw a line with you at the first time, avoid it, or even fall into the well there, taking the opportunity to step on you. At this time, you will have insight into the true face of the leader, and you will know your sincerity at a glance.
There are also some leaders who like to recruit you into their own small circle and take you to various important occasions and gatherings, which seem to favor you and attach special importance to cultivating you. But don't be easily blinded by these superficial phenomena, maybe people just think that you can come in handy and can be used as a useful pawn. The key depends on whether he is willing to give you tangible benefits and resources, such as promotions, salary increases, training, etc., just asking you to participate in a meeting and show your face, it is all false, and it can't be counted.
All in all, in this intriguing workplace, the words and deeds of leaders to subordinates are often very deep, and you have to keep your eyes open and distinguish the difference between hypocrisy and sincerity. No one wants to be used as a gunman, and in the end, they have to carry the black pot and be the wrongdoer. Only by being a transparent workplace person, seeing people's hearts clearly, and not doing useless work, can we be invincible in this complex environment of human feelings.
We must see the essence through the words and deeds of the leader, look at the hearts of the people, and not be confused by superficial phenomena, so as to avoid being deceived in the complex workplace jungle. Instead of pinning all your hopes on others, it is better to strive to improve your own strength and value, so that the leader can not do without you, value you, and establish your own unique advantages, which is the foundation of gaining a foothold in this world.
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