1. The pain of parents and the unreasonable accusations of netizens
Nearly seven years after his death, Qiao Renliang's parents have been in great trauma and despair. As an ordinary Shanghai family, they never expected that their only pride, Qiao Renliang, would choose to end his life at the age of 29.
"Our child is so kind and sunny, he has been very well-behaved and sensible since he was a child, how did he get to where he is today?" Qiao Renliang's mother frowned, her eyes filled with tears.
Every time she thinks back to the day when the bad news came, her heart feels like it has been hollowed out alive, and the pain is unbearable.
Yes, just as the grief-stricken parents were trying to shake off the gloom, some netizens with ulterior motives launched another fierce attack. Their personal attacks and verbal insults against this "poor family who lost their son" are simply disregard for human life and are too much to write.
This cyberbullying incident undoubtedly poured a bucket of salt water on the wounds of Qiao Renliang's parents.
2. Qiao Renliang's pain and self-abandonment during his lifetime
On September 16, 2016, Qiao Renliang chose to end his life at the age of 29. What is embarrassing is that just the day before, he was still with his parents, and the family of three had a happy birthday.
No one expected that when night fell the next day, Qiao Renliang would leave this world.
Looking back at the trajectory of Qiao Renliang's life in the last few years, the pain in his heart can be seen. Major depression kept him awake at night, and he was always tossing and turning alone in the dark.
The crew also complained many times that he was nervous and emotionally out of control during filming.
A director who has worked with Qiao Renliang bluntly accused him in an interview of not taking his work seriously and professionally. Director Che Jingxing's original words were: "Qiao Renliang is really not a thing, it's really unbearable, I want to ban him."
In the face of the reprimand of the division commander, Qiao Renliang sincerely apologized, hoping to be forgiven and forgiven. But there were unforeseen circumstances, a violent wind came, and a "cyber violence" that almost completely crushed him struck.
"If you want a character without character, if you want a drama without a play, you haven't learned the real skills, but the bad ones are all over the place!" Netizens' personal attacks on Qiao Renliang are simply pervasive.
Looking at the dense negative abusive remarks, his depression worsened, and despair and abandonment of life began to slowly breed in his heart.
Perhaps it was at that time that a self-ending idea began to be conceived in Qiao Renliang's mind...... He had tried his sunny and cheerful self against the darkness, but with little success.
Life had become so heavy, dark and hopeless for him.
3. From entering the entertainment industry by chance to starting his career
On October 15, 1987, Qiao Renliang was born in an ordinary family in Shanghai. His father was a diligent seafarer, and his mother was a gentle and virtuous housewife.
As the only child that his parents have been looking forward to day and night, Qiao Renliang has been loved by thousands of people since he was a child.
However, what people didn't expect was that Qiao Renliang was not as pampered and willful as most only children, on the contrary, he was very sensible and well-behaved since he was a child.
I remember that when he was a child, he liked to wear sportswear neatly and show a sunny smile, which was simply a portrayal of a "sunshine boy".
When he was in junior high school, Qiao Renliang, who was very tall, was selected as a national outstanding high jumper. As long as he has been working hard in the sports world, he may be able to become an athlete who will win glory for the country in the future.
However, the coincidence and accident of fate made Qiao Renliang's life trajectory take a 180-degree turn. In 2005, at the suggestion of a friend, Qiao Renliang signed up for a talent show, and unexpectedly, he won the championship in one fell swoop with his sunny appearance and personality.
This may be the beginning of Qiao Renliang's entry into the entertainment industry. In the next two years, he won excellent results in many talent shows one after another, and finally signed a contract with the well-known brokerage company Orange Sky Entertainment Group and officially debuted as a singer.
In September 2007, Qiao Renliang released his first album, and then held signing sessions in various places, and album sales also increased. It seems that his career as a singer has a bright future.
But soon Qiao Renliang found that the track of singers was too crowded, and it was not easy to get ahead in it.
So after communicating with other artists who debuted in the same period, Qiao Renliang made a major decision - to switch to the film and television industry. In 2009, at the age of 22, he starred in his first film, Nightclub, which was presented at international film festivals in Japan and Shanghai.
Although he is only a small supporting role in the film, he has already paved the way for his future transformation.
Fourth, the deep friendship with friends and the breeding of the root of the disease
Soon after Qiao Renliang moved to the film and television industry, he met a close friend--- Chen Qiaoen. The two have collaborated on many works together, from close friends who talk about everything, to "family members" who can share the same bed, the depth of friendship can be seen.
In 2011, Qiao Renliang and Chen Qiaoen co-starred in the costume mythological drama "Spring Splendid Pig Nine Sisters". It was in this crew that the two met late and hit it off.
Later, they merged in the crew of "Splendid Adventure", and cultivated a deep friendship in and out of the play.
Recalling all kinds of interesting things with Chen Qiaoen, Qiao Renliang will always smile from the bottom of his heart. With his friends as his company, his life has added a lot of joy and joy.
However, just as this precious friendship was continuing to ferment, a "root cause" of Qiao Renliang was gradually growing. In 2012, Qiao Renliang took over a movie called "No Such Person", in which he played a character with a distorted psychology and an extremely abnormal personality.
In order to perfectly interpret this character, who is far from his own nature, Qiao Renliang used a perverted "experience trick" - he would be alone in the mirror in the dead of night, slapping himself in the mouth a few times, trying to awaken the "twisted" and "perverted" side of his heart through this "self-abuse" way.
The director at that time may have inadvertently made a joke: "If it really doesn't work, you can slap yourself a few times in the middle of the night, and maybe you can find the feeling." But no one expected that Qiao Renliang really took it seriously, and gradually got lost in this crazy trick.
5. Suffering from cyberbullying and aggravating depression
This seemingly unintentional joke provoked a sudden and indiscriminate bombardment of the Internet. Li Yifeng's fans spit on the stars, personally attacked Qiao Renliang and verbally abused, and words such as "sour" and "misgiving" were overwhelming in his private messages and comment areas.
This is just the beginning of Qiao Renliang's cyberbullying. More terrible is yet to come. The Tianjin explosion in 2015 shocked and saddened Qiao Renliang, and he posted on Weibo to pay tribute to the firefighters who unfortunately died.
But unexpectedly, because of the inappropriate use of words, it once again attracted an intensive frenzy of online violence.
In the face of these sludge-like words, Qiao Renliang's emotions became more and more out of control. He began to have frequent abnormalities at work, and problems such as tardiness and emotional tension emerged in an endless stream, and he was publicly criticized by many crew members and directors, and some people even directly proposed to "ban" him.
In this way, the torrential rain of public opinion fell, and Qiao Renliang's depression worsened to the extreme. His once sunny smile had long since lost its luster in this dark quagmire.
6. Call for paying attention to mental health and staying away from cyberviolence
Throughout Qiao Renliang's life, we see a "freak" born in contemporary society: he should have received the love and warmth of the world, but in the end he was swallowed up by alienation and hurt; He once had a bright side, but he couldn't help but be swallowed up by the darkness.
We should learn from Qiao Renliang's experience: pay attention to mental health issues and create a civilized and inclusive online environment. Don't just stop at sympathy and pity, but give genuine love and empathy to others.
At the same time, each of us needs to reflect on what we say and do in the online world. We should not be a "keyboard warrior" who hurts others, but use friendly, tolerant, and positive language to warm the world, and embrace everyone's differences with understanding and tolerance.
Only by abandoning antagonism and confrontation and resolving the estrangement can we truly become a warm force for each other. Let us all work together to build a pure land for the wounded people, and to envelop them with love and kindness, so that no life will wither away.