Enduring relationships aren't just about simply living together, nor are they stuck in the good memories of the past.
Sometimes, we spend a long time with someone else, maybe in the same house, but we get along worse and worse. On the contrary, sometimes even if we are separated, our relationship is still thick and sweet.
Why is there such a big gap? Because the process of two people getting along is very important, not just the name of love.
Women tend to be insecure when facing relationships, which leads them to engage in some man-pleasing behaviors and want to maintain the relationship with a well-behaved and sensible attitude. This mindset is common, but it also illustrates the need for women to feel more secure and trusting. In order to build a healthy relationship, women need to learn to be more honest and confident, believing in their own worth and strengths, rather than pandering to men.
However, this method of pleasing men generally only has a short-term effect. Once the novelty wears off or a man becomes a habit, the result of pleasing is usually in vain.
Never try to keep a man's heart in a flattering way. If you want a man to continue to love you, pleasing is only the best policy, and attracting is the best policy. Keep this in mind in order to better grasp your feelings.
1. Always maintain an attraction to him
Perhaps, for most women, catching a man's eye in appearance is seen as a vulgar act.
In real life, those women who are very happy in love, no matter how long they have been in a relationship with their partner, they will always pay attention to their dress and appearance to show the best side to each other. This is because they understand that physical appearance is essential to maintaining a healthy and satisfying relationship.
You need to understand that casual freedom and attractiveness are different concepts and have different implications.
If you are unkempt and disregard for the image of a man every day, gradually he may be reluctant to go out with you. Maintaining a good image is an important part of working with a man, which can make your relationship more stable.
Maybe he won't say it explicitly, but he may also be a little dissatisfied with you in his heart.
We should not lose sight of the importance of appearance. As long as you are with each other, you must always show your best side to show your charm. This is the etiquette and quality that the average person should pay attention to.
We must always remember that men are mostly visual creatures. Keep your other half in beautiful shape every day, and go out together to make him feel honored and satisfied. This is an effective way to make men feel confident and happy.
Men will be more willing to pay attention to you and take you anywhere.
2. Maintain attractiveness in character and don't pander to it all the time
When two people are getting along, if a woman has real feelings, she will do her best to maintain the relationship. In the process, she may even give up on herself and be led by the nose by men. This is widespread, but not everyone encounters it. Women need to find a balance in their relationships, maintain their ego and independence, and not lose themselves for the sake of men.
Do you really think that you can win his heart and gain his favor for the rest of your life just by being well-behaved? Let's think hard.
Wrong! When a man is accustomed to a woman's flattery, he will look up to himself and feel that the affection given to a woman is his own charity, and he will not treat women equally. But in fact, love needs to be treated as equals, not charity and dependence. Women should have their own independent thinking and action, and should not deliberately accommodate the needs of men. Only equality and respect can build healthy relationships.
If you want to have a lasting relationship, you need to maintain your unique personality and not lose yourself.
Maybe you are very different from the person you like, but don't be discouraged and keep being yourself.
It should be understood that the person of true love will not abandon you because you do not meet his standards.
For men, what they desire is a passionate relationship. If you always choose to compromise, they will find it boring and lose interest.
We should learn to have our own ideas and not easily agree to men's requests. Proper rebellion is good, and we need to protect our own rights and interests.
You are unique and should not be manipulated by anyone, like a kite. Appropriate uncertainty can make a man always fascinated by you and dare not relax in the slightest.
3. Attract the other party to take the initiative to pay attention to you and focus on you
Why is it often said that women who like to be coquettish are easy to win the hearts of men? Because they are too sensible in love, men will subconsciously feel that they don't need to care too much. So, occasional coquettishness can make a man feel your needs and desires, and thus cherish you more. This does not mean that you have to be petty all the time, but that you have to show softness and warmth at the right time.
Even if he offends you one day, he will still think that as long as he hands you a piece of candy, you will immediately become happy, and he will even deliberately avoid doing too many things so as not to upset you.
If you crave a long-lasting happy relationship, rather than a brief chance encounter, then you need to learn to show your gentle and coquettish side. Coquettishness and contrivedness are necessary skills that can strengthen your attractiveness and allow you to create a deeper emotional connection with your partner.
A woman's instinct is to be coquettish, and the most irresistible thing for a man is the softness and shyness that a woman exudes. God has endowed women with this attribute, making them even more attractive.
When you spend time with him, you can take the initiative to share your life and feelings and don't have to bear everything alone. Guide him to pay attention to you, let him know your needs and expectations, and grow with him. This is a lighthearted, formal, and friendly suggestion that I hope you find helpful.
Let your men help you solve life's little troubles together, and show your cute, loved-worthy side. It makes him feel useful and important.
If you need someone a lot, he or she will enhance your presence and consider your emotions when doing things. This will help to build a good relationship.
Remember, don't worry about causing trouble for men, because being too polite in love can often ruin the relationship. You can take the initiative to attract his attention and make him focus on you, which will make the man more and more obsessed with you.
Conclusion:
Love is not something that gets much in return, and if you want a man to love you consistently and deeply, don't try to please him.
Because any love that comes from humble begging can't last, and it may even be just a self-performance on your own.
In the process of getting along with men, you need to show your charm. You have to attract his attention not only by his appearance, but also by his charisma. Constantly improve your inner charm and make him feel your confidence and unique charm, so that you can better attract him. When communicating with him, show your intelligence and sense of humor to make him feel happy with you.
There are some clever ways you can use to get his attention and focus it on you. In this way, the man will be convinced and attentive to you.
Love is a game at all times. Only by treating it the right way can you be a winner. Ximei hopes that everyone can understand this.