撰文 / 木木
Editor / Bang Bang
Recently, I saw a research group and some videos of students surveying students in major universities.
The investigators will randomly interview some college students on the way to the university, and the content of the survey is not limited.
Some are aware of the family situation of these students; Some understand the current direction and situation of students' learning; Some of them use quick questions and answers to understand the overall situation of students.
The research team interviewed about a few hundred students, and most of them came from ordinary families, and some even from rural and remote areas.
The college students surveyed have a common denominator: although they come from ordinary backgrounds, even humble backgrounds, and had a hard time in their teenage years, most of them are now strong-willed, goal-oriented, and rich in their hearts.
It is not difficult to see from their conversation that these people are likely to become leaders in some fields in the future.
If we look closely around us, we will find similar examples
Such people often don't have much success when they grow up, and some even struggle every step.
And some, on the contrary, they reach a certain period of life, often with a career and family.
This phenomenon is very consistent with the law of bamboo, which can be used to analyze life, that is, people who live too smoothly when they are young, under normal circumstances, will often encounter various obstacles when they grow up and cannot live a good life.
Amazing law of bamboo
The law of bamboo originated from the observation of psychologists and biologists on the growth law of a plant ------ bamboo in nature.
In the first four years of bamboo growth, bamboo is basically presented in the form of bamboo shoots, and on the surface, there are almost no noticeable changes in them.
Become what we see, a proud pole that stands upright and knotted.
On the surface, it seems that the bamboo has grown all at once.
But this is not the case, and this amazing growth rate did not happen overnight in one year.
Rather, it requires the accumulation of the previous 4 years, even if there is no obvious qualitative change at the beginning,
But they quietly, extending and climbing dozens or even hundreds of meters of root system underground, absorbing enough nutrients and making deep accumulation.
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Life is like bamboo, bamboo has taken root in the ground for so many years, and it has grown up quickly after experiencing a lot of hardships and trials.
In the same way, people endure hardships when they are young, go through all kinds of experiences, and at a certain time they will be reborn and leap forward.
Because those young people who have gone through hardships and tribulations have a better understanding of the laws and rules of life, and it is easier to cultivate a strong and stable core and confidence.
And people who have little experience and lack challenges when they are young have no way to build a fundamental foundation of confidence inside.
Because they lack a long-term vision, the precipitation after experience, and the face of unexpected situations will also make them collapse and mess with themselves.
The Law of Bamboo: The Pursuit of Transcendence
Adler, a famous Austrian psychiatrist and individual psychologist, has a theory of inferiority and transcendence that has always been admired by people.
In fact, the theory of pursuing excellence coincides with the growth process of bamboo.
Adler believed that all human behavior is governed by "upward will". It is that a person is born with an internal drive to merge all aspects of his personality into a general goal, requiring a sense of superiority over others and wanting to get ahead.
This effort for transcendence is intrinsic,
This struggle, not only at the individual level, but also throughout the history of all cultures, leads people and races to progress beyond inferiority.
The growth process of bamboo is the pursuit of excellence, and the same plant, whether it is a poplar, willow, or even a fruit tree in 4 years, most of them are leafy, tall and straight, or already fruitful.
In the fifth year, when the other trees did not change much, bamboo made a qualitative leap, and it took a long time to drive and surpass.
In the same way, when people were young, they experienced a series of trials and beatings,
, when they get out of the predicament again and again, they are all accumulating capital again and again.
Although they may not achieve anything in the short term, when it accumulates to a certain extent, success will come naturally, and a goal of excellence will be achieved.
It should be emphasized that we do not have to let young people have nothing to pursue suffering and self-abuse, but we want to inspire people to maintain a positive heart in the face of difficulties.
From it, you can summarize lessons and lessons, improve your thinking and cognition, and also grasp the opportunity to do a good job of accumulation.
Remember, all success doesn't happen overnight, but rather the amount of one step at a time.
The Law of Bamboo: Thick and Thin
Su Dongpo said, "Broad view and appointment, thick accumulation and thin hair".
It is very suitable to interpret the law of bamboo, to expand one's horizons and contact with "broad" at a young age, and to obtain one's own beneficial nutrition through experience.
Throughout our Chinese dynasties, the authors of most historical books, novels and other famous works have written books and passed them on, and the process of writing books and passing them on is a process of accumulation and development.
For example, Sima Qian, a historian of the Han Dynasty, encountered many things when he was young, and endured physical pain and mental humiliation.
However, he still persevered, continued to study and accumulate summaries, and always wrote a book ---- "Historical Records", leaving a valuable spiritual wealth for future generations.
There are also Wu Chengen, the author of "Journey to the West", and Shi Nai'an, the author of "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", behind a widely circulated work, there is a person's "accumulation" efforts.
Many of our young people often feel "tired",
Clinical psychologists believe
But to be clear, when you feel tired, maybe it is a process of your transformation from a bamboo shoot butterfly to a tall bamboo, adjust, maybe you are not far from success.
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