5 years after the divorce, Ma Yili was on the hot search again because she became a mother: only one life, you should live a chic life!

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2024-05-16 16:32Posted in Beijing, creators in the field of parenting

ate Amway, a netizen, and finished watching the drama "My Altay" in one day.

In addition to the beautiful scenery of the frontier that makes me feel healed through the screen, I am also healed by Ma Yili's mother Zhang Fengxia!

Daughter Wenxiu helped the commissary she ran to ask for accounts without success, as long as a camel came back. Frustrated, he asked her:

"I'm clumsy, but I'm still a useful person, right?"

Zhang Fengxia listened to it, but instead of blaming her, he corrected her:

"What do you mean by being useful? You were born to serve others? ”

No one could have imagined that this rough, dark-skinned, unkempt-looking woman could say such philosophical words casually.

Many netizens said that they were cured severely!

Oh, yes

As an adult, she knows that we don't necessarily have to be "useful" to have the meaning of life, existence is meaning;

As a mother, she understands that every child has their own path and should not be framed by other people's values.

The sense of relaxation we are striving for, Zhang Fengxia can handle it very easily!

This is also the preciousness of this show,

When creating the role of some mothers, it is no longer the image of forbearance and obedience that is often seen, but an individual of flesh and blood.

As one netizen said:

"That's what women should be, not for anyone, but to stand up bravely when the children need it."

Chic and relaxed

Zhang Fengxia

Let's talk about Zhang Fengxia first,

After the death of her husband, she was the head of the family who took care of her mother-in-law and daughter, who was suffering from dementia.

But on her body, not only does she not have any "bitterness" at all, but she also has a posture that can be leveled by her sister.

The mother-in-law is lost, and the daughter is at a loss. Zhang Fengxia knew that her mother-in-law had always wanted to go to Shenyang, and shouted:

"I'm going to Shenyang, Shenyang Shenyang, I'll leave immediately."

The mother-in-law immediately appeared.

The bed collapsed, and Zhang Fengxia acted as if nothing happened:

"It's collapsing, it's not like the sky is falling, it can affect my sleep."

Her daughter's skirt was rotten, and she stapled it with a stapler.

She knows how to follow her heart:

When her daughter asked her where the salt was, she said:

"The salt is in the sugar jar, the sugar is in the alkali jar, and the salt jar is not moved, and there is laundry detergent in it."

I also know how to respect my daughter's feelings:

When my daughter apologized to her for doing something wrong, her first reaction was: I often lose things.

In the play, I often see my daughter showing admiration for Zhang Fengxia.

was deceived when she fell in love, she cut it off decisively, and she was very free-spirited:

"A man runs away, what's the big deal."

Even the village chief described her: "Women all over the world, she is the last thing you need to worry about." ”

As a mother, after seeing Zhang Fengxia, I suddenly stopped being anxious or panicked.

is such a woman living in a remote pastoral area, she has not seen the world, does not have strong financial resources and even does not have much culture, but she has lived as a team by herself, with an enviable three views and ways of doing things.

Learning to accept unexpected situations and uncertainties in life and allowing accidents to happen is also one of the ways to solve problems!

Blossoms bloom out of suffering

Tolkien

If Zhang Fengxia trampled the suffering under his feet and ignored it,

Natokien is a woman who struggles to break free from the ruins of life and blossoms.

Her husband died of alcoholism, leaving her and two children behind.

According to nomadic tradition, Tolkien was betrothed by the elders of the family to her husband's younger brother, Batai.

She wanted to remarry, but was unanimously opposed by those around her:

"There has been no remarriage in our family, and you have made us very shameless like this."

Her ex-husband didn't buy her the washboard she wanted when she died, and Mrs. Ba also perfunctory with a shortage of stock: "You wash it by hand." ”

She finally broke out, and in the dark night of the pastoral area, she could no longer suppress her emotions and shouted:

"It's been a year, but no one cares."

Tolkien, who was bound by the layers of Kazakh traditional culture, did not give up the control of life.

She dared to complain that women do too much housework in the family,

Others told her to have more children while she was young, but she replied that children born of alcoholism are prone to defects.

Even if you are a single mother, you will still dress up with longing when you go to the prom.

had a dispute with the boy who pursued her, and with two babies, she did not show the slightest humility, but an indifferent attitude:

It's okay if you don't get married, you can just go to the county restaurant to do things.

This is not something she said casually, and in Wenxiu's monologue at the end of the plot, she learned that Tolkien really went to the county seat and started a new life.

Although Tolkien complained about the misfortunes of his life, he was never truly defeated by life, nor did he lose hope in life, let alone give up on himself.

Maybe what she wanted was never a washboard, but the freedom to show her feet in the world.

A shining life in the ruins

Grandmother

Speaking of Tolkien, I have to mention the grandmother she has a crush on.

This lady comes from the Mongolian tribe who dares to love and hate, is free and brave, and she herself is also a proper heroine!

While other female characters were still fighting for their own right to speak, grandma had already hung a commemorative photo of the "2000 Altay Rural Work Conference" on the wall.

negotiated her grandson's marriage, and she appeared throughout the process.

She had the foresight and courage to say to the stubborn and conservative Sulitan:

"You can't practice thousands of horses at home, and you can't plant 10,000-year-old pines in pots. It's also good for the kids to go out for a walk. ”

She knows people, and in one sentence she says that the opportunistic Gao Xiaoliang is unreliable:

"You can't fool the poor, and you can't fool the down-to-earth people."

From her words and deeds, it is not difficult to find that there is a reason why she is powerful.

She loves life and loves herself even more.

greeted Su Litan and Feng Xia's family from afar, and looked at their dusty appearance.

Her first question turned out to be: "Han friends, why do you dress in tatters?" ”

Feng Xia replied, "I'm afraid that my good clothes will be damaged." ”

Grandma said:

"No matter how bumpy your life is, you have to live it shiningly."

On the sparsely populated grassland, even if no one appreciates it. Grandma Chaoge also cleans herself up every day.

As the "People's Daily" said:

"The best work in life is oneself, even if no one appreciates it, it must be fragrant alone."

How is this open-minded, optimistic, free and uninhibited attitude to life commendable?

This drama has spoken out for many mothers:

"Mom" is not just a title, but also a free soul with self, needs, attitudes, and pursuits.

In addition to this, it also shows us the broader boundaries of feminism.

Excellent women are not limited to those who are well-dressed and shuttle through the city with high-rise buildings.

In the boundless frontier grassland, women can also live as a team.

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