The ancients said: "Life and death are fate, and wealth is in heaven." ”
Everyone pursues wealth, and they hope that their children and grandchildren will be richer than themselves. But after going around all my life, I found that I had no fate with wealth, and everything was destined.
Many people have the above feelings, but they don't know whose family the wealth will fall to, just like having eyes.
There is a saying: "If you know three days early, you will be rich for a thousand years." ”
If you can make accurate judgments and actions before things happen, then a family will be rich for thousands of years.
There is no doubt that the development of the family, the interaction between parents and children, is inseparable from cause and effect.
In fact, we can judge what the life of our children is like from the marriage of our parents.
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The parents "joined forces", and the child was born with a golden key.
Wang Xizhi, who was born in the famous Langyu Wang family of the Wei and Jin Dynasties, reached the age of marrying a wife, and met a good opportunity for Taiwei Xi Jian to choose a son-in-law.
When Wang Xizhi and Xi Jian's daughter Xi Xuan got married on the first day, it meant that their children were all born with a golden key, and they were either rich or expensive.
They had several sons with different personalities. Some people study hard and practice hard, such as Wang Xianzhi; Some people live casually and work lazily, such as Wang Huizhi.
No matter what the situation of the sons is, because their parents are powerful and powerful, they can always be officials. Even when he was an official, he had no performance, and he was still concerned and tolerated.
From the analysis of the rules of ancient marriage, it will be found that the richer and more powerful the family, the more attention is paid to the "right match". Because they don't want their children to go to a poor person and be pulled down by the "object".
If a child is born in a family where both parents are strong, and can get everything from his grandparents and grandparents, it will be much easier to rise.
That's what we often say: "Reincarnation is a technical job." ”
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Parents are "loving and hardworking", and their children go to the next level.
What a child wants to become. The first is to look at the innate factors, and the second is to look at the acquired cultivation.
Cultivating children is not to yell and talk about big truths every day, but to teach parents by word and deed.
Look at Mencius's mother, not only moved three times, but also chose different living environments, so that Mencius found the direction of his life in the sound of books.
Mencius's father died very early, and his mother relied on weaving to support the family.
One day, when Mencius came back from skipping school, his mother found out and cut all the threads on the loom.
My mother said, "This study is like weaving, if you don't learn it halfway, you cut ......."
Perhaps hard work will not bring thousands of family wealth, but it will definitely give a good impression on the children, and they will not go hungry.
On the basis of the harmonious relationship between parents and working together, we can give children a warm family and really play a role in supporting children.
In real life, my parents go to work in a factory together, and there is always a monthly income of five or six thousand. Life will also gradually get better because of income. If the parents are frugal and bring savings, then the children will not start a business and become rich in the future, and they will not start from scratch.
The efforts of one generation to promote the next generation, this day is thriving.
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Parents "quarrel endlessly", and children are like rats in bellows, angry at both ends.
There is a question on Zhihu: "My parents often quarrel, how should I deal with it?" ”
The questioner said that his father was very irritable, loved to drink, gambled and was in the limelight. Therefore, at every turn, he uses anger to show his prestige.
When the father is angry, he will also beat and scold his children. And the father forbade his children to weep.
Once, he was playing with a glass ball and hit a small bowl, which shattered. The father turned on the violent mode. The mother came to protect, and the mother could only be beaten.
As for my mother, she is a hardworking person who likes to nag. Therefore, nagging about his father's behavior caused anger.
Parents keep saying, "In order not to let the children be lonely, don't divorce." ”
But the child is in the quarrelsome house, trembling, and there are words of suffering.
Netizen "Hu Yinmeizi" also said that she had seen enough of her parents' marriage, so she was afraid of marriage. I'm so worried, and I'm looking for a barbarian like my father.
Everyone knows that home and everything is prosperous. But many couples act in the opposite way.
When their children grow up and find that they have achieved nothing, the parents will only get angry and continue to quarrel and blame each other.
Children grow up in the sound of quarrels, what is the life of wealth and wealth? If there is no peace at home, where does wealth come from?
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Parents "go their separate ways", and the child is like a piece of grass.
Divorce, which hurts the most, is a certain child.
Politician Reagan said, "It is always a tragedy for any child to lose a parent because of death, divorce, abandonment." Some single-person families do fulfill their responsibilities to take care of their children, but most people believe that single families are not the ideal model. ”
When the parents are divorced, and then the child follows one of them, it is inevitable that they will be disciplined by their stepparents and stepparents, which is not a taste.
What's worse is that when the parents divorce, they don't want children, and they leave their children to their grandparents, grandparents, and grandparents. I don't want to think about it, my grandparents are all old, and I can't take care of my children so much.
The grandparents also did not have much money and could not give their children a better education. Therefore, there is a high probability that the child will become a troubled teenager.
Children without parents are like weeds. When the child grows up, he is a huge weed at best, not a rich person.
gave birth to a child, but was not responsible for the child, and hoped that the child would be rich and noble, which really put the cart before the horse.
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The Bible says, "If marriage is not heaven." It's hell. ”
It is logical that the family, child-rearing, and economy related to marriage will also change because of the change of marriage.
Children are rich and noble, that is, the marriage of parents has reached heaven; Children are poor people's lives, and the marriage of parents goes to hell.
When parents want their children to surpass themselves and get better and better, they should actively manage their marriage.
Here, I also share a few daily ways to manage a marriage.
First, husband and wife are busy, each has a job, and both make money, so don't be idle.
Second, husband and wife learn to discuss, if there is a conflict, get used to who will make the final decision and not compete for the leading role.
Third, husbands and wives spend money with a plan, and they have more than enough money every year, and they also give their children decades of vision.
Fourth, couples learn to be tolerant, look more at each other's advantages, less at their shortcomings, and not turn over old accounts.
Fifth, husbands and wives should study together to improve their moral quality.
To get married is to form a team, have children, and look forward to the future.
After marriage, it is to consolidate a team, respect the old and love the young, and work together for the future.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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