Grandma Liu entered the Grand View Garden for the second time, and observed that after Sister Li Kunfeng served Jia's mother and other elders to eat, she put another table, and the two sat opposite each other to eat. Grandma Liu said with emotion: "Nothing else, I only love your family's actions, and it is strange to say that everyone is polite." (40 times)
Grandma Liu is also a person who has seen the world, she also often interacted with Jinling Wangjiapan's relatives in her early years, and now she saw Jiafu and sighed, explaining that in terms of "etiquette", Jiafu's style is obviously better than that of the Wang family.
In fact, if Grandma Liu saw how the slaves of Jiafu taught their masters, she would be even more impressed.
Slaves teach their masters, which is an example of Jiafu, such as the young lady of Jiafu, in the slave team, each person is specially equipped with four nurturing grandmothers. The sons are going to go to the home school, and there is a husband education. Miss is not a second door, how to educate? In addition to the elders in the family such as mothers and other female dependents, the upbringing of grandmothers plays a very important role, the so-called ladies have their own set of etiquette, models, skills and so on all the requirements of the upper class for ladies.
These people are the minions of the young lady in the rank, but in daily life, they are the people who discipline, teach, and regulate the words and deeds of the young lady, and they are the teachers of the young lady's life enlightenment. Yingchun's nurse is a good gambler, and when she is short of money, she even pawns Yingchun's jewelry, Yingchun's attitude towards this is:
"She's a mother, and she's the only one who says mine, and I don't say her." It means that even if your nursing mother is wrong, she is not qualified to say that she is wrong, and if she is wrong, it is reasonable and etiquette for the nursing mother to educate herself.
Therefore, even if it is a master, some minions can teach the master, and even criticize the master, Baoyu has been seriously educated by the senior minions in the family.
In the forty-fifth episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", Mama Lai came to Rongguo Mansion and talked with Sister Feng about educating her children, and when she saw Baoyu standing aside, she pointed to Baoyu and began to teach:
"I'm not afraid that you will hate me, now the old man just cares about you like this, and the old lady protects her head. When the old man was beaten by your grandfather when he was young, who didn't see it. When you were young, how could you have been as unafraid as you are. And the big man, although naughty, is not like you to make a nest, and he fights every day. There is also your brother Zhen's grandfather in the East Mansion, that is the temperament that adds fuel to the fire, and he is annoyed, what son is actually a thief! Now I look at it in my eyes and listen to it in my ears, that Uncle Zhen manages his son like the rules of the ancestors of the time, but he doesn't care about it. He doesn't care about himself, how can these brothers and nephews complain and not be afraid of him? You understand in your heart, you like me to say, you don't understand, you are embarrassed in your mouth, and you don't know how to scold me in your heart. ”
Good guy, what I said means is that Baoyu doesn't do serious things, it's too unproductive, anyway, it doesn't matter if you are happy or not, you still have to stand up and listen well, and by the way, Jia Zhen was also scolded, and by the way, he also criticized Ning Guogong and Rong Guogong.
This Lai Mama is a real cow, although she is a slave, but she is also a slave who has served her ancestors, to a certain extent, she educates Jia Zhenbaoyu, which is equivalent to educating the children and grandchildren for the ancestors and masters. Therefore, Baoyu must listen respectfully to her teachings.
There are sixty-three times Baoyu's birthday, when the lamp is in hand, Lin Zhixiao's family led the housekeepers' daughters-in-law to check the night, and when they went to Yihong Courtyard and saw that Baoyu had not slept yet, they immediately started their duties as the housekeeper of the inner curtain, and educated Baoyu and said:
"If today's long night is short, you should go to bed early, and you will get up early tomorrow. Otherwise, it will be late tomorrow, and people will joke that he is not a son who reads and goes to school, but like the man who picks his feet. ”
Knowing that Baoyu said that he had just eaten noodles and was afraid of stopping eating, so he played a little more today, and he usually went to bed early, and his mother didn't know every time he came to check the night, Lin Zhixiao's family was very satisfied with what he heard, and continued:
"You should make some Pu'er tea."
It means that the maids must know how to eat and nourish under what circumstances. He also instructed Baoyu to respect girls like Raider and Qingwen from the elders' house, and not to call them by their names, outsiders will feel that there is no elder in the eyes of the son of the family. And he also gave his brothers and nephews a very bad example, which was not a big family.
Take a look, this Lin Zhixiao's family, she was not originally responsible for education, but he found the signs, all aspects, and gave instructions in all aspects, with a strong sense of responsibility, revealing the unquestionable authority of a senior housekeeper. Lose no time in raising orders to the people under your jurisdiction, including the master.
From Mama Lai to Lin Zhixiao's family, readers can strongly feel the origin of the people of the big family who know, understand and behave in courtesy. What is family style and what is everyone? From these two high-ranking minions of Jiafu, we can know a thing or two.
In fact, Cao Xueqin's most praised family is not the Jia family, but the Lin family, and his positioning of the Jia Mansion is the Wuyin family and the hairpin family; The positioning of the Lin family is a family of scholars and heirlooms of poetry and rites, and the Lin family can be called a "rite", which is more advanced than Jiafu. Although the description of the Lin family in the novel is very limited, it also gives full expression to the Lin family's family style and family education, first of all, Lin Daiyu's high level of governance of Xiaoxiang Pavilion, and Lin Ruhai's attitude towards Jia Yucun.
The reason why the Lin family hired Jia Yucun was because Jia Yucun dragged people to work, and the reason why Jia Yucun was able to be reinstated was the result of Lin Ruhai using his own political resources and spending money to do something for him, but when Lin Ruhai and Jia Yucun said this, they called themselves "brother" one by one, and called themselves a "brother" to be humble, in terms of age, Lin Ruhai, who is nearly half white, must be older than Jia Yucun, and in terms of identity, Lin Ruhai is 10,000 times more noble than Jia Yucun, and on the ground, Lin Ruhai's resume can blind Jia Yucun's eyes. He worked for Jia Yucun, and his self-respect, modesty and posture made Jia Yucun, who had always been arrogant, almost grateful.
In short, "Dream of Red Mansions" wants to tell readers that the level of the Lin family is the highest level, and the level of Jiafu is good, but compared with the Lin family, there is still a considerable distance.
The author of this article: Pingshan Magenta Mansion
Reference to the original work: "Jiazhu Ben Fat Yan Zhai Re-evaluation of the Stone Record" "Gengchen Ben Fat Yan Zhai Re-evaluation of the Stone Record"
Image source: "The Dream of Red Mansions by Sun Wen"