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Written about the moon
In the eyes of many children, the father is like a mountain, solid and deep, and the mother is like a clear spring, gentle and long-lasting.
Once, for us as children, my father seemed to be a superman, omnipotent, not only to earn money to support the family, but also to turn into the strongest fortress, sheltering us from the wind and rain and against all harm.
However, time flies like a white horse. After a few years of hurried, the former child also became a father, only to know that under the eternally upright spine, there was a fragile and tired soul.
suddenly realized that his father had always lived in the "lowest level".
Paving the way for the family
I have never met my grandfather, he died when my mother was 20 years old, and all my impressions of my grandfather come from my mother's nostalgic story.
My mother was born in the late 60s, although she was born in the city, but because it is an urban village, the family still has fields to plant, and the mother is the fourth in the family of five children.
At that time, most people were poor, especially those with many children, who were basically big and took care of the young, and their parents had to go out every day to make money, and those with good conditions could go to work in the factory, and the general ones were farming.
Mother said that when she was a child, she basically didn't see her grandfather every day, and before she got up, her grandfather went out to do odd jobs, mostly to help unload goods at the vegetable station, and basically did hard work.
After dawn, I hurried to my own field to work, although there is not much land, but basically only my grandfather takes care of it.
Although his grandfather was not educated, he put his children's education first.
There are many children in the family, but the little money that my grandfather has saved by desperately earning money with continuous rotation is also for my mother, brothers and sisters to go to school.
At that time, her mother finished junior high school, just in time to help young people in the village to contact and work in the factory, and she was anxious to reduce the financial burden on her family, so she resolutely stopped studying in high school and signed up for work by herself.
Grandpa, who has always been good-tempered, lost his temper with her for the first time, and the two broke out into a fierce quarrel, for which his mother was slapped in the face.
But the quarrel between the two still did not change the mother's determination to insist on working.
Later, several children joined the work one after another, and only the youngest uncle was still studying.
Within a few years of my mother's work, my grandfather suffered from severe cervical spondylosis due to perennial overwork, and after a few years, he got liver disease.
At that time, my grandfather was just over 50 years old.
Because he wanted to save money for the family, his grandfather was always reluctant to be hospitalized, and every time he saw a doctor, even if the doctor insisted on hospitalization, his grandfather always took the medicine and secretly left.
Later, my grandfather's illness became more and more serious, and he spent most of his time in bed every day.
Speaking of this, a smile appeared on her mother's face, and she said that it was the first time she had seen her father so alive.
I recall that since I was born, my father has always been unsmiling, running for survival every day, and although he lives under the same roof, it seems that the real time spent together is very short.
It was a winter, and my grandfather's condition took a turn for the worse, and when he was sent to the hospital, he had fallen into a coma, and he left after a few days.
The mother said that before the grandfather left, he always muttered a sentence in his mouth, and he did not let the children really live a good life in this life.
In the choked cry, there is a deep longing for grandpa and deep reluctance.
She said that her father is like the lowest existence in the family, paving the way for his children all his life, and he just wants to exhaust his life's energy to hold up a piece of sky for his children.
Society's "Cattle and Horses"
I once watched a documentary that recorded a young father in Guizhou who was working in Shenzhen, and had a difficult way home for the Chinese New Year.
The man was born in the mountains of Guizhou and married in his early twenties under the introduction of a matchmaker.
The wife is 1 year younger than herself, and the two who have not reached the legal age just set up a banquet and only wait until they are old to get the certificate.
A year after marriage, the two had a daughter, but the wife ran away from home not long after giving birth to her daughter, disappeared and could no longer be contacted.
In order to support their young children, men can only entrust their daughters to their parents and go out to work alone to earn money.
The work in the electronics factory is heavy and boring, but the man does not dare to stop, and he can't breathe under the weight of the heavy burden of life.
In order to facilitate travel, he saved up money to buy himself a second-hand motorcycle.
Seeing that a busy year is coming to an end, he can finally go home to reunite with his relatives.
For him, that's a lot of money, and if he saves it, he can buy more snacks and toys for his children, and he can also buy his parents a winter coat for the New Year.
Looking at the motorcycle in front of him, he made a decision in his heart that he would rely on it to take him home this year.
Shenzhen to Guizhou hometown 1200 kilometers, the road is smooth, the man has to ride for 4 days to get home.
However, the day does not fulfill people's wishes, the more difficult it is to go home, the cold winter wax moon, the road is either rain or snow, the road is slippery and difficult, and the man does not know how many times he fell on the road.
In the most serious case, the whole person fell a few meters away, and it took a while to get back up.
The road was bumpy, and the man finally arrived home on Chinese New Year's Eve.
Seeing his anxiously waiting daughter, as a father at the moment, he didn't have time to rest, so he immediately took out the gifts carefully prepared for the child.
The sadness of running around has turned into a strong father's love, and I just want to give it all to my children.
Men are just the epitome of countless fathers, running around at the bottom of society, although they can't give their children the best in the world, but they have given their best everything without reservation.
The neglected silent fatherly love
Fathers are always not good at expressing themselves in the family, and they tend to be more action-oriented than verbal love.
A casual sentence about the dishes you want to eat will appear on the dining table when you get home in the evening, and your favorite gifts will always appear at the bedroom door one morning.
Although my father has done a lot, he is not always the one who "likes" in the family.
Children will prefer their mothers to be gentle and understanding rather than the majesty of their fathers.
But the father never defends himself, and is used to the silent expression of love, which will make people ignore that they actually have a fragile side in their hearts.
The pressure of work and the hard work of life never complain at home, perhaps because they feel that complaining is useless, but it will also bring negative energy to their children, and they will only choose to grit their teeth and endure it silently.
Father's love is silent, but silence is better than sound.
epilogue
Although the father is a "low-level person", the father's love is eternal.
Writer Leung Fung-yee once said: "When you are afraid, father's love is a stepping stone; When it is dark, fatherly love is a lamp that illuminates; When it is exhausted, father's love is a bay of water of life; When working hard, fatherly love is the spiritual pillar; When you are successful, fatherly love is an encouragement and a wake-up call. ”
Maybe your father didn't reach the heights you wanted, but trust him to put in all his efforts, be more understanding and tolerant, and be less resentful and blameless.