There has always been such a joke among middle-aged and elderly couples among the people: "Different beds in the same room, different quilts in the same bed, and back-to-back quilts in the same bed." ”
Although the meaning of this ridicule is obvious, it reflects from the side that many couples rarely share sex and choose to sleep in separate rooms after reaching middle and old age.
So why do middle-aged couples sleep in separate rooms? It may be because you have to bring your grandchildren, it may be because there is a problem in the relationship, or it may be because it affects the quality of the other person's sleep.
As for couples who still have sex together in middle and old age, there is a lot of discussion in the outside world, and this kind of thing is often labeled as "disrespectful to the old" and "old hooligan".
It is precisely because of this that many elderly people are also shy about sex, but do they really not need sex?
1. Is sex important for the elderly?
Do older people have sexual needs? In fact, there are relevant investigations and studies abroad.
According to the survey, 75% of women over the age of 60 have sex per week, and more than 50% of women over the age of 70 have sex per week. On the male side, three-quarters of those over the age of 70 are interested in continuing to have sex.
In addition, studies have found that as long as the genitals are properly protected, the vast majority of older people can even continue their sex life until the age of 70 or even 80 or beyond.
Traditionally, we think of sex as the preserve of young people. However, nearly one-third of the time of modern people is in old age, in other words, the quality of life of the elderly should also be the focus of attention.
A survey in mainland China found that half of the elderly in China still have their spouses alive, and more than 60% of the elderly still retain their sexual desire and sexual ability. Therefore, sex is an indispensable part of improving the quality of life of the elderly.
Rational analysis, sex life is also a basic human right of the elderly, which should be understood and supported. If the sexual life of the elderly is excessively suppressed due to social factors or traditional concepts, it will increase their psychological pressure, and in severe cases, it will even affect the family and even induce mental illness.
If the elderly can be guided to live a healthy sex life and not suppress their sexual desires, it will help the elderly to be psychologically satisfied. At the same time, a healthy sex life can also bring many benefits to the elderly, such as childbirth, pleasure and even health, helping the elderly to improve their life happiness index and be a happy old man.
Second, the elderly have a moderate married life, and there are many benefits!
A moderate and harmonious sexual life for the elderly can not only promote the physical health of both parties, but also have a very important impact on family stability, personal social skills, and work efficiency.
- Helps relieve stress
Sex can promote the body's metabolism, can promote hormone secretion, thereby relaxing nerves and relieving stress, but also can enhance the relationship between the elderly and the sexes.
- Contributes to good health
Studies have found that men who have regular sex are much less likely to develop heart disease than men who have irregular sexual life.
An effective and harmonious sex life is equivalent to a whole-body exercise, which is helpful to all organs of the body, and can also promote blood circulation, enhance heart function, and reduce the risk of heart disease and myocardial infarction.
- Helps with sleep
A harmonious sex life can effectively relax the body and mind, and after sex, you can sleep better and sleep better, and the quality of sleep will also be improved.
We support older people to enjoy sex, but sex is not for all older people.
For example, for patients with chronic diseases, it is recommended that they have sex under the guidance of a specialist, considering what they can physically afford. In addition, elderly patients with heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, asthma and other diseases should avoid sexual life as much as possible to prevent aggravation of the condition.
3. There are five points that should be paid attention to when the elderly live in the same room
In fact, old age does not mean that the elderly have become "asexual creatures", especially the establishment of past life experience, mental activity and nerve reflexes, so that the elderly will still have traces of sexual life in their brains, which also allows them to maintain the pursuit of sexual life.
However, changes in the body shape of the elderly as they age, coupled with declining physical performance and physiological deterioration, as well as various chronic diseases, will affect the quality of sexual life of the elderly to a greater or lesser extent.
The elderly can have sex, but the elderly are not as good as young people in terms of mental and physical strength, so when having sex, we should pay special attention to five aspects:
1. Pay attention to the frequency
It is advisable for the elderly aged 60-70 to have sex 1-2 times a month, but the specific frequency should still be considered from the aspects of personal physical fitness and sexual desire.
2. Pay attention to controlling emotions during sex
Excessive mood swings are very harmful to the body of the elderly, so it is necessary to avoid excessive excitement and hasty action during sexual life, and should be gradual, gentle and slow.
3. Do not drink alcohol before sex, and do not eat too much
Drinking a lot of alcohol before sex can easily reduce your libido, or you may engage in excessively agitated and rude behavior when alcohol stimulates you, which can lead to unpleasant sex. Overeating will allow blood flow to the stomach and intestines, reducing blood flow to other parts of the body, which will also affect the quality of sexual life.
4. You can lie still for a while after sex
During sexual life, blood vessels constrict and cerebral blood flow decreases, which can easily lead to temporary hypoxia in the brain of the elderly.
5. Sex can also be hugging and kissing
Sex and psychosexuality are the same as sex, so it's not just about doing, hugging, kissing and caressing are all part of sex.
Society should correct the misconception that "the elderly should not have sex", and should tear up the labels of "disrespectful to the elderly" and "old hooligans".
The elderly can also have a healthy and harmonious sex life, which can bring benefits to the elderly, both physically and psychologically.
As a younger generation, we should understand that the elderly have sexual desires and sexual needs, and give more understanding and care, so that the elderly can truly meet their desires in life.
Resources:
[1] "Men's Health Day|Older Adults Should Stick to Sex to the End". Health News.2018-10-26
[2] "Can I still have sex when I'm old?" Doctor: Do it right, there are at least 6 benefits for the body! 》. Health Times.2019-12-08
[3] "Moderate Sex Life of Elderly Couples Can Anti-Aging and Promote Longevity". Family Doctor Newspaper.2017-01-23
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