#跨国恋##游戏##远嫁##奉子成婚#
This is the 3,859th real story we have told
I, a Malaysian daughter-in-law, met my husband because of computer games, knew each other, and fell in love. I got married because I was pregnant out of wedlock, and my husband's responsibility made me feel at ease.
After coming to China, although I am Chinese, I still have some discomforts.
Not being able to send my father on his last journey because of his long marriage has become the regret of my life.
(My husband and I)
I'm Yuanyuan, 30 years old, I don't have a job now, and I'm a housewife.
My hometown is a small seaside town in Malaysia, with beautiful scenery, you can check in, take pictures, and post a circle of friends anytime and anywhere.
There are four siblings in us, and I am the eldest. Since I was a child, I have watched my mother busy with her livelihood, which is very hard. But I have had everything I wanted since I was a child, and my father gave me a lot of love.
I remember when I was in junior high school, I lived on campus. For a while, in our dormitory, my phone was stolen four or five times in a row, and I was not spared. When my dad found out, he immediately bought me a new phone.
Now that I think about it, I am very grateful to my father for spoiling me so much.
My academic performance was always average, and then I studied baking at National Taiwan University.
When I graduated from university in 2014, I didn't find a suitable job and became an unemployed youth for the time being. At that time, I, like many young people, also liked to play games and Honor of Kings.
(Dad and my eldest daughter)
I remember it was 2017, and I teamed up with a guy to play Honor of Kings. When we played, we cooperated tacitly, cooperated happily, and had fun every time.
Later, I often asked to play together, and before I knew it, I slowly became familiar with it, and I became a friend who talked about everything. He is a native of Jieyang City, Guangdong. Later, I happened to be on a business trip in China.
We discussed whether we would like to meet each other and meet each other's tacit teammates. So, I flew to Chaoshan to meet him.
We met like old friends, and he invited me to eat the special snacks here and visit the fun places. We both felt that each other had similar interests and were very close to each other.
After we came back, we still played games together and became indestructible teammates. In addition to games, gradually, there are many more topics between us, and emotions are also quietly heating up. The flower of youthful love blooms in this game battle again and again.
(Dad and our sisters)
Later, I found out I was pregnant! But I didn't panic, and I was prepared for the worst, if he didn't marry me, I would give birth and raise myself.
Because it's not just a life, it's my child.
So, with trepidation, I pressed down his phone number and told him about it. He seemed to have already prepared his mind, and without hesitation, he said lightly: "Then Shengbei." ”
Although he didn't have too many sweet words at the time, it can be seen from this that he is a responsible and responsible man. It makes me feel confident about my future.
After we discussed, we got married, and I was 25 years old.
Our families are a good match. After all, we are Chinese in Malaysia, and Chinese people have Chinese blood in their bones.
Our family is very accepting of my husband, and everyone likes him. He and his dad also came to Malaysia to meet my mom and at the same time played as a tourist for a month. It was also his first time in Malaysia.
Mom welcomed them warmly. We also speak Mandarin very well, so communication was good. According to our local customs, my husband gave a bride price of 38888.
(We are in Guangxi)
Because the marriage is urgent and transnational, many things are too late to prepare, so our wedding is very simple. In China, a few tables of banquets were set up, and relatives and friends were invited to come over and drink the wedding wine.
You may ask, didn't your husband propose? There really isn't, he can only be pragmatic, but he doesn't understand such romance.
But I don't feel sorry, in fact, as long as we live happily, we don't need other foils.
When we first started our marriage, we lived in Malaysia and I would love to live in Malaysia.
But my husband doesn't speak Malay or English, so he's fine at home.
But as soon as he went out, it was not convenient for him to communicate, especially when he was looking for a job, which was particularly restricted, so he never found a suitable job. This made him, as a man, feel uncomfortable too.
He felt that since he was married, he should be responsible, and he had nothing to do all day, which made him depressed.
There is an old Chinese saying, "Marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog", and after thinking about it and discussing it with my family, I still returned to China with him.
When I arrived in China, I was a foreign daughter-in-law. Everything has to start from scratch.
(My two daughters)
Malaysians are almost multilingual, but I'm fine, whether it's Cantonese or Mandarin, and I'm Chinese myself, so I quickly adapted to my new life. At the same time, I also met a lot of friends, so that I did not feel lonely and lonely in a foreign country.
After coming back, my husband also had a spiritual head, so he planned to start doing business, working hard for our future, and going out early and returning late all day.
Seeing that my husband was so busy, I felt that I had to make sacrifices for the sake of the family, and the children were still young and needed to be taken care of, so I became a proper housewife.
As a young mom, I have no experience with children. The environment on both sides is very different, after all, our side belongs to the tropics, and it is summer all year round. When a child is sick and has a fever, we don't turn on the fan, we wear sleeveless, and just dissipate heat for him.
The children here are sick and feverish, especially in winter, their bodies are hot, but they can't wear less, and I feel that the heat of the body can't be dissipated if I wear too thick, and I don't know what to do, which makes me very difficult.
I didn't feel uncomfortable with the diet at all, I was interested in many tastes, including Indian, and we also loved it. But when I took my husband to eat Indian rice, he couldn't accept it, saying it was hard to eat.
(The whole family is in Yunnan)
However, at first, there were some places where I felt very aggrieved.
It's not very convenient for us to buy groceries in Malaysia, so we usually buy enough food for a week at a time. When my father-in-law saw me like this, he said, "I buy vegetables here every day, and I have to buy fresh food." ”
I don't understand, why do I have to go grocery shopping every day? It's very unaccustomed, and even a little annoying. Aren't the Chinese particular about following local customs? Slowly, I got used to it.
Now that my children are older, after sending them to school, I go to buy the day's dishes and learn various cooking skills at the same time, so I can cook them at home for my family.
Even though I am a housewife and don't have a job, I am also happy to see my children and husband come back every day and eat the food I cooked.
Looking at it, I felt that I was enjoying the greatest happiness in the world, and my heart was happy. Sometimes, I would ask my friends out for afternoon tea. My husband is in charge of the outside, and I am in charge of logistics. That's not a bad day!
(We went to Thailand)
My husband doesn't know how to cook, so I usually cook, but he does all the housework. Sweeping and mopping the floor, he never complained.
Usually my husband is always busy outside, and I take good care of the house, and basically there is no quarrel. It's a little contradictory, and I will let him, after all, this family is supported by his hard work, but he also knows how to be content.
Financially, my husband has never restricted me and disliked me because he earns money and I don't have a job. On the contrary, after making money, they will ask me what big things I want to buy and discuss them with me.
We also have festivals in Malaysia. Because we are Chinese, we all celebrate Chinese festivals, so after I got married, I didn't feel that any festivals were very new.
Malaysia is a country of three major races, with a lot of festivals, and Malaysians pay attention to the sense of ritual. For example, if it's a friend's birthday, we'll make an appointment about how we're going to celebrate it. But at the moment I'm here in China, all my friends around me don't have birthdays, including my husband.
At first, my husband told me that I still didn't believe it. I said how is that possible? Didn't your friends give it to you? The result is still true!
(We are in Dali)
I love China.
Since I came to China, I have only been to Guangzhou, Chaozhou, and last year to Yunnan, and I have seen a lot of beautiful scenery, but I know that this is only a very small part of China.
Arriving in Guangzhou is like going to a miniature world, Chaoshan's unique food and culture make me deeply sigh, I didn't find the wrong husband, the ancient city of Yunnan is like an ancient beautiful castle, each with its own characteristics, it is really beautiful! You can't see every place in a day, and you can play for days in one place.
I don't know if I will have the opportunity to travel all over China in my lifetime, China is too big!
As for the issue of future pension, after all, neither of us is an only child, which I have not seriously considered. But if I am an only child, I should not marry far away, and I will choose to stay with my mother.
Because of the pandemic, I was stuck in China for three years. During this period, after my father's illness and his death, I couldn't see him off for the last time. This became the biggest regret of my life.
(Chinese New Year in Malaysia this year)
Now that I think about it, I couldn't go back to China due to the epidemic, and after learning that my father was sick, I could only make a phone call or video to see him.
Then my dad passed away, I couldn't hold it anymore and went to the embassy with my passport and needed a new one, and I was told to wait up to 4 months. All of a sudden, my heart seemed to sink to a bottomless pit, and it kept sinking, and it hurt indescribably.
When my father left, I couldn't stay with him, let alone give him his last ride. If I hadn't married far away, I wouldn't have such regrets, and I feel very sorry for my father. I can only worship and express my condolences through video.
Dad left us forever, but the pain of "the son wants to raise but can't be kissed" can't be dissipated for a long time. My husband sees it in his eyes and hurts in his heart. Seeing my pain, he didn't say anything nice, just silently accompanied me. After the lockdown was lifted, I bought a plane ticket to return to China during the Chinese New Year.
(Me and my daughter)
I returned to the home I longed for, walked on the familiar road of my hometown, saw the house in my dreamland, the hugs of my relatives, and the familiar smell on the dining table, I knew that I was really back.
When I went back to Malaysia before, I didn't have much insight, just happiness, but when I went back, I was more thinking about marrying far away.
Now I have told my husband that I have to go back for the New Year every year, which can be regarded as accompanying my mother, and it will also make me have fewer regrets. For the "year" that Chinese care about the most, my husband agreed very simply, without any reluctance.
Maybe my three views are different from my husband's, because I like to watch DY very much, and my husband doesn't watch it, but I don't think other people are like this. At the beginning, I was still lost, but now I'm used to it, and everything is settled in the habit.
Probably at that time, I was blinded by love, and I didn't think too much about it, I believed in love, and I got married if I had it, and everything was fate.
Dear you, if you also encounter love, I still hope you don't want to be like me, and you still need to think carefully about getting married.
After my father's affairs, I don't recommend marrying far away, and I must think twice.
(A better life, the future can be expected)
I used to think very simply, at that time, I wanted to fly from Malaysia to Guangzhou in 4 hours, the air ticket was not expensive, and I could go back at any time when I was homesick. However, I never expected that there would be an epidemic, and I really wanted to go back at that time, but I couldn't go back, and the pain was self-evident.
Although our love is not vigorous, we will hold the hand of our son and grow old with our son. Now we have two lovely baby daughters, and life is ordinary, quiet and warm, and I know enough.
I wish everyone the happiness they want.
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[Dictation: Yuan Yuan]
[Written by: Qing Wan]
[Editor: Wuxi Wu]
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