Many people always come to me and ask: Teacher, do you need to disconnect me in this situation?
In fact, I have said it many times about disconnection, but in my previous explanation, it was more based on a judgment of your breakup, but in fact, the situation of disconnection is also related to your own state.
To put it simply, if you are not ready to redeem, in fact, you can rely on disconnection to adjust the state, and then redeem the ex when the state is good.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Many people always feel that they have done a lot of wrong things after breaking up, and then it has led to a terrible recovery situation, so they have to disconnect.
This idea is actually a statement that does not take into account the actual situation, because many people are in a bad state when they first break up, because you will be very anxious and emotional and need your ex.
So your state makes you do something that is not helpful to recover, and at this time, others may advise you to calm down, and it is difficult for you to calm down, and you can't listen to what others say.
If this is the case for you, instead of giving your time to these things that are not progressing, you should let you disconnect appropriately, make your breakup situation clear first, and then contact your ex when your mentality is relatively stable, this is what will help you, and doing so will definitely be shorter than the time you spend doing useless work.
At the same time, we must also understand that to redeem this matter, you do need to have the confidence and determination to persevere, but it does not mean that your determination when you first broke up is right, because you lack the right direction at this time, and you rush forward with all your brains, which will only make you go further and further on the wrong path.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
The right determination is because you know that you solve the problem, do not put pressure on the other party, and guide you step by step, you will eventually reap a happy ending, and your determination is based on the right law, not on your own desires.
In order to stabilize your state as soon as possible, I suggest that you also think about the question, that is, is the other person you want? Or is it just because of your habits with them?
Why is this time making you think about this? You think deeply enough about this question, the more comprehensive your view of your ex is, you are not blindly immersed in the beauty of the past, adding a halo of love to the other party, so that you can't see the truth clearly.
At the same time, you should also make it clear that a person's kindness to you is not a reason why you should redeem him, you should feel that this person is worthwhile, so you are determined to redeem it.
These objective and rational thoughts can help you stabilize your mind.
From another point of view, you also need to know that any relationship will eventually end up flat, so the breakup at this moment is also part of love, and you add your understanding of love to your thinking, which will also allow you to maintain a stable state.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Finally, to summarize briefly, to judge whether your situation needs to be disconnected, in addition to your own breakup situation, it is also related to your own state, if you are not in a good state, you can take the initiative to choose to disconnect.
Then during the disconnection, analyze your love, the value of the other party, and the direction of your feelings from a rational and objective point of view.
When your state is stable, combined with appropriate methods and skills to recover, it will be easier to get twice the result with half the effort.
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