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In 1968, I was born in a mountainous family in Yiyang, Hunan Province, with three sisters, the eldest sister, the second sister and me.
Because they only have three daughters, their parents have always been very aggrieved in the village, and when they have a little conflict with their neighbors, they are always said by the other party to "cut off the generation". Such insulting words dripping the hearts of parents with every word.
But our parents never vented those grievances on us, although they were all semi-literate people who only knew a basket of big characters, but they always urged us to study hard.
Our local area belongs to the mountainous area, known as the saying that there are seven mountains, two rivers and one field, and no matter how hard my parents work to farm, the food at home is not so enough.
Our local staple food is rice, but there are not many paddy fields, so in order to fill their stomachs, people try to cultivate more mountain soil in the mountains.
Sweet potato is the most planted crop, not only people can eat, pigs can also eat, but also can be made into sweet potato flour, potato chips and other processed foods, the climate is not good years, not only can be full and not hungry, sometimes can also exchange some money.
Of course, after the package production was delivered to the households, our family divided eight points of paddy fields according to the capita, and the enthusiasm for cultivation was high, and there were mixed varieties, and the problem of eating was basically solved.
The children of the poor are in charge of the family early, and our three sisters are quite sensible. Especially the eldest sister, after finishing primary school, she went home to farm, and at a young age, she was responsible for all the housework, not to mention the proper cleaning inside and out, and she also had to take care of the younger second sister and me.
Because there are only three daughters in the family, according to my father's arrangement, the eldest sister recruited Lang (door-to-door son-in-law) when she was 20 years old, and her brother-in-law was Brother Gu from the neighboring village, and the second sister and I did not call him brother-in-law, but called the eldest brother affectionately.
It was also in order to recruit the eldest brother into the door, and his father built three red brick houses.
It is said that it is a red brick house, but in fact, it is the wall of the façade and the red bricks stacked, and the other non-eye-catching wall stacks are all stones. And almost all of those stones were taken from local materials, fished out of the river beach at the door, and carried home one by one.
The tiles are also burned with yellow clay, which does not cost money at all, and the doors and windows are all firewood cut back from the mountains, and the only thing that needs to cost a little money is to hire a craftsman, and the plasterer and carpenter are the bulk of the cash expenses.
But in those days, the people in the countryside were very strong, and whoever built a house, the villagers would come to help, and some would send some dishes such as tofu and chili.
Under such conditions, our family only had 200 yuan, and we built those three new houses. After the eldest brother entered the door, it became their new house.
The eldest brother is very good to our two sisters, and he is really like his own brother and sister.
Although he occupied a room as a "new house", he refused to part with his father, saying that there were still two sisters in the family who were studying, and even if he finished junior high school, the girl would always get married, and this burden could not be thrown to his father. As a result, our family has never been separated.
The second sister's grades were relatively poor, she dropped out of school after finishing junior high school, learned tailoring in a ready-to-wear store in the town, and at the end of her three-year apprenticeship, she learned the craft, and she also met a boy in the town, and the two fell in love.
At that time, the father was a little worried, not because he looked down on the residents of the town, but because he was worried that his daughter would be bullied by her in-laws after she got married.
So, the eldest brother volunteered to help his father "look at the situation".
After some investigation, the eldest brother comforted his father and said that the boy should be a trustworthy person, his parents are also good people on the street, there is only one son in the family, and the second sister should not be disliked after marrying, and may be treated by his mother-in-law as his own daughter.
Sure enough, the second sister married on the street at the age of 21 and became the envy of the villagers. The second brother-in-law is really obedient to her, and she gets along with her in-laws quite well, and she opened a ready-to-wear store in her home in the second year after marriage, and her small life is prosperous.
Because of the eldest brother's specialty of "seeing people accurately", after the second sister got married, the eldest brother had more status in my father's eyes. He made up his mind about the big and small things in the family, and as long as the eldest brother thought it was feasible, his father would never object to it.
Of course, the eldest brother is indeed very discerning, although he is only a junior high school student, he can also write and calculate. After "marrying" to our village, he did quickly gain a firm foothold. Now that his father has made him in charge, he can let go and do it according to his own ideas.
In those years, the eldest brother did a lot of small businesses before and after, and everyone just planted one acre and three points of land allocated to him. Farm work is indeed very busy when the farm is busy, but there are always several months of farming every year, and it is basically a waste of idleness.
The eldest brother is different, he will worry about his father as much as possible to "divide" the farm work, except for staying at home to help during the busy farming days, he has been doing a small business outside.
There was a bridge in our city, and there was a famous farmer's market under the bridge. The eldest brother will go to the market to buy some small things and sell them, and when he sells things, he will also buy some local products by the way, and send them to the farmers' market to make money.
In this way, our family's life has become more and more prosperous, and when the family eats, my father will proudly say to everyone that when I go out now, my shadow is much taller.
At that time, I was the only one studying. Because the eldest brother said to me and the second sister in the early years: as long as you can read it, then you will always study and strive to get admitted to the university, and the second sister will marry after graduating from junior high school, which makes the eldest brother depressed for a while.
As the youngest, I never dared to mention dropping out of school, and after junior high school, I went to high school, but unfortunately my grades have always been inconspicuous.
I also know that I have no fate with university in this life. But in the eyes of my father and eldest brother, they have always treated me as a "prospective college student", and I am not allowed to do the housework at home, as long as you focus on studying.
For a long time, I was proud to be able to do some chores and put down that annoying book for a short time. Under such a psychological effect, the results will naturally not be good, and by the end of the college entrance examination, it will be off the list without accident.
According to my father and eldest brother, it doesn't matter if I can't pass the exam in the first year, anyway, it was very popular to repeat at that time, and they all tacitly thought that I would repeat it next.
But I still made a decision that surprised my father: I didn't want to repeat my studies, and I wanted to go south to work.
At that time, it was already 1988, and the spring breeze of reform and opening up had blown to mountain villages like ours, and young people were also working in the south one after another.
My father was annoyed by my stubbornness, and my eldest brother was not so happy at first, but with my patient explanation, he still accepted this reality very happily.
Because I told her that I really wasn't that interested in reading, and that it would be a waste of my youth to continue reading. All roads lead to Rome, and after finishing high school, I will definitely have a good job working in the south, but is it not as good as those who have not completed primary school?
Now that he has passed the level of the eldest brother, his father's opposition is so pale. In September of '88, I didn't go back to school to repeat my studies, but followed a few fellow villagers on the train to work in the south.
In the late 80s, Guangdong was really full of opportunities, and with a high school diploma, I successfully entered a garment factory in Dongguan.
Maybe it's because I work as a tailor with my second sister, I seem to have a natural liking for making clothes, and I'm willing to delve into those related knowledge.
For two years in a row, I didn't go back to my hometown, not only because my salary was not high and I didn't make much money, but also because I was ashamed that I hadn't yet made a name for myself and had no shame to see Jiangdong's father. Although she is a girl, she was affected by her father's experience when she was a child, and she was more and stronger than others.
But I'm 20 years old, so I can't just stay home. In 1990, I was already working in the factory design department, and I finally returned to my hometown after a two-year absence, and this year, I was 20 years old.
After two years of hard work abroad, although I have endured a lot of hardships, after all, I have a high level of Chinese as the foundation, and I have increased my knowledge in the past two years, and my dress, words and deeds have become a beautiful scenery.
So, a few days after I went home, there was an endless stream of people coming to the door to say goodbye.
At that time, I didn't really care about my own family affairs at all. Although I am 20 years old, and the eldest sister and second sister both got married at this age, I always feel that I am still young and have to make a career to start a family.
As a result, I basically don't pay much attention to those who talk about matchmaking, except for acquaintances who really can't stand the face to deal with a few words, most of the time I avoid them.
But there is one person who can't be sent at will, and that is the big brother. It should be entrusted by my father, and on the evening of the 28th year, my eldest brother suddenly said to me: Little sister, a boy will come to our house tomorrow as a guest, you can clean up and see you a little.
I was stunned for a moment, and then I understood what my eldest brother meant, and rejected his request mercilessly, and said that I don't want to get married now, if I just look for a partner, there are so many boys in our factory, and I can't choose at will?
But my rebuttal was almost ignored, and my eldest brother persuaded me mercilessly but very patiently, saying that the man should marry the woman and you are both 20 years old, and it is time to find a partner. At least you can get to know and make friends first, if you can see it and are not busy getting married, you can go out to work together first, and it is not too late to make a decision after getting along for a long time.
I am very unimpressed by this, but under the "prestige" of my eldest brother for so many years, I am speechless.
The eldest brother continued to introduce to me unmoved, the boy who will come tomorrow is his cousin, who has also studied in high school, and he is the only son in the family, and after you get married, his family is willing to buy a façade house in the town as a new house.
Although the boss in my heart was unwilling, I had nothing to do, and reluctantly said a few words of rebuttal, but the blind date the next day couldn't be avoided.
But I didn't follow my eldest brother's instructions to "clean up well", and I didn't even comb my hair, and when my eldest brother led a boy into the door, I wore my hair and deliberately found an old dress from many years ago to put on my body, just deliberately making myself an ugly duckling.
Sure enough, the boy introduced by the eldest brother, I just glanced at it from the corner of my eye and it was completely cold.
He should be around 1.6 meters tall, not shorter than me, but at most comparable, although Bai Bai Jing wears a pair of glasses quite Sven, but looks very restrained and wooden, sitting opposite me, the eldest brother asked him before answering, which made me even more uninterested.
The meeting process was very simple, the boy only stayed at our house for half an hour, drank a bowl of tea and left. Before leaving, the eldest brother gave him a ride, muttering that he didn't know what to say.
After the other party left, my father and eldest brother came to ask my opinion in person.
Sitting together as a family, I unceremoniously expressed my perception of each other: I am too short, this is not a hard injury, the main thing is that I am too wooden, just like a piece of wood, and living with such a person for a lifetime, it is boring to think about it.
Hearing that I finally spoke, the eldest brother seemed to breathe a sigh of relief, and said to me with a smile: My cousin is actually very able to speak, it should be the first time I see such a beautiful you to be so nervous, you have to believe me, after you are familiar with each other, you will definitely have a common language.
I don't say anything about it, but I can't even think of refuting it. But the eldest brother should have misunderstood me as a tacit acquiescence, so he contacted his aunt and made an appointment to let his cousin come to my house for New Year's greetings.
Hearing the news, the anger in my heart finally broke out, and I yelled at my eldest brother for the first time: Anyway, I won't marry, you let him come, I don't care.
When my father saw that I was so big and small, he immediately became angry, and loudly scolded me for being unruly, and said that looking at the appearance of Xiao Liu, I didn't insult you, why are you so high-eyed and low-minded?
Men are afraid of entering the wrong line of business, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, such a person who knows the roots, you can only rest assured when you marry. Anyway, you have to see people on the third day of the first month.
According to our local customs, on a day like the third day of the first lunar month, an unmarried man goes to the blind date's house to pay New Year's greetings, which is almost "Mao Ding". The man will treat it as a very grand event, and will also bring some essential gifts.
On the third day of the Lunar New Year, the boy really came to my house under the leadership of his mother, but I didn't let go anyway, I still didn't clean up, and even deliberately put the clothes I saw last time on my body, hoping that the other party would think that I was a raunchy girl, and I could wear a dress from the year to the year.
But the boy named Wen Bing seemed to be a wooden braincase, and he couldn't see my indifference to him at all, and Wen Wen still sat quietly next to him, very politely handing cigarettes to my father and the elders in the family to light the fire.
At the "instigation" of my eldest brother and others, Wen Bing talked to me with a few words on his face.
I really don't know if this guy doesn't speak, but as soon as he speaks, I feel very strange, it turns out that he is like a stuffy gourd, and he is still very good at speaking.
Although the rejection of him in my heart is a little less, it is obviously not enough to make me feel tempted to marry him. When it was time to eat, I didn't even want to sit next to him, so I took a bowl and some food to eat on the floor.
After eating, we have dim sum tea, which is a process for our local guests to entertain distinguished guests, and we have to put on a variety of specialty snacks and sweets.
The adults sat together and talked and laughed, as if they had really become in-laws, and the eldest brother also called me over loudly and asked me to sit next to Wenbing and drink tea and chat together.
I broke out again, although Wen Bing's words just now made me feel a little less "disgusted", but it was only a little less disgusted. Now that I sat next to him, my anger exploded.
I shouted to my eldest brother regardless of it: If you want to sit, you can sit, I don't have the heart. Then he slammed the door and went out, leaving his father and the guest looking at each other.
Because of my temper, Wen Bing sat with his mother for a while and left.
As soon as they left, my father's anger came out, and he yelled a few words on the steps, and the more he talked, the more angry he became, and he picked up a hoe next to him in his hand, and came directly at me, still scolding in his mouth:
What is an uncompetitive daughter like you, whether you have it or not, you have to interrupt those fancy intestines in your heart today.
Seeing my father's anger, I began to feel a little timid. The hero doesn't suffer the loss in front of him, and runs around along the ridge.
The eldest brother was really angry when he saw that his father was really moved, and he was afraid that something big would happen, so he had to follow behind and try to stop his father.
In this way, I ran on the ridge in front of me, and my father chased after me with a hoe, but the eldest brother said good things at the end, trying to persuade my father not to be rude.
I don't know if my father couldn't catch up with the young me, or if he was just pretending to chase for more than an hour, and finally he couldn't do it.
I originally thought that the story between me and Wen Bing would end like that. On the eighth day of the Lunar New Year, I still went south again with my bags on my back and returned to work in the original garment factory.
What I didn't expect was that Wen Bing followed him to Dongguan without saying a word and entered an electronics factory next to me.
At first, we didn't cross paths, until the May Day holiday in 92, when a group of fellow villagers gathered, this guy appeared in front of me so quietly.
At that time, I actually couldn't remember this person. But the moment I saw him, I was still moved a lot in my heart: Is he so infatuated to chase me out?
According to the villagers, although Wenbing has only been out for less than half a year, he has a certain status in the company, has become a squad leader, and is very valued by the manager, and he has a bright future.
Talking and talking, the fellows started to "pull Lang match" again, and made our jokes, saying that you can all be regarded as scholars, and you are all managers in the factory, and it is rare to get together in a foreign country thousands of miles away, so why not try to communicate?
It's also strange that when I was at home, I didn't have a good impression of Wenbing at all, but when I met again in Dongguan, I felt a little sympathetic.
And Wen Bing also behaved as a gentleman enough, and took the initiative to explain to me what happened at home, and asked me not to take it to heart, emotional matters are very fateful, since we don't see each other, it's not bad to be ordinary friends.
We tried to get along, and at first, it was true that we had the mentality of being ordinary friends, but gradually, I was still moved by his sincerity.
My work in the design department gradually became more and more successful, and Wen Bing was very supportive of my further studies, so we applied for night school together and became classmates.
When I went home for the New Year in 93, I got married to Wen Bing. From my father to my eldest brother, even my husband and wife always thought that our marriage was really a wonderful fate.
In 95, Wen Bing and I resigned from the factory successively, thinking that we had a certain technical foundation, and scraped together a little capital to open a small garment factory, starting from a three-child old tram, and eventually became a garment company with thousands of people.
Today, our husband and wife are over half a hundred years old, and now the family lives in Dongguan, which can be regarded as a success. Every time I think back to the ridiculous folks when I was young, my heart is full of happiness.
As for his father's angry scolding and eldest brother's "nosy" back then, there is no longer any resentment, on the contrary, only gratitude. #精品长文创作季 ##头条创作挑战赛#