Life is very long, and it is normal to have occasional wandering in marriage.
But once you cross the bottom line of marriage and break each other's trust, you will never go back to the past.
Some people, when they bury their heads in the sand, will live the rest of their lives.
Others, who have since parted ways and lived a new life.
How did the men who betrayed their marriages end up? Do they regret what they have done?
No matter how hard-mouthed, most men who betray their marriage have to admit this sentence in the end:
The first button is wrong, but you don't find it until the last one; Some things are wrong at the beginning, but you have to admit them until the end.
One
When summing up his extramarital affair experience, the famous writer Wang Shuo said:
Cheating is like two greedy people digging up treasure in the ground in a fairy tale, and as a result, digging up a person's bones, they quickly buried them, and even planted trees and flowers on them. But both of them knew in their hearts what was buried underneath. When I see trees and flowers, I think of the bones in the ground.
After remarrying for many years, Lao Wang said that Wang Shuo's words are a true portrayal of his life.
When he was married to his ex-wife for ten years, Lao Wang cheated on his first love.
The reasons for the derailment are very complicated, one is because the married life is no longer fresh, and the other is that the first lover married a husband who is not angry, and the life is not good, and he is very distressed. Of course, the most important reason is that with a little impulse to be ashamed, I want to make up for the shortcomings of my youth.
Lao Wang and his first love were college classmates, Lao Wang at that time, from the northwest countryside, was honest and rustic, and his first love was a city girl who grew up in the palm of his hand. Lao Wang may be regarded as the lover of the first love, or maybe he is just the spare tire of the first love at that time.
But no matter what, the young man who was just beginning to fall in love remembered this girl like a lilac fiercely.
When there was a chance to relive the old dream, under the hybridity of various feelings, the two did not hesitate too much, and came together half-pushed and half-pushed.
But there is no impermeable wall in the world, and then, the east window incident. Lao Wang's ex-wife is a strong woman, she gritted her teeth and resolutely divorced.
After the divorce, Lao Wang was depressed for a long time and did not think about remarrying, but the tenderness of his first lover made him unable to resist, and finally the two came together.
The dream came true, and life seemed to be happy from then on. But the reality gave Lao Wang a hard lesson.
How can a person who has been a thief not guard against thieves? The first love who turned positive began to keep an eye on Lao Wang.
And what about Lao Wang? The same is suspicious.
The two of them are harmonious and beautiful on the surface, but in their hearts, only they know that they are just a masked couple who live together.
Lao Wang even misses the days when he could say what he wanted and speak freely in front of his ex-wife.
Two
Yang Jiang said in "Invisibility Cloak":
Extramarital affair is two sick people who think they have encountered a good medicine, but in fact, they have encountered an anesthetic, and when the effect of the medicine passes, it hurts more than ever, and maybe you will meet Hedinghong who wants your life.
Using this sentence to summarize the second half of Lao Zhou's life is extremely accurate.
After a small success in his career, Lao Zhou did something unfaithful to his marriage and family. His ex-wife quarreled with him for a long time, and Lao Zhou was so annoyed that he chose to divorce.
Lao Zhou is not afraid of divorce at all, he has a career and can make money, and it is too easy to remarry. Even if he is no longer married, he has sons and daughters anyway, and his life is freer.
After the divorce, Lao Zhou did live a free life for many years. He kept making all kinds of girlfriends, only falling in love and not getting married, and his life was very comfortable.
But after turning 50, his business suffered a heavy blow, the money was gone, and the good days were gone.
In order to make a living, he started online car-hailing, worked very hard, and when he was old, all kinds of illnesses came to his door.
Lao Zhou complained to his son and daughter, and his daughter would respond with a few words, but her perfunctory attitude was very clear. And the son directly ignored him.
The son even said very directly:
Remembering us at this time? Why did you go back then?
When a man betrays his marriage, he harms not only his wife, but also his children. When a man becomes the destroyer of the family, in the hearts of his children, he no longer has the majesty of his father and the respect he deserves, and between the two generations, there will definitely be a knot in his heart, and it will be difficult to untie it even for a lifetime.
Zweig said in "The Beheaded Queen":
All the gifts of fate have already been secretly marked with a price.
There is no mistake that does not require a price, and life will eventually be like an electrocardiogram, after ups and downs, it will come down to a straight line.