01
Since the second year of retirement, I have been at my son's house to take care of the children for 10 years.
During this period, the daughter-in-law gave birth to one and the second, completely ignoring the life and hardship of our grandparents.
Anyway, the son and daughter-in-law just think that the child is born for us, and who let us give birth all the time, so she only needs to give birth or not.
Every time my son and daughter-in-law throw our two children to us, and the husband and wife have been to the two-person world, my wife and I can't wait to slap ourselves in the face, so that you can give birth to more mouths, now it's okay, two in three years in a row.
02
Although my wife and I are very annoyed by our son and daughter-in-law's carelessness, we can't help it, who makes the two children so cute, and they are their own grandchildren, no matter how hard and tired we are, we can only survive.
In fact, we only gave birth to it once. After all, the sons have been married for 3 years, but the daughter-in-law has never been pregnant. We were in a hurry, so we said a few more words, but our daughter-in-law recorded it, and she often talked about our birth.
When my daughter-in-law gave birth to a grandson, she didn't need to worry about everything, so she threw all the children to me. I was busy during the day and at night, and in the first three years with my grandchildren, I lost 10 pounds myself.
finally pulled up the grandson, but the daughter-in-law quietly became pregnant with a second child, and insisted on giving birth, saying that the age difference between the two children was not much, and they could just play together and have a companion.
03
The daughter-in-law took into account her physical recovery and her grandson's need for playmates, but she didn't consider whether I could drag it out alone.
I quietly pulled my son aside and asked him to persuade my daughter-in-law to kill it and wait for my grandson to have a second child when he was about 6 years old. But my son thinks that I am shirking my responsibility, saying that it was you who let me have a baby, and now it is you who don't let me have a baby, what do you want us to do?
My son complained and complained, so I immediately closed my mouth, and I could only continue to work hard to help take care of the child. After the birth of the granddaughter, the son and daughter-in-law are still in charge of giving birth and not raising.
My wife and I are tired every day, from our bodies to our wallets, and we have to work on our little granddaughters after sending our grandchildren to kindergarten every day. As for the family's expenses, we have to pay for them. Our grandson's interest class, our granddaughter's milk powder diapers, we also have to pay for it,
04
In the long run, our bodies can't bear it, and our wallets can't bear it. But his son and daughter-in-law still go to and from work every day, and when they get home, Ge You lies on the sofa and plays with his mobile phone.
I was miserable, my wife could only comfort me, and when my granddaughter also went to kindergarten, we would go back to our hometown to care for the elderly and let them take care of the baby by themselves. Although the wish is far away, at least there is hope.
Seeing that our granddaughter is about to start kindergarten, we will soon be able to go back to our hometown for a few quiet days. As a result, my son came to me to discuss, saying that they had thought about it for a long time, and now that the country has also opened up three children, they are ready to fight for another three children to make the family more lively.
As soon as I heard this, my eyes turned a little black, my son and daughter-in-law will fight for three more children, won't we have to continue to stay at our son's house? But the son and daughter-in-law all promised that their granddaughter would let us go when she went to kindergarten.
05
I quickly persuaded my son to dispel this thought, they have sons and daughters, both children and daughters, there is nothing missing, and there are no regrets. But the son just listened to it and went over, and didn't take it to heart.
It wasn't until 2 months later that the daughter-in-law excitedly announced at the dinner table that she was pregnant with her third child, and handed me the pregnancy test report, saying Mom and Dad, you are about to have a grandson or granddaughter, are you surprised or not?
The son was also smiling, saying that he didn't expect them to be able to get pregnant so quickly at the age of 35, which means that they have the fate of the child.
Compared with the excitement of my son and daughter-in-law, my wife and I looked at the pregnancy test sheet repeatedly, but our hearts were extremely broken and painful. said that he would not be allowed to have three children, and his son and daughter-in-law had to go their own way.
06
I considered my tone, or advised my son and daughter-in-law to think twice, after all, my daughter-in-law has reached the age of advanced maternal age, and all kinds of accidents and risks will exist. And raising three children at the same time, the financial pressure is too great, can you afford it?
The son waved his hand disapprerovingly, Mom, the economic pressure is great, but the three children are also a blessing. Besides, we can't afford to raise it, don't we still have your and my dad's pension in the back?
My son's words shattered my hope of going home. The daughter-in-law is going to give birth to three children, and serving the confinement and taking care of the child will be the third cycle.
I said to my son sadly, I am 62 years old this year, and your father is also 67 years old, and we can't take it anymore.
07
The son and daughter-in-law insisted on giving birth to three children, and also comforted us, one is to raise two, and three can also be raised. I angrily scolded my son: You said it nicely, you just have to give birth or not, whoever gives birth and who raises, I have no obligation.
The son and daughter-in-law insist on having three children, and we can't stop it, but we don't want to be used as a free nanny by them anymore, endlessly calling and sucking blood.
Some people may accuse me of being selfish and only caring about myself and ignoring my children and grandchildren, but in life, we are all at this age, and if we don't live for ourselves, wouldn't it be a pity for life?