Sun Yuanjin is a geography teacher at the No. 2 Junior High School in Changqing District, Jinan, Shandong Province, and unlike other teachers, he brings his mother, Han Shufang, to school every day. Her mother, Han Shufang, 71, suffers from Alzheimer's disease, and as her memory deteriorates, she often can't remember other people around her, but she doesn't forget her son.
[1] "Mom, if it doesn't work, I'll take you to work. ”
In Sun Yuanjin's memory, his mother was kind and capable. When he was 14 years old, his father died young, and his mother became the only pillar of the family. Recalling the past, Sun Yuanjin cried several times, which was his son's guilt and pity for his mother.
"I remember the wheat harvest that year, I couldn't wait for my mother for a long time when I got home from school, and I went to the field at night to see that she was cutting wheat under the moonlight in order to save dozens of yuan in machine costs...... "At that moment, Sun Yuanjin secretly made up his mind that he must study hard, and only in this way can he repay his mother."
In the days of hard study, the mother never delayed her son's studies due to family difficulties, but silently undertook everything. Farming, pancakes, and stalls, this rural woman did her best to get up early and stay late to support her family.
After graduating from university, in order to take care of his mother, Sun Yuanjin deliberately chose to teach at a school not far from home. Later, he was transferred to the No. 2 Junior High School of Changqing District, Jinan to teach, and he brought his mother to live together, and the family was happy.
Source: Jinan Daily
Three years ago, Sun Yuanjin discovered that his mother, who had been cooking all his life, suddenly forgot the cooking procedure, which made him realize that there might be something wrong with his mother's body. After the Chinese New Year, I took my mother to the hospital for a check-up, and was finally diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer's disease.
By October 2023, the mother's symptoms were getting worse. When doing housework, I burned all the pots and pots in the house, and almost caught fire on several occasions; With no one to take care of her, my mother would often get lost. Sun Yuanjin said: "The longest time I got lost and looked for an afternoon, and finally she took a taxi back to my hometown, and it took a long time to find my hometown." Since that time, I've been thinking about how to solve this problem. ”
Sun Yuanjin and his wife both need to go to work, their children are in school, and there is really no one to take care of at home.
Sun Yuanjin also tried to hire a nurse or contact a rehabilitation center to take care of his mother, but he felt that the companionship of family might delay the progression of the disease, and finally made up his mind to spend as much time with his mother as possible, "Mom, if it doesn't work, I'll take you to work." ”
[2] The warmth behind the school system
In October 2023, Sun Yuanjin told the school leaders about his difficulties and proposed the idea of bringing his mother to the school to take care of him. But Sun Yuanjin was still very apprehensive in his heart: "The school has very strict rules and regulations, can it be done?" ”
Ma Yong, principal of the No. 2 Junior High School in Changqing District, Jinan, did not immediately agree after hearing about it, "If you want to say that you have no concerns, it must be false." Ma Yong recalled that when they first learned about Sun Yuanjin's situation, they did not make a blind decision, but came to the family's place of residence and conducted a detailed visit and investigation.
Source: Jinan Daily
"Knowing that this old man is still very kind and kind after his memory has deteriorated, and confirmed that it will not affect the normal teaching order of the school, we dispelled our concerns." Later, the school leadership team held a collective meeting to study and agreed that Sun Yuanjin would bring his mother to the campus.
In Ma Yong's view, Sun Yuanjin's filial piety to the elderly should be encouraged and supported, which in itself is also an education for children. As the principal, he is willing to take the risk and responsibility of doing so, and the school has done a lot of work for this, "arrange for cadres to observe around the elderly, pay more attention to the teachers in the office, especially tell the security guard at the door, because she is on duty 24 hours a day, if you find that the old lady is in and out, you must stop her......"
[3] "My mother's life is happy now, and I am very satisfied"
When she first arrived at school, Han Shufang was very uncomfortable, "My mother is not the kind of person who likes to socialize, she always runs to the corner where there is no one, and she didn't like to enter the office before." After two or three weeks of familiarizing herself with the environment, Han Shufang gradually adapted to campus life, "I still like to come here and chat with the students and our colleagues." ”
Principal Ma Yong also observed that the old man, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, was quiet and did not cause problems for the school. Later, Ma Yong proposed to Sun Yuanjin that he could find something to do for the old man, "It's not good for the old man to be idle, you let her sweep the floor and wipe the floor, not to do anything, just to let her have something to do." ”
Han Shufang, who has worked hard all his life and has never been idle, gladly accepted the new task. She can always be seen in the hallway: she wipes the windows and bookshelves with rags, the corridors are cleaned and bright, and the students affectionately call her "hardworking grandma".
When Sun Yuanjin took his mother to the cafeteria to eat, many children would run over and greet him cordially: "Hello grandma!" "The immature child's voice was exchanged for the old man's kind smile; When going down the stairs, many children have to rush to help the elderly.
Source: Jinan Daily
Sun Yuanjin said happily: "Before, she always loved to lose her temper, and sometimes she lost her temper if she didn't say a word, but now when she gets home, she has a smile on her face, and she is in good condition, and I feel much better than the effect of medicine." ”
From the apprehension at the beginning to the integration now, Sun Yuanjin and his mother have changed. "School is more like a place for me to work, it's more like my home." Mother Han Shufang's condition has also been relieved, which makes Sun Yuanjin feel happy.
But Sun Yuanjin also knows very well that the effects of Alzheimer's disease are irreversible, and such days will not last forever. Sun Yuanjin asked a social worker who is engaged in the care of the elderly with dementia how long his mother's state can last, and the answer he received was about two years.
"As the disease progresses, her mobility may also decline, and after losing her ability to take care of herself, she may put her mother in a nursing home as a last resort. It's really a countdown, and I don't know if it's two years or two and a half years, or a year and a half. At least I feel that her life is happy now, and I am satisfied. ”
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