Common Men's Problems: Pursuit and Neglect
1. Introduction: Pursuit and Change
In human society, love and pursuit always seem to be an eternal topic. Men, as part of a social group, show a unique passion and persistence in the pursuit of love. However, as Mo Yan said: "A man's common problem, before he gets a woman, he will try all kinds of ways to do anything for a woman, and once he gets it, he will gradually be neglected and ignored." This sentence reveals a common phenomenon in the process of men's pursuit of love, and also triggers us to think deeply about and discuss this phenomenon.
2. Enthusiasm and perseverance in the pursuit period
1. The attraction of love
In the pursuit phase, men tend to be attracted to the charm of love, and they are willing to give everything for the woman they want. Whether it is a material gift or a spiritual companionship, they will do their best to meet the needs of women. This kind of enthusiasm and persistence often makes women feel the happiness of being valued and cherished.
2. Demonstrate self-worth
In the process of pursuit, men will also show their worth and charm in various ways. They may improve themselves through work, study, sports, etc., to attract the attention of women. At the same time, they will also express their love and determination through words and deeds, so that women can feel their sincerity and firmness.
3. Pursue the hardships and joys of the process
The process of pursuing love is often fraught with hardships and challenges. Men need to overcome various difficulties, such as distance, time, family, etc., in order to get together with the woman they want. However, it is these challenges and difficulties that make men cherish and appreciate this relationship even more. At the same time, the joy and sense of accomplishment in the pursuit process also strengthened their determination and belief.
3. Change and neglect after success
1. Satisfaction and slackness
Once a man gets the woman he wants, they tend to feel a sense of satisfaction and relaxation. In the process of pursuit, they put in a lot of effort and energy, and after getting a woman, this effort and energy seems to pay off. As a result, they may develop a lax mindset and stop working as hard as they used to to maintain and manage the relationship.
2. Divert attention
After getting a woman, the man's attention may also be diverted. They may start to focus on other things like work, hobbies, socializing, etc., instead of focusing all their minds on women as they used to. This diversion of attention may make the woman feel neglected and left out, which can affect the relationship between the two parties.
3. The novelty fades
In the process of pursuit, the freshness between man and woman is often the strongest. However, this freshness may fade over time. Men may feel that women are becoming more familiar and bland, and less attractive and mysterious than they used to be. The fading of this novelty may leave men with feelings of boredom and neglect towards women.
4. Cause analysis: psychological and social factors
1. Psychological factors
The passion and persistence shown by men in the process of pursuit often stem from their inner desire and pursuit of love. However, after getting a woman, their psychological needs may change. They may feel that they have gotten the love they want, and therefore are no longer as passionate and motivated as they used to be. In addition, some men may have a "desire to conquer", once they have conquered the woman of their choice, their desire to conquer will be satisfied, thus reducing their attention and investment in the woman.
2. Social factors
Social factors are also one of the factors that influence the change of men after getting a woman. In modern society, men face tremendous competitive pressure and survival pressure. They need to constantly struggle and struggle in work and life to maintain the standard of living for themselves and their families. This stress may not give them enough time and energy to manage and maintain their relationship. In addition, societal expectations and requirements for men may also influence their behavior. Some men may think that after getting a woman, they should focus more on their career and family, and no longer invest a lot of time and energy in pursuing and accompanying women as before.
5. Coping strategies and suggestions
1. Maintain communication and understanding
In order to avoid the feeling of neglect and neglect after the man gets the woman, both parties should maintain positive communication and understanding. Women should understand the dedication and effort of men in the process of pursuit, and give them enough support and encouragement. At the same time, men should also understand the needs and feelings of the woman, and continue to invest time and energy in managing and maintaining the relationship after getting the woman.
2. Grow and share together
To keep the relationship fresh and attractive, both parties should grow together and share each other's lives and experiences. They can learn new knowledge and skills together and explore new areas and points of interest together to increase common topics and points of interest with each other. At the same time, they can also share each other's life experiences and feelings together, so that they can understand and trust each other better.
3. Cherish and be grateful
In relationships, cherishing and gratitude are very important qualities. Both parties should cherish each other's feelings and dedication, and be grateful for what the other has done for themselves. At the same time, they should also learn to be tolerant and tolerant of each other's shortcomings and shortcomings in order to build a more stable and healthy relationship.
6. Conclusion: Reflection and Growth
Although Mo Yan's words reveal a common problem in the process of men's pursuit of love, they also remind us to face up to this problem and seek solutions. Love is a common cause of both parties, which requires the joint efforts and dedication of both parties to be long-lasting. Therefore, we should learn to cherish and be grateful for what the other person has done for us, and work together to manage and maintain the relationship. Only in this way can we go further and more steadily on the road of love.