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My name is Li Xiaolin, and I am an ordinary housewife, and now I am the storyteller of this family. My husband Li Ming and I live in an old neighborhood of a small city. My husband is a clerk in a small company, and I am a full-time housewife. We have a lovely son, Li Jun, who is the pearl of our palm, and we are proud of his growth.
I still remember that day of anticipation, when my husband and I learned that I was pregnant, we were so excited. I cherish every day of my pregnancy because it is the first time my husband and I have become parents. After a long wait, we welcomed the birth of our little angel, our son Li Jun.
However, just as we were basking in the joy of being a newborn, I was forced to face an unexpected challenge – a conflict with my mother-in-law. Mother-in-law is a traditional Chinese woman with a very strong belief in family ethics and traditional values. She believes that a woman's responsibility is to take care of her husband and children at home, while I am a highly educated woman who has had her own career and dreams. This clash of values has doomed our relationship from the beginning to be peaceful.
After I finished my confinement, my mother-in-law came to our house to help. At first, I was very relieved by her presence because I thought she would be of great help to me in taking care of the children and household chores. However, this is far from the case.
My mother-in-law's dissatisfaction with me was evident from the moment she first arrived home. She was always critical of the way I did things, dissatisfied with my lack of good food, and criticized the way I took care of my children. She even said in front of Li Ming that I was incompetent and not diligent enough. Each time her reproach was like a needle pricking me in the heart, leaving me feeling depressed and helpless.
I tried to be patient and try to improve myself, hoping to win my mother-in-law's approval and affection. I spent a lot of time learning about cooking and parenting and trying to be the best I could be. However, no matter how hard I tried, my mother-in-law couldn't seem to find a single thing to praise, and her attitude was consistently cold and harsh.
I felt very frustrated and helpless, but I didn't dare to show it in front of my husband. I know he loves his mother very much, and I don't want to put him in a dilemma. So, I chose to endure in silence, hoping that this would pass soon.
However, instead of getting better, things are getting worse. My mother-in-law began to sneer at me, and even complained to my husband and family about my shortcomings in my absence. Although Li Ming did not express his position clearly, I could feel the contradiction and pain in his heart. I know he had a hard time choosing between me and his mother, and it hurts me even more.
In the midst of such contradictions, our family gradually fell into tension and unease. His son, Lee Jun, became an innocent victim of this conflict, growing up in a family shrouded in quarrels and indifference, unable to enjoy the happiness and warmth he deserved.
I don't know what the future holds, but I know I can't go on like this. I needed to find a solution to turn things around in our family so that everyone could be happy and fulfilled. I don't know how difficult the road will be, but I'm willing to work hard for our family and children.
I tried to calm down and started thinking about how I could improve the situation for our family. I knew I couldn't put up with it anymore and I needed to do something to fix the problem.
I decided to have a good talk with Li Ming, and I knew that we needed to face this problem together. So, I found a suitable time to sit down and communicate with him.
"Li Ming, we need to talk." I whispered.
He looked up at me with exhaustion and anxiety in his eyes. "Is it about mom?" He asked.
I nodded. "Yes. I know it's hard for you to choose between me and your mother, but I don't think we can go on like this. It's not healthy and it's not fair to our families. ”
Li Ming sighed. "I know this problem has been bothering us for a long time, but I don't really know what to do. I don't want you to have a fight with your mother, but I can't let her speak coldly to you. ”
I gently shook his hand. "I'm not asking you to choose me or your mom, I just hope we can find a solution to the problem together. Maybe we can have a good talk with my mom and let her know how we feel. ”
Li Ming frowned. "I'm not sure if this will work, but I'm willing to give it a try. We can find a suitable time to sit down with Mom and have a good talk. ”
I felt a glimmer of hope. "Thank you, Li Ming. I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, everything will be better. ”
Li Ming smiled slightly. "Yes, we'll fix that."
We decided to wait until the right time to sit down with my mother-in-law and have a good talk. After some consideration, we decided to invite her over for dinner on a weekend evening and have a good conversation.
When my mother-in-law came to our house, I felt a wave of nervousness come over me. I know this conversation is going to be tough, but I also know that we have to be honest with each other in order to find a solution to the problem.
We sat around the table as a family, enjoying my carefully prepared dinner. The atmosphere was a little tense, everyone was tasting the food in silence, and no one dared to open their mouths to break the silence.
Finally, after eating the main course, I plucked up the courage and said, "Mom, I want to talk to you about something." ”
My mother-in-law stopped what she was doing and looked at me with doubts in her eyes. "What's the matter?"
I took a breath and tried to calm myself down. "I know you're unhappy with me, and you think I'm not good enough. But I hope we can be honest with each other and find a solution to the problem. ”
The mother-in-law frowned. "What are you talking about? I have no resentment against you. ”
I know she's avoiding the important, but I can't let her keep running away. "Mom, you know we don't have a good relationship. You are always critical of my way of doing things, criticizing me for not cooking well and not being happy with the way my children are cared for. I hope we can be honest with each other and find a solution to the problem. ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a moment, then sighed. "Maybe I'm being too blunt, but I'm just doing it for your own good. I hope you can do better. ”
I nodded. "I know, Mom. But I also hope that you will be able to give me some trust and support. I didn't mean to be bad enough, I was trying to learn and improve. ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a moment, and then said softly, "Maybe I'm really too harsh. I'll try to change that. ”
I felt a sense of relief welling up in my heart. "Thank you, Mom. I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, everything will be better. ”
Li Ming interjected: "Mom, I also hope that you can give Xiaolin some support and understanding. We are a family, and we need each other's support to be happier. ”
The mother-in-law nodded. "I see, I'll try to change it."
After this conversation, I felt a great sense of relief. I know this is just the beginning and we still have a long way to go, but I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, everything will be better.
Over time, I noticed that my relationship with my mother-in-law had improved somewhat. She stopped being critical of me as much as she used to be, and instead started giving me some support and encouragement. Although there is still some friction in our relationship, at least it is no longer as tense and cold as it used to be.
However, I realized that our family problems were not completely solved because of this. Although my mother-in-law's attitude towards me has changed, new problems have arisen in the relationship between her and my husband. I found that her expectations of Li Ming were getting higher and higher, and it almost became a kind of control and interference. She often puts pressure on him in his life to do what she expects, and this makes Li Ming feel very annoyed and tired.
I'm starting to worry that this situation will cause more harm to our family. I knew I had to take action and find a solution to the problem.
So, I decided to have a good talk with Li Ming again. I know that this is a problem that we need to face together, so I hope to be able to find a solution to it with him.
"Li Ming, I want to talk to you about something." I whispered.
He looked at me with confusion in his eyes. "Is it about mom again?"
I nodded. "Yes. I feel like we need to talk about it again because I don't think our family problems are completely resolved. ”
He sighed. "I know my mom is getting harder and harder on me. She was always around me and made me feel very annoyed. ”
I took his hand. "I understand your feelings, but I feel like we have to do something. We can't let our mother-in-law's expectations and pressures get in the way of our lives. ”
He nodded. "yes, I also feel like we need to do something. But I don't know how. ”
I thought about it for a moment. "Maybe we can try to have a good talk with my mom and let her understand how we feel. Maybe she didn't do it on purpose, maybe it was just because she was too worried about us. ”
He frowned. "I don't know if it's going to work, but I'm willing to give it a try. We can find a suitable time to sit down with Mom and have a good talk. ”
I smiled. "Thank you, Li Ming. I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, everything will be better. ”
Li Ming also smiled. "Yes, we'll fix that."
So, we decided to find a suitable time to sit down with my mother-in-law again and have a good talk. We hope that through open communication, we can find solutions to problems and bring our family back to harmony and happiness.
After some consideration, we decided to invite my mother-in-law over for dinner on a weekend evening and have a good conversation. When my mother-in-law came to our house, I felt a wave of nervousness come over me. I know this conversation is going to be tough, but I also know that we have to be honest with each other in order to find a solution to the problem.
As a family sat around the table, the atmosphere was a little tense, everyone was savoring the food in silence, and no one dared to open their mouths to break the silence. Finally, I mustered up the courage and said, "Mom, I want to talk to you about something. ”
My mother-in-law stopped what she was doing and looked at me with doubts in her eyes. "What's the matter?"
I took a breath and tried to calm myself down. "I feel like something is wrong with our family, and I hope we can be honest with each other and find a solution together."
The mother-in-law frowned. "What's wrong with the family?"
I gently shook her hand. "I think your expectations of Li Ming are too high, and he feels a lot of pressure. He needs his own space and freedom, not being constantly interfered with and controlled by you. ”
My mother-in-law frowned, clearly unhappy with my words. "I'm just doing it for his good. I don't want to see him fail in his career, so I'll give him some advice and help. ”
I understand her concerns, but I don't think she's doing it right. "Mom, I know you're doing it for his good, but I think you're going a little too far. Each of us has our own way of life and pursuits, and I hope you will be able to give him some space and freedom. ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a moment, then sighed. "Maybe I'm getting too involved. I'll try to relax a little bit and give him more freedom. ”
I felt a sense of relief welling up in my heart. "Thank you, Mom. I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, everything will be better. ”
Li Ming interjected, "Mom, I also hope that you can give me some space and freedom. I know you're doing it for my own good, but I also want to be able to live my life on my own terms. ”
The mother-in-law nodded. "I see, I'll try to change it."
After this conversation, I felt a great sense of relief. I know this is just the beginning and we still have a long way to go, but I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, everything will be better.
After a conversation with my mother-in-law, I felt a sense of relief and relief, and the tension in the family gradually dissipated. My mother-in-law also began to give me and Li Ming more space and freedom, and our relationship became more harmonious. I know this is just the beginning, but I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, our family will become happier and happier.
However, just when we thought everything was going to get better, an unexpected piece of news shattered our peaceful lives. I received a phone call telling me that my mother was suddenly unwell and needed emergency hospitalization. I panicked, and I knew I had to go back to taking care of her immediately.
I quickly explained the situation to Li Ming, and he immediately expressed his understanding and support. He comforted me and said that he would take care of everything in the house so I didn't have to worry. I am grateful in my heart because I know that I can count on his support and understanding during this difficult time.
I hurriedly packed my bags, said goodbye to Li Ming and my mother-in-law, and hurried to my hometown. On the way home, my heart was filled with worry and anxiety. I don't know how serious my mother's condition really is, I just know that I have to go back as soon as possible to take care of her and help her through this difficult time.
When I arrived at the hospital, I saw my mother, pale and lying on the bed, looking very weak. My heart tightened, and I knew I had to take care of her as soon as possible to make her feel at ease. I grabbed her hand and whispered comfort to her, telling her that I would stay with her until she recovered.
Over the next few days, I took care of my mother wholeheartedly and helped her through this difficult time. Although I was worried, I tried my best to keep myself optimistic and strong because I knew it was what my mother needed most. I constantly encourage her, bring her warmth and comfort, and let her know that she is not alone and that our family is there for her to support her.
After a period of treatment and recuperation, my mother finally recovered. When I saw her regain her energy and smile, my heart was filled with joy and gratitude. I know it's all thanks to the doctor's treatment and my dedicated care, as well as the support and care of my family.
After my mother recovered and was discharged from the hospital, I decided to go back to my hometown home with her and continue to care for her until she was fully recovered. During this time, I felt the warmth and strength of my family, and I knew that as long as we were united, any difficulties could be overcome. I am grateful for the support and understanding of my family, and I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, our family will become happier and happier.
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