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has just stepped into the door of 20 years old, and Xiao S's eldest daughter Elly has already shown proud learning strength and independent ability. Recently, she received offers from the University of Southern California and the University of California, Berkeley, and many people's dreams have come true. Looking at this long-legged girl with outstanding temperament posting confident and calm photos on social media, fans feel extremely relieved and proud of Xiao S.
However, if you go back more than ten years ago, the family life of the sisters is very different. Xiao S was in a difficult marriage at the time, relying on a hard-earned income to support his family. Seeing that her husband Xu Yajun was traveling east and was drunk and dreaming of death with her hot girls' close friends, she had to work hard while busy with her husband and daughter. When I came home at night, I often drank into the wine glass with tears in my eyes. At that time, my sister Da S's situation was much brighter. With her outstanding acting skills and fashion attitude, she has starred in many film and television dramas, frequently appeared in magazines and variety shows, and is a "fashion queen" sought after by thousands of people. What's more, she married Wang Xiaofei, a popular wealthy businessman, entered a wealthy family with hundreds of millions of assets, and lived a carefree and upper-class life.
The two sisters' living conditions were in stark contrast. Xiao S works hard in a rented small suite, taking care of everything for his three daughters; Big S lives in a mansion of more than 800 square meters and is carefully cared for by her husband Wang Xiaofei. From all kinds of details, it can be felt that the god of fate seems to be more optimistic about Big S. But no one could have imagined that just after all these years, the fate of the two sisters would take a surprising turn...
The astonishing reversal of the fate of the sisters is, in the final analysis, due to their different attitudes and styles towards the issue of "children's education". Although these ancient precepts are no longer taken for granted, the importance of educating children is still the true meaning of life. Xiao S may never have taken off in her career like her sister Big S and enjoyed so much glory and wealth, but her dedication and dedication to this point are far beyond that of Big S.
Looking back on Xiao S's most difficult years, although her family was so poor that "the monthly food expenses were only a few thousand yuan", she never relaxed the education and training of her three daughters. "Every night when I get home, Xiao S will personally supervise the children to complete their homework, and on weekends, I will hold their little hands and walk around to increase their knowledge." Although the family's dress is very simple, it can't hide Xiao S's attention to his daughters at the spiritual and psychological level.
And Big S's actions in this regard are far inferior. Even though the material conditions are extremely good and the family is well-off, "they don't even care much about what clothes their children wear." In an interview with her husband Wang Xiaofei, he bluntly said, "The children are too poorly dressed, and when we have our own children, I must dress them in beautiful clothes." From these words, it is not difficult to hear that Big S's negligence in education has made people a little sideways.
"There is no time to be quiet, but someone is carrying the weight for you." Children's innocent childhood should be the stage that parents attach the most importance to, and it is the cornerstone of all education. Big S is now married again, but the problem of educational negligence has intensified. According to media reports, she "never tutors her children with homework, and the driver does the pick-up and drop-off on her behalf, and she has never even attended the child's parent-teacher conference." You can hardly see her with children, but you can often see her and her husband showing affection in the park.
Fortunately, the eldest daughter Xiao Yue'er and her ex-husband Wang Xiaofei, the "loving father", seized those insignificant times and patiently tutored the children's language skills, which somewhat made up for the lack of some mothers. However, in the end, the education work is neglected to ask questions, and shortages are inevitable...
In terms of seniority, the real-life trajectories of Little S and Big S also draw a strong footnote to the differences in their attitudes towards children's education. In the past two years, we have seen the dynamics of Big S on social media, either with her ex-husband Wang Xiaofei on the Internet "you come and go, verbal war", or with her current husband Gu Junye, showing affection. And the news about the child is still "unheard". No wonder it makes people sigh that "it is difficult to take care of children when they are distracted".
"It's not that there is no division of family affairs, but there is no limit to division of family affairs." Just when Big S was bent on the marriage battlefield, his sister Xiao S's parenting experience made people witness the uniqueness of "virtuous help". No matter how busy she is, she will insist on cooking for the children and accompanying them on their trips. Full of social friends, all warm group photos of the family. The four words "motherhood education" are vividly demonstrated in Xiao S. And in the parenting plan that Big S has been handling for a long time, he has gradually lost his square inch. Imagine how a mother who has never even attended a parent-teacher conference for her children can truly understand the needs of her children and plan the right course for them in life?
You see, Xiao S's eldest daughter, Elly, can travel proudly in the tide of exam-oriented education. This is not only because of her personal diligence and studiousness, but also because of the careful cultivation of her mother Xiao S. Year after year, it has forged the independence and learning strength of today's temperamental children. If the mother ignores the "motherhood education" from the beginning and spends more energy on quarrels and competitions, how can she expect her children to have one day of achievement? Moreover, Elly is only the first step in her studies, and her future life is still long, long and she needs more careful guidance from her mother.
The so-called "rich for no more than three generations", the decline of many families is often due to ignoring the foundation of children's education. On the other hand, those generations of prominent wealthy families all regard "motherhood education" as an important cornerstone of "family is rich and expensive". Big S's current situation has really sounded a deafening educational alarm for future generations...
"A wife is a man's destiny." Although the old saying is simple, it speaks to the important position of mothers in family education. It is not difficult to see from the life trajectory of Little S and Big S that whether a mother has fulfilled her responsibility to educate her children directly determines whether her children can thrive, which in turn affects the rise and fall of the entire family. The mother is the "first teacher" of the child's life, and the cornerstone and guiding light of the child's healthy growth. "Ten years of trees, 100 years of people." Although Xiao S's personal career is not a big breakthrough, she has always grasped the indispensable focus of "parenting", and used her patience and carefulness to build a solid inner strength for the children, and finally succeeded in nurturing talents.
In contrast, Big S's style makes people sigh. She is fond of foreign things, and regards children's education and family affairs as a dispensable "agency work", and she knows nothing about her children's studies and lives. What's even more tragic is that her negligence of "mother's kindness and filial piety" also seems to have imperceptibly affected the child's moral cultivation..."The old horse knows the way, and the children and grandchildren are in vain." Think about it, if it is difficult to fulfill even the minimum responsibilities of being a mother, how can you be qualified to discipline your children and let them go steadily?
"A hundred years of ancestral industry, ten years of cultivating people", this is the traditional wisdom of the Chinese nation. The big families around us who have thrived for generations all regard "motherhood education" as a family heirloom and the foundation of retirement. In contrast, it is not surprising that those wealthy families who are declining neglect their children's education and have unbridled children after becoming rich.
As mothers, we should be involved in our children's education with dedication and responsibility. To be like Xiao S, use his kindness and wisdom to give birth to a new generation. Only in this way can our family and society be filled with infinite hope and vitality.
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