Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In relationships, girls usually don't say what they think directly, but through subtle hints.
When she starts to get bored with a man, she often doesn't tell you directly, "I'm tired of it," or "I don't like you anymore."
Instead, she will convey her meaning through some "hints".
For example, she doesn't reply to your messages in seconds, or replies very briefly, like "um", "okay", etc. Or, when you're together, she's always looking at her phone and distracted.
These are all she's telling you: "I'm disgusted with you and I'm not interested." ”
Usually, when a woman is tired of a man, she gives three hints.
01
A cold response
When a woman starts to get bored with a man, there will be a "big turn" in her attitude.
I used to be very enthusiastic about you, but now I have become cold, and I don't even pay much attention to your words.
This kind of coldness is actually what women want to tell you: "I'm tired of you." ”
Take Phil and her boyfriend, for example.
At the beginning, Fei'er was 100% enthusiastic about her boyfriend, as soon as the message came, she replied in seconds, and as soon as the phone rang, she answered immediately.
It's just that after getting along for a long time, some bad habits on her boyfriend made Fei'er unacceptable, and her attitude changed.
When her boyfriend sends a message, Fei'er often simply replies with a few words after a long time, and sometimes even does not reply at all.
This obvious coldness is like a signal to your boyfriend: "I don't want to deal with you anymore." ”
For men, if you find that your girlfriend is becoming more and more cold to you, then you have to think carefully about whether something is wrong.
As the saying goes, "three feet of ice is not a day's cold".
A woman's coldness is often not achieved overnight, but is the result of accumulation over time.
When a man feels this coldness, he can try to understand her heart instead of blindly blaming her.
02
Reduce physical contact
Physical contact, which is a very obvious sign of whether two people have a good relationship or not.
However, when a woman starts to get bored with a man, she probably doesn't want to have much physical contact with him.
Ah Zi is like this, when she and her boyfriend first got together, the two of them were as sweet as honey. As long as they are together, it must be holding hands, hugging from time to time, and the relationship is so good.
But later, because of some misunderstandings, Ah Zi's feelings for her boyfriend slowly faded, and she began to resist him a little.
Ah Zi is no longer willing to have physical contact with her boyfriend, holding hands and hugging has become less, and the two of them are not so involved when they are together, and even a little absent-minded.
This kind of physical estrangement is actually because Ah Zi is tired of her boyfriend, and there is no other reason.
As Shakespeare said, "Love is blind, but change in love is keen." ”
Therefore, men should learn to capture these subtle changes, understand women's inner feelings in time, and remedy them in time.
03
Frequent quarrels and nitpicking
When a woman begins to get bored with a man, her patience seems to suddenly disappear.
She can become very fussy, easily angry, and can even quarrel with you over the slightest thing.
If you first started dating, she was very gentle and tolerant of you. But one day, his attitude towards you is completely different, even inexplicable.
For example, if you make a slight mistake, she will lash out at you, and you will often quarrel with each other over trivial matters.
This kind of frequent quarrels is actually a sign that a woman is tired of you.
She is disgusted with you in her heart, and she will see that you are not pleasing to the eye, and that is not right, in short, she is all kinds of picky, and she has nothing to do.
So, if your girlfriend suddenly becomes very picky about you, it may be that she is a little tired of you.
At this time, you have to be careful, communicate with her well, and see if you can solve the problem.
When a woman is tired of a man, she will give you these signals. Although it is not deliberate, it is her truest performance.
If these signals appear, men should face them bravely, communicate positively, and find ways to save the relationship. If it really can't be recovered, then at least give each other a decent end.
After all, if there is a relationship that is inseparable, it may also be a good ending to be able to reconcile and disperse.