#头条创作挑战赛#
Those who are careless in their words often lack self-reflection and wisdom; People who speak disrespectfully rarely have empathy and sympathy.
Those who are good at mastering the sense of proportion, create a comfortable and dignified atmosphere in the social field, and reserve space moderately but not unfamiliar.
This is not only the embodiment of personal ability, but also the supreme display of the realm of self-cultivation.
Jokes without measure, hurting people without knowing it
"Zengguang Xianwen" teaches us: "Words will leave half a sentence, and take a step back when the matter is coming; After the vicissitudes of life, he smiled and smiled, and he only had the first to understand people's feelings. ”
This is meant to emphasize that even if you are like siblings, you should not blur the line between teasing and joking.
Humor that lacks sense of proportion and occasion is in fact a disregard for the suffering of others, which is tantamount to rubbing salt in a wound.
The more intimate the person, the more careful it is not to turn the other person's pain or weakness into a joke.
Maybe a joke you unintentionally may become a sword that pierces the other person's heart; What you think is funny can tear apart the walls of self-esteem that others have worked so hard to build.
Words can be like a spring breeze, or they can be turned into sharp blades that hit people's hearts.
An individual's speech and demeanor are a reflection of his or her inner world.
Those who hurt others at the exit are either ignorant of the wind and rain of the world, or cold in character.
It is not acceptable to base one's superiority on the suffering of others and to flaunt one's intellect by belittling others.
Therefore, in life, strictly guarding the door of the tongue, guarding the goodwill of the heart, and grasping the balance is to give the most basic respect to others.
It is the greatest stupidity to ask questions in the first place
In everyone's life, there are hidden challenges and hidden pains.
In the face of curious inquiry, even if we don't say it directly, we also reveal our hearts in evasion and tactfulness.
Unfortunately, there are always people who are keen to dig into the past of others, and repeatedly mention those unspeakable embarrassments and embarrassments.
This kind of "care" is wrapped in enthusiasm on the surface, but in fact it makes people feel like they are on pins and needles.
If you can't experience the suffering of others firsthand, you should not delve into their past, uncover the wounds that have healed, and then ask if the pain is still there.
True kindness lies in silently giving space and warmth to others when they perceive their sore spots, rather than openly touching on sensitivity.
Standing on top of the wounds of others, talking innoccupiantly, is just a display of ignorance and indifference.
The highest level of kindness is not only to understand the difficulties of others, but also to know when to be silent and protect every fragile heart in the most appropriate way.
Really smart people: know how to measure, know how to advance and retreat
In all interpersonal interactions, whether intimate or indifferent, maintaining the right distance is a must.
The experience of life gradually revealed a truth: the most harmonious mode of coexistence often lies in "the moderate distance between acquaintances".
As the old saying goes, the boundaries between best friends are also clear, and self-belief is seamless, but it is easy to create gaps.
The more precious the relationship, the more it needs to be handled properly.
Mastering the art of stopping at the right time can exchange for long-term tranquility;
Learn to keep an appropriate distance so as to avoid unintentional injuries;
Only by comparing hearts with hearts can we win sincere friendship.
Peeping into the lives of others is neither self-beneficial nor beneficial.
It is wiser to focus on the wonders of your own world than to intervene in the world of others.
Straightforwardness does not mean no inhibitions, and intimacy does not mean no boundaries.
Respecting the privacy of others, avoiding touching sore spots, and not imposing will on others are the golden rules of communication.
May the rest of your life be able to clarify the boundaries, understand the etiquette of advance and retreat, and achieve a model of wisdom in the chaotic world.