Author / Shiyan cypress and psychological Qu Harrier Qi
Editor/Shiyan Bai and Psychology Zou Yue
The result of the handling of the fat cat shows everyone's view of love. Men may be thinking about a question, should I face the person I like, what if I pay and get cheated? The confusion that women may face is: should legitimate needs be expressed or not expressed in a relationship? If it is expressed, what should I do if I am identified as a fishing girl by others? This matter has a great impact, and it can be said that if it is not handled well, it will be like whether the old man should be helped after falling down in Nanjing more than ten years ago, causing the whole people to be confused in their sense of morality and love concept.
Nowadays, everyone may wonder, is it wrong to give true love? If that's right, why do some people end up in such a miserable situation? It can be said that the sight of the fat cat may involve the public's view of love, will it collapse? For Tan's behavior, we don't need to over-analyze, this is simply bad, even if you haven't studied psychology, it is easy to identify this bad, and Tan's methods are quite rough and not so complicated. It's nothing more than that I like me according to you, and then I draw you a cake that can marry you, and you want to be good to me and give me money, and as a result, I cheated the fat cat of more than 500,000 in two years.
Let's think about it carefully, Tan's methods are not easy to use on some boys, just because the fat cat is too stupid. According to information on the Internet, there are some problems in the fat cat's original family, his parents divorced at an early age, lack of parental care since childhood, and the contact with the original family is limited to his sister and sister. He didn't go to college, he started to be a game booster at the age of seventeen or eighteen, and his interpersonal relationships are relatively narrow, in the words of psychology, he lacks social support, lacks socialization, and normal people's social relationships generally include colleagues, friends, relatives, lovers, etc.
And the fat cat seems to block all interpersonal relationships in life, leaving only Tan alone. When the fat cat invests a lot of time, energy, money, and emotion in Tan, it will have a huge cost of silence. I estimate that the fat cat can also feel that there is something wrong with Tan from the rational level in the later stage, but his emotional level is that he can't believe that Tan will lie to him, otherwise the lot of material and emotional things he invested before will be wasted.
The cost of silence is quite common in emotional life, and many people have been hurt emotionally. But their long-term dedication in the relationship makes them unwillingly interrupted suddenly, so these victims will force themselves to believe that the other person will change for them.
The fat cat has little contact with his family and friends in his life, which will cause him to put all his emotions on Tan alone. The loss of Tan means that the fat cat's bet on the only relationship with the outside world has been interrupted, which will trigger a strong separation trauma in him.
In life, we will find that most of the love brains are those who did not receive high-quality love in early childhood, and their social aspects are narrow and limited. Once someone builds a relationship with them, they will firmly grasp the relationship and then put all their emotions and net worth into the only relationship, which is extremely dangerous.
There are still some young people in life who always use social fear as a defense, retreat into their own small world, and avoid building relationships with others. They advocate avoiding all relationships that make them troublesome, and then they are free to do what they like without constraints. One downside to this is that all the information they get is always one-way, not two-way. They will only pay attention to what they want to see and hear, which will cause their cognitive biases to become more and more serious.
It is said that Fat Cat follows a lot of emotional bloggers online, but you don't know what kind of information he absorbs by following so many emotional bloggers. Maybe at the end of his life, he is still concerned about how to love someone and how to give to a person's true feelings, rather than identifying someone's malice. And he rarely interacts with people in reality, which will lead to no one telling him that the relationship pattern he is in now is problematic, but if he has a few friends in reality, he can remind him a little, and he will not come to this point.
And in the life of a fat cat, there may only be one voice, Tan, which may lead to him having no way to correct his cognition through other different voices. If we can build a harmonious relationship with this society, then we can improve our awareness. Those with bad intentions will have a narrower and narrower space for their existence. Finally, I wish the fat cat all the best.