Whether it is domestic entertainment, Japanese entertainment or Korean entertainment, in this circle of collapsed houses, it will not be surprising that anyone collapses now.
Recently, the Japanese drama male god Ikuta Doshin angered Japanese women with his confusing speech.
As an idol, it's normal to interact with fans on social media and enhance your relationship.
So a female fan mentioned in Ikuta Douzhen's IG question, "I'm 9 months pregnant today, I'm so scared of childbirth", hoping to get some comfort during this uneasy delivery.
As a result, Ikuta Douzhen replied against heaven and earth: "Then do you want to be coquettish and beg your husband to allow you to give birth painlessly?" ”
This reply immediately angered many women, thinking that the pain of women's hard work and pregnancy for ten months was so ignored, and they still called their husbands husbands, and Ikuta Doshin is also a father, and he and his wife Kiyono Nana also have a child.
Do women have to beg for even painless delivery in a low posture to be allowed?
Even though Ikuta Doshin later apologized, claiming that he understood that the cost of painless delivery was higher, and the wording was wrong, he would pay attention to it in the future.
But Ikuta Douzhen said that the collapse of the house has become a fact, and it is difficult to escape the blame, and the popularity of passers-by has also begun to collapse:
"Your wife allows it? It's really mentally retarded."
"Stop letting these teenage uncles who haven't played social networks talk nonsense on the Internet"
"Thinking that painless childbirth needs to be 'coquettish and begging' is clearly to look down on women!"
Bearing the pain of childbirth, is it the consciousness of motherhood?
Labor pains are an inevitable pain for women to become pregnant.
In traditional Japanese society, natural childbirth is highly valued, and it is believed that it is the consciousness of motherhood that women can bear the pain of childbirth.
And after the incident of Ikuta Douzhen, some netizens voted on the Internet, and most Japanese men thought that there was no problem with Ikuta Douzhen's speech, which also reflected that this kind of neglect of women's fertility pain has become a norm and is regarded as normal.
In the social environment we live in, women's fertility problems are not much better.
Two years ago, "Dear Child" starring Qin Hao and Ren Suxi fell into the controversy of "selling anxiety", and was criticized by the media in moderation.
In the early stage of "Dear Child", the plight and family conflicts of women before and after childbirth were portrayed very profoundly, and it was precisely because of the reality it presented that some people felt that it was too sad and depressing, so it was criticized for "selling anxiety".
Yinuo, played by Ren Suxi, removes his makeup in front of the mirror, and after wiping it, his face is full of pregnancy spots, and after taking off his clothes, he is a thin body and a pregnant belly full of stretch marks in front of the mirror.
There is no girl who does not love beauty, even if she is an expectant mother.
Looking at his changed appearance, he didn't seem to recognize himself, and he was surprised but tried to squeeze out a little smile.
They can't predict what they will become after giving birth, and they are both nervous and uneasy, and this is the mother during pregnancy.
Before giving birth, no one could imagine how much it would hurt, and even at the beginning, I thought: it would be good to unload the goods or how painful it would be to have a baby.
Only when you have been born do you know that kind of painful experience, the baby is born, the first time the mother thinks about how the baby has no voice, how not to cry, the moment of crying, only to sigh and let go of the heart.
After giving birth, the placenta has to endure the pain to "give birth", the pregnant woman's belly will be relaxed, her legs may be unconscious, and even incontinence in bed.
There was also a mother who shared her pregnancy diary and postpartum stretch marks changes on social platforms, but because the stretch marks were exposed in the video, the mother was punished.
Her stomach was judged to not meet the platform specifications, and it was involved in seriously affecting the user's sensory experience, and she was restricted and even repeatedly reviewed, and finally ended up with a ban.
"Unmarried and unpregnant said they don't want to see this, the letter"
"Are overly disgusting photos suitable for public display?"
But in fact, fertility anxiety never goes away when stretch marks are blocked.
The reason for the appearance of stretch marks is also because society needs to face up to the difficulties of women throughout the childbirth process, what it means to have children, including what the cost and trauma will be after giving birth.
Stretch marks are caused by the continuous expansion of the pregnant woman's belly and the tearing of the dermis during pregnancy, and the stretch marks will only slowly decrease, and will not disappear completely, an irreversible stretch mark. Stretch marks can also be prevented and alleviated, but they are often ignored because many people lack this knowledge and lack of popularization.
The entertainment news reported on weekdays even writes that a certain actress is slender, glamorous, and girlish after giving birth.
But in fact, not every mother is glamorous after giving birth, and not every mother has star-like treatment after giving birth.
Only seeing the glamour on the surface will only make people feel that childbirth is a breeze, and the cicada owner also saw a man under a Weibo who said that he thought his wife had a child easily, because it was painless to give birth, and he gave birth to a child while lying down.
"Painless delivery" in childbirth is not really painless, it just reduces pain.
During the fertility process, there will also be lateral incision/tear, uterine contractions, oxytocin, manual removal of the placenta, etc., and after pregnancy, you may also face sequelae such as diastasis rectus abdominis, separation of pubic bone, long-term urine leakage, hair loss, large long spots, prolapse/uterine prolapse and so on.
It can be seen that the destruction of women by childbirth is irreversible.
It is never ashamed of the physical "imperfections" caused by childbirth, which is also one of the prices that mothers pay for their children with the naked eye.
TVB once had a program called "Mother's Voice Every Day", where men and women discussed the "Mother's Sutra" on a large scale. One of the links is to let fathers experience women's menstrual pain and labor pain, and the result is unbearable.
After a woman gets married and gives birth, she can be regarded as a daughter, wife, and mother, but she is also herself, and she is an independent individual, and this identity cannot be deprived.
When the man is a procreational tool, widowed marriage
Menstrual and labor pains in women are actually unbearable for many men.
There is a film in India called "Men's World", imagine if a man will come to his aunt to experience menstrual cramps in the real world; If a man will become pregnant, experience the pain of childbirth; If a man is sexually assaulted...
The film tells the story of the exchange between men and women, amplifying the unequal gender culture that is taken for granted by both sexes in a patriarchal society.
Men watched horror movies, and women watched comedies.
The male protagonist Kieren is a straight man with cancer, and he believes that women occupy social resources by virtue of their gender advantages.
Ladies are given priority in queuing, men have to give up their seats to women, and women can take paid leave when they are pregnant...... These are women's gender dividends, and he shows particular contempt when he sees women calling for "gender equality".
Kieron thinks that the world is too unfair to men, so he makes a wish to turn things around.
He took advantage of his drunkenness to make a wish on a meteor and prayed for a reversal of the gender world.
When he wakes up, as he wishes, it becomes a female-dominated society, where women dominate men in all aspects.
The management of the company became an all-female company, and the former father-son private limited liability company was changed to a mother-daughter private limited liability company.
The position of male colleagues in the company is very embarrassing, but if they make some achievements, they will be ridiculed by female colleagues for relying on "male color".
Female colleagues complain that male colleagues in the company dress explicitly in order to seduce the attention of female superiors, and are often accused of using gender to gain an advantage in their careers, which is a sign of scheming.
In a society where women are inferior to men, men need permission to go to school, work and go out at night.
All in all, men don't have any say.
After the news of the boy being sexually assaulted by a female taxi driver, public opinion in society focused on the fact that the man had to stay at home, and it was his own fault that he was sexually assaulted when he went out in the middle of the night, and he was even forced to marry a rapist because he was already a runaway boy.
Every family teaches boys that they should stay in the safe like money, and not run out to get the thief's attention.
Unfortunately, this kind of thing also happened to the male protagonist Kilen.
At night, Kieren was followed by two women, and was ignored by the women for help when he was escaping, and finally ran into the police station, but was accused by the female officer of wearing such a sexy thing at two o'clock in the morning!
All this unfair treatment and rules are only because you are a man.
In a feminist society, the norm of male superiority and female inferiority has been reversed, which makes the male protagonist panic even more!
His social responsibility is to be a good husband and father, with the kitchen as his companion, a man's lack of talent is virtue, and the value of a man is measured by how well he does his housework.
In marriage, the man is married, and marrying the woman belongs to someone else's wealth.
After the male protagonist Kieren got married, he was forcibly pushed down on the bed by his wife who had known him for a few days, and he had no choice but to leave tears on the pillow after becoming a tool to release his sexual desire, thinking that this was "marital rape".
But it is completely contrary to the view of the patriarchal society he lived in before, and he slapped himself in the face:
"If you're married, how can it be called rape?"
Before the gender change, he always complained about why women could leave work early during their menstrual periods, and only after experiencing menstrual cramps and slumping on the road did he understand the difficulty of women.
In the world of men, the male protagonist limits the existence of his mother to the woman who serves his breakfast, and complains that it is unpalatable.
In the post-gender world, women take the lead outside, he becomes a nanny and a fertility tool, and only giving birth to a girl is meaningful childbearing.
After experiencing all kinds of oppression as a man, the male protagonist shouted to pursue "gender equality" but was ridiculed by women.
Back to reality, in a male-dominated society, women's equality is a cancer of women's rights, and a man's support for gender equality is a big man.
And the male protagonist in "Men's World" has no sense of existence after gender inversion, no matter in life or work, he has only a full sense of powerlessness.
Only after experiencing the discrimination brought about by the "gender dividend" of men and women will he really put himself in his shoes.