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I'm an ordinary Shanghainese, an ordinary woman who used to be in a bustling city, but now writes these words in a country house. I used to be a mom and a working woman, but nowadays, I'm more of a "passer-by".
In this day and age, people are chasing a fast-paced life, as if time is constantly accelerating, and we have to run on this spinning wheel. I think it may be this fast-paced life that has made us drift away from family and family. I used to be one of them, but since I decided to slow down and return to my hometown, I have come to understand the importance of family.
Let me start at the beginning, about that long past summer day, it was a moment that I will never forget......
I, Ye Qing, a retired Shanghai woman, now live a quiet life in my hometown. The house is not very big, but it is enough for me and my wife to live. My wife, Uncle Liu, is a person with a gentle temperament and is my biggest support in this life.
Our children have all started families and are living their own lives. The eldest son works as a white-collar worker in Shanghai and lives a regular life; The second son worked hard in other places and is said to have started a business in a small city. And my daughters-in-law also have their own careers and are living well.
The family seems to be harmonious, but there is one thing that bothers me. That's our grandchildren. We have four grandchildren in total, and they are all cute and smart, but it seems that in their eyes, the existence of us old people is no longer so important.
"Aunt Qing, look, this is my latest painting!" Xiaoyu, the daughter of the eldest son's family, ran over with a smug face, holding a colorful painting in her hand.
I smiled and took the painting and looked at it closely. In the painting is a colorful bird, lifelike with its wings ready to fly. I couldn't help but admire: "Xiaoyu, you are so good at drawing!" He must be a great painter in the future. ”
Xiaoyu heard my compliment and laughed happily, "Thank you, Aunt Qing!" When I grow up, I must be a famous painter and paint you the most beautiful picture! ”
I smiled, touched her hair and said, "Okay, then I'll wait for your drawing." ”
Just as we were chatting lively, Uncle Liu came over, frowned and said, "Qing, look at this month's bill, the water and electricity bills have risen again, and we have to spend a lot more money this month." ”
I took the bill and frowned. In recent years, prices have skyrocketed, and the cost of living has become higher and higher, which is indeed a lot of pressure for ordinary people like us.
"Well, it looks like we're going to have to save a little more." I whispered.
Just as we were discussing the trivial matters of life, we suddenly heard a sharp scream outside. My heart tightened, and I hurried out to see what was going on.
I saw the eldest son's son, Xiao Ming, standing in the yard crying, holding a tattered toy in his hand.
"Xiao Ming, what's wrong? Why are you crying? I walked up quickly and asked with concern.
Xiao Ming sobbed and said, "Grandma, my toy is broken, I don't want it!" Then he threw the toy in his hand to the ground.
I crouched down, stroked his hair, and whispered comfortingly, "Don't cry, good boy, grandma will buy you new toys." ”
Uncle Liu also walked over and bent down, trying to calm his grandson's emotions. "Yes, Xiao Ming, don't cry, don't cry, grandparents will take you to buy a new one."
Xiao Ming listened to our words and finally stopped crying, but his eyes were still shining with tears.
"Qing, you see, why are these children getting harder and harder to carry?" Uncle Liu looked at the scene in front of him and said with a frown.
I also sighed, "yes, these kids are getting harder and harder to understand." In the past, when we were raising children, how could we have so many tempers? ”
Just when we were having a headache over our grandson's temper, the eldest son came over with a hint of displeasure on his face.
"Mom and Dad, I have something to discuss with you." He looked
Serious, it seemed a little ominous, which made me and Uncle Liu feel a little nervous.
"What's the matter, son? What do you want to tell us? I asked.
The eldest son frowned and said in a deep voice: "That's the case, my daughter-in-law and I have been busy with work recently, and we don't have much time to take care of the children, so I want to ask if you can help take care of Xiaoyu and Xiaoming." ”
Hearing this request, Uncle Liu and I glanced at each other, and we were both a little embarrassed. Although we love our grandchildren as much as our own children, after all, we are old, have limited energy, and are constantly trying to cope with the trivial things in life.
"This ......" I tried to find a tactful way to refuse.
"Mom and Dad, we really don't have any other way." The eldest son's voice was slightly helpless, "We are too busy at work, and there is no one to help take care of the children, we really can't stand it." ”
Uncle Liu sighed softly, and his eyes gradually softened as he watched his eldest son, "Okay, since it's for the child, then we'll help take care of it." ”
I knew that Uncle Liu was a soft-hearted person, and seeing that he agreed, I could only nod my head, "Well, since you are really in trouble, we can't die without help." ”
The eldest son was relieved when he heard our promise, "Thank you, parents, I will arrange it for you as soon as possible." ”
Uncle Liu and I glanced at each other and understood in our hearts that although we agreed to help, there would inevitably be a lot of trouble. After all, we are also old, and our bodies are not as tough as they were when we were younger.
That night, Uncle Liu and I lay in bed, facing the ceiling, feeling a little uneasy.
"Qing, do you think we can really help them?" Uncle Liu asked in a low voice.
I shook my head, "I don't know. The way children are educated has changed over the years, and we don't quite understand their current temper and habits. ”
"Well, I have to try it hard." Uncle Liu sighed and closed his eyes.
I couldn't help but sigh that this decision may have been the right one, but we all know that it will be a challenging time.
Early the next morning, Uncle Liu and I started our busy lives. The first is to take care of the grandchildren's daily life, and then to prepare breakfast. Uncle Liu was in charge of cooking the porridge, while I was busy cutting fruits and preparing dishes. Even though we were a little rusty, we tried our best to do it well.
Xiao Yu and Xiao Ming saw us so busy, and they also waited obediently on the side. They may not be used to our slower pace of life, but at least when it comes to eating, they are fairly well-behaved.
After breakfast, Xiao Yu and Xiao Ming began to prepare to go to school. Uncle Liu and I sent them to the door, and watched them carry their schoolbags and walk to the school gate step by step, and I couldn't help but feel a trace of emotion in my heart.
"These kids are growing up so fast." I sighed.
Uncle Liu smiled, "Yes, they are already so big in a blink of an eye." ”
As we watched our grandchildren leave, we suddenly heard a shrill scream behind us. My heart tightened, and I quickly turned around to see what was going on.
I saw Xiao Ming, who was still at the door just now, looking at a kitten on the ground with a frightened face at the moment, still holding a stick in his hand.
"Xiao Ming, what's wrong with you? Why hit a kitten? I walked up quickly and asked with concern.
When Xiao Ming heard my voice, he was so frightened that he hurriedly threw away the stick in his hand, and said while crying: "Grandma, the kitten bit me, it hurts so much!" ”
I squatted down, stroked his hair, and comforted him softly, "Don't be afraid, don't be afraid, grandma will take you to the hospital to have a look." ”
Uncle Liu also walked over, he looked at Xiao Ming's hand, his brows tightened, "How can this be?" How can a kitten bite? ”
Uncle Liu and I both frowned, puzzled by the kitten's behavior. Although we don't know much about the parenting style of modern children, we can't figure out how a kitten can bite.
"Xiao Ming, did you do something to make the kitten angry?" I tried to get to the root of the problem.
Xiao Ming shook his head, "I didn't do anything, I just wanted to touch it, and it suddenly bit me." ”
"Could it be that it is frightened?" Uncle Liu said with a deep groan.
I looked at the kitten on the ground and saw that it was still making a low growl, as if it was demonstrating.
"Maybe, let's go to the hospital as soon as possible." I said worriedly.
So, Uncle Liu and I picked up Xiao Ming and walked quickly all the way to the hospital. Under the doctor's examination, Xiao Ming's wound was not serious, only a small bite from the kitten, but the doctor still gave him a simple disinfection treatment and prescribed some anti-inflammatory drugs.
After leaving the hospital, Uncle Liu and I took Xiao Ming back home. As soon as I entered the door, my eldest son's phone called.
"Mom and Dad, I'm a little busy right now, I have to work overtime at night, can you help take care of the children again?" There was a hint of anxiety in the eldest son's voice.
Uncle Liu and I glanced at each other, feeling a little helpless. We agreed to help, but we didn't expect things to get so complicated.
"Okay, we'll try to help." I could only reluctantly agree.
Uncle Liu also nodded, "Yes, you are busy with yours, and we will take care of the children." ”
After hanging up the phone, Uncle Liu and I both felt a little powerless. These children have completely different habits from our generation, and sometimes we really don't know how to help them.
In the evening, Uncle Liu and I started to take care of the children again. Xiao Yu and Xiao Ming are eating dinner while watching TV. Their eyes were glued to the TV screen, completely oblivious to our presence next to them.
"Xiaoyu, Xiao Ming, don't always watch TV when you eat, it will hurt your eyes." I reminded.
Xiaoyu pursed her lips and picked up a meal and stuffed it into her mouth, seemingly not caring.
Uncle Liu looked at this scene and sighed, "Alas, these children are like this now, unlike when we were children, we still know how to respect our elders." ”
I was also full of emotion, "Yes, today's children are too willful and don't know how to respect their elders at all." ”
Just when we were having a headache about our children's upbringing, we suddenly heard a knock at the door.
Uncle Liu and I glanced at each other, and we both had some doubts in our hearts, not knowing who would visit at this time.
Uncle Liu walked to the door and opened the door, only to see a haggard middle-aged man standing outside the door, with a trace of anxiety and uneasiness on his face.
"You belong to the Ye family, right?" The man asked hurriedly.
"Yes, do you have something to do with us?" Uncle Liu asked politely.
The man looked at us and said with a panicked expression: "I'm sorry, I'm Xiao Yu and Xiao Ming's homeroom teacher, and I have something very important to say to you." ”
Uncle Liu and I listened to the words of the head teacher, and we were a little worried. This sudden situation made us feel a little uneasy, and we didn't know what was going on.
"What do you want to tell us?" I asked, trying to keep my composure.
The head teacher said with a solemn expression: "It's actually about Xiaoyu and Xiao Ming's learning. Lately they haven't been doing well in school, and I'm worried they might need more family care and education. ”
Hearing this news, Uncle Liu and I were a little surprised. Although we knew that the children were a little naughty, we didn't expect them to have problems with their learning.
"What the hell is wrong with them?" Uncle Liu hurriedly asked.
The head teacher frowned, "The main reason is that their learning attitude and grades have declined a little, especially Xiao Ming, who often affects the learning of other students because of mischievousness." ”
Uncle Liu and I felt very sad when we heard this. Although we are not professional educators, as elders, we also want our children to grow up healthy and happy, and to make progress in their studies.
"We'll take this issue seriously." I solemnly said to the class teacher, "Thank you for telling us this. ”
The head teacher nodded, "I hope you can pay more attention to the children's learning situation and give them more care and guidance." ”
Watching the head teacher leave, Uncle Liu and I fell silent. This sudden problem made us feel extremely anxious, and we realized that the growth of children needs more family care and education, and we, as elders, must take on this responsibility.
In the evening, Uncle Liu and I sat in the living room again, thinking about how to solve the children's learning problems.
"Qing, what should we do now?" Uncle Liu asked anxiously.
I also frowned, "We can't just watch the kids do poorly in school, we have to find a way to help them." ”
"But we don't know much about the current education methods, what should we do?" Uncle Liu said helplessly.
I pondered for a moment, and then suddenly came up with an idea, "We can find some education experts or psychologists and listen to their advice, maybe it can help us educate our children better." ”
Uncle Liu listened to my suggestion and nodded, "Well, that's a good idea, we can try it." ”
So, the next day, Uncle Liu and I began to look for experts. We first consulted with some friends and then found a senior counselor through their introduction.
The counsellor was a young lady who greeted us with a smile.
"You are the grandparents of the Ye family, right? I've heard that you would like to consult with the children about their studies. The counselor asked.
Uncle Liu and I nodded, "Yes, we are very worried about the children's learning situation and hope to get some help." ”
The counselor smiled and said, "Don't worry, I'll do my best to help you solve your problem." ”
So, we started an in-depth conversation about children's learning. The counsellor patiently listened to our descriptions and then gave some valuable advice.
"Children need to be cared for and understood as they grow up, and they also need guidance and education from their parents." "You can try to establish more communication with your children, to understand their inner world, but also to give them enough freedom and respect. ”
Hearing these suggestions, Uncle Liu and I felt very inspired. Perhaps we lack some communication and understanding in the process of children's education, and only by understanding more about their needs and ideas can we better guide them to grow.
Thanks to the help of the counsellor, we returned home with confidence. We are determined to work harder to care for and educate children and help them through the difficulties in their studies.
Back at home, Uncle Liu and I sat in the living room and began to think seriously about the advice given by the counselor.
"Qing, the counselor said that it is a good idea to communicate and understand the inner world of the children." Uncle Liu said seriously.
I nodded, "Yes, we may have ignored the children's feelings and only focused on educating them, but this time we are going to try to do it differently." ”
As soon as they finished speaking, Xiao Yu and Xiao Ming returned to the house, and as soon as they entered the door, they saw us sitting in the living room.
"Grandparents, what are you doing?" Xiaoyu asked curiously.
I smiled and said, "We're thinking about how we can communicate better with you." ”
Xiao Ming listened and frowned, "Communication? Do you want to teach us a lesson again? ”
Uncle Liu and I glanced at each other, and we both felt a little sad. The way we educate children in the past may have been a little offensive, but we must change this time.
"No, we want to know you better, know your thoughts and needs, and hope to be able to help you better." I tried to say what was in my heart.
Xiao Yu and Xiao Ming both looked at us with some surprise, as if they didn't expect us to say this.
"Really? You won't blame us anymore? Xiaoyu asked with some hesitation.
I shook my head, "No, we will try to communicate with you in a different way in the future, and we will not force you anymore." ”
Xiao Ming listened, and a gleam of gratitude flashed in his eyes, "Thank you, grandparents, we will work hard to improve." ”
Uncle Liu and I looked at the children's expressions and felt very relieved. Perhaps this sudden problem has become an opportunity for us to re-examine family education, and we will definitely work harder to accompany and educate our children.
Since then, Uncle Liu and I have started to communicate more closely with the children. We often talk to them, listen to them, and try to give them as much understanding and support as possible. Gradually, we found that the children began to become more cheerful and optimistic, and their learning problems gradually improved.
At the same time, we are no longer alone, but actively seek outside help and support. We attended a number of parent schools and educational seminars and learned some knowledge and skills about homeschooling. The accumulation of these experiences has made us more comfortable with the education of our children, and it has also made our family relationship more harmonious.
Time passes like water, and our lives are slowly changing. Although we have faced many difficulties and challenges, we all believe that as long as we have faith and work hard, we will be able to create a better future.
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