I'm 63 years old, and I don't have any friends, some people say I'm too "alone", high-minded, and don't talk to mortals, while others say that I live transparently and know what I want.
Since I was young, I have always believed that the most essential premise of human interaction is the exchange of interests, not to mention colleagues and friends, and relatives are not the same. It's all essentially the same.
01 After the age of 60, I hope to return to my family, care more about my wife, and learn to enjoy high-quality solitude.
Before I retired, I was really tired of dealing with people. I'm a person who doesn't have a deep city, and I'm straightforward, and I suffered a lot of dumb losses because of this when I was young.
I am straightforward and fast-talking, either I didn't use my brain to think about whether to say it before I spoke, and I inadvertently hurt others by saying it, or I said it that I shouldn't say it and was used by someone with a heart.
Thinking about those years, it was really enough, but there was no way, in order to survive, in order to work, you had to make friends, make colleagues, and live tremblingly, walking on thin ice.
After 60, I figured it out, I also retired, and I no longer have any use value, and my former friends and colleagues thought that we were useless, so they simply broke away and cleaned up these unnecessary interpersonal relationships.
Old, who is the most important? It's the wife, the pillow person, there is a headache and brain fever, and the children are not as intimate as the wife can take care of them. Therefore, when I return to the family, the first thing I have to take care of is my wife, who used to give my good temper to outsiders and bring my bad temper home, but now I can change it, first of all, I want to make my wife happy, which is the most important thing.
02 Actually, just because I don't have a friend doesn't mean I won't be able to socialize.
My younger brother is very fond of making friends, no matter where he goes, within 1 year, he will always make seven or eight friends, but I know that these are friends who drink and meat, although they can come over to help when there is something at home, but you don't spend money on entertainment, don't spend time maintaining relationships with them, and soon, these friends will all disperse.
It's too hard to find a real friend, a real friend is whether you often get together or not, eat together, and when you encounter problems, you can make friends, you can resonate, you can communicate, help each other, support each other, such friends, it's really too difficult to meet, and it's hard to find bosom friends.
Therefore, instead of spending money and time to maintain friends with alcohol and meat, it is better to focus on doing your own things, cultivating your hobbies, and taking care of your wife, which are all the capital of your high-quality pension.
03 The most important thing people should learn in this life is to be alone.
Many people love to be lively, and once they are left alone, they will feel lonely and sad, overwhelmed, and depressed.
In fact, we are born as a person, and when we leave, we are also a person, in our life, in just more than 30,000 days, we should learn the two most important things, one is to shut up, and the other is to be alone.
Loneliness is not terrible, make solitude high-quality and meaningful, and you will not be lonely.
After I retired, I learned to have high-quality solitude, for example, I would practice Baduanjin at home, cultivate my self-cultivation, and insist on reading and writing every day, which helped me calm down.
To be alone is to cultivate one's own mind. No matter how lively or noisy it is outside, your heart will not be chaotic, you will not be disturbed by the disturbances of the outside world, your heart will be repaired, your heart will be calm, and you will be healthy and less sick.
Now I don't care about other people's gossip, they say that I am alone, whether I am high or not, it is enough for me to be myself.
Everyone lives their lives behind closed doors, as long as you don't care and keep your heart, no one can interfere with you. Dear friends, there is no one else out there, only ourselves.
Do you like to be alone? What do you like to do when you're alone? Feel free to share it with me!