They not only understand the psychology of men, and will never completely pin their happiness on men, but also know how to maintain themselves in love and let men fall for them.
And their secret is actually very simple, hidden in these words: neither humble nor arrogant, if you are leaving, self-love and self-reliance.
is neither humble nor arrogant, it is their attitude towards men
In the relationship between men and women, some girls are prone to extremes - sometimes they are arrogant and arrogant to men, and sometimes they are inferior to the dust and obey men's words.
Imagine if a woman always appeared in a high-spirited posture and shouted at men, then men would only feel pressure and disgust.
On the contrary, if a woman is always submissive and obedient to men, then men will gradually lose interest and respect for her.
And a high-ranking woman can maintain just the right balance.
They are not overbearing because of their beauty, talent, or family background, nor do they feel inferior because of their status or wealth.
When dealing with men, they are always able to maintain a calm mind, present themselves naturally and have an equal conversation with their partner.
They understand that good relationships need to be based on equality and respect. Such a woman, in the eyes of men, is not only worthy of respect, but also worthy of deep love.
If they leave, it is their secret to playing with love
A high-ranking woman is well versed in the art of wanting to talk and resting, and wanting to welcome and reject. They know that men have a desire to conquer and tend to prefer to chase after elusive women.
Therefore, when they get along with men, they do not fully reveal themselves, but skillfully use a touch of obscurity to attract each other, which makes people's hearts flutter and can't help but be attracted.
Between lovers, the right way to get along is not to give unreservedly, nor to rely on each other tightly, not to mention indifference and alienation, which makes people feel unattainable.
It is moderately dependent, giving people a feeling of near and far, as if the hand is clenched, but it seems to turn into a wisp of light smoke and drift away at any time. This elusive charm makes people fascinated.
Gibran's poem illustrates this delicate relationship: "No matter how closely connected you may be, there is still a gap between you for the wind of freedom to dance in the gap." ”
This is called "distance produces beauty".
Love needs a spark of passion, and if you are about to leave, you can inject a constant freshness into the relationship, making every meeting full of anticipation.
When a high-ranking woman gets along with a man, she can always maintain a posture of imminent detachment. They are as hot as fire when they are passionate about men, and as cold as ice when they are cold. Neither too close nor too restrictive.
It is this elusive mystery that makes men feel unprecedented challenge and excitement in their pursuit of them.
And it is precisely this experience of continuous experimentation and exploration that makes men more and more obsessed with them.
Self-love and self-reliance are the core source of their charm
A high-ranking woman knows that in order to win the affection of others, she must first learn to cherish and treat herself.
They are good at listening to their inner voice, taking care of their emotional needs, and at the same time, they also focus on self-growth and improvement, and constantly strive for a better version of themselves.
A woman who loves and is self-reliant, confident and dazzling. Their every move, every smile and smile reveals a unique style, which makes people can't help but look sideways.
Such a woman not only makes men appreciate and admire, but also deeply captures their hearts and wins their heartfelt respect and love.
I once had a student who was also quite an independent girl, but after she got married, she put all her focus on her husband and almost forgot that she existed.
As time passed, she noticed that her husband was becoming more and more cold towards her.
After taking many of my classes, she realized that she had never really loved herself and always put her husband's needs first and neglected her inner feelings.
So, she decided to make a change and began to pay attention to her heart, to find and pursue those buried dreams and interests.
For example, sign up for baking classes, learn yoga, and join a writing club.
These activities breathed new life into her life, and more importantly, she learned to express her needs and feelings.
When she no longer just revolves around her husband, her husband began to take the initiative to care about her and was pleasantly surprised by her changes.
Self-loving and self-reliant women are more attractive in love, they have the courage to love others, not only dare to love deeply, but also have the confidence and freedom to leave at any time.
They will not sacrifice their principles and bottom line in order to cater to men, but can stand by themselves and remain independent.
This spirit of independence not only makes men look up to them, but also makes them deeply aware of the value of these women, so that they cherish and respect their existence more.
There is a good saying: "People who are willing to get along with you for a long time will always appreciate your comfortable and independent demeanor." ”
High-ranking women know this well, they know that only by self-love and self-reliance can they win true love, and can they take the lead in love, and they will not be easily swayed and manipulated by men.
They are like a blooming flower, they don't need anyone's support and support, and they can bloom with the most beautiful brilliance.