People must prosper, and they cannot rest on their laurels.
However, it is not a skill to go out, but you can come back after you go out, which is the ability.
The best life is to advance and retreat freely, and the time of a lifetime seems to be long, but in fact, it is just entering the house and leaving the house.
We have become rich in order to have a decent home, and after we are rich, we have to return home to live a stable life.
After becoming rich, you must understand an ancient adage: people do not go three times, and they will not be prosperous when they go home.
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A place to show off: It is better to walk at night in brocade clothes than to return home.
At the end of the Qin Dynasty, the smoke was everywhere, and Liu Bang and Xiang Yu took advantage of the situation.
Xiang Yu has become an overlord, and his strength is better than Liu Bang.
Talking about the ideals of the future, Xiang Yu said: "Wealth does not return to the hometown, such as brocade clothes at night." ”
In his bones, he wants to do a big thing, make himself famous, and then return to his hometown to enjoy the "envious eyes of his father and fellow villagers".
This is similar to some of our villagers today, driving home in luxury cars, honking the horn at the entrance of the village, hoping that the villagers will pay attention.
There are also people who, when they arrive at the entrance of the village, meet the aunts and uncles, they scatter cigarettes, and they are all good smokes.
Or some people, for the sake of face, rented a luxury car, and it seems that they have developed this year.
Of course, there are even people who build tall houses in their hometowns, even if the houses are not inhabited, but they have become a landmark in the village, so they have a lot of face and great style.
If you think about it seriously, "returning home" is not simply returning to the hometown and having a good time, but showing off.
Remember the truth: "What you show off, you lose." ”
Xiang Yu finally lost his "life" and did not become the master of the world. On the contrary, it is Liu Bang, whose strength is not so good, but he sits on the world.
For those who return to their hometowns today to show off, there will also be several harms.
First, I spent some unnecessary money to build a big house and do renovations. As a result, the house cannot be used, resulting in waste.
Second, because you show off too much, everyone in the village is jealous and secretly embarrass you.
Third, showing off will lead to being poor and confused by past achievements.
Fourth, you go to the village to invest blindly, which is what it looks like to be in the water. After all, the layout of the village is too small to accommodate you, a great bodhisattva.
People of the older generation often say: "If you are poor, you will not go to your relatives, and if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown." There is a deep truth to this.
Or keep going where you can make money, even if it's a foreign country.
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A place with a lot of people: It's better to be alone than to stand out from the crowd.
When you are rich, there are so many people around you. I don't know if it's relatives who have been separated by generations, they will come to you, hoping to have a chance to make a fortune.
There are also a lot of people who are not very familiar with each other, flattering, making you fluttering, and inviting you to eat and drink.
As for you, don't think that "there are many people who are powerful", but you should see clearly that "there are many people".
As the saying goes, when the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds.
Liu Yong, a talented man in the Song Dynasty, Liu Yong left his hometown and went to Hangzhou, Suzhou and other places, shuttling between major green buildings.
The Qinglou woman admires his talent and is honored to get his poems.
Liu Yong wandered among the women's group and said: "Listen to the flute and drum while drunk, and enjoy the smoke." ”
After years of hard work, he became an official of the imperial court.
But he was still wandering in the Qinglou, and some officials impeached Liu Yong for his immodest style. As a result, Yoo Yong was dismissed.
Song Renzong was also quite displeased with Liu Yong, and said, "Let's go and fill in the words."
The career is not smooth, life falls to the trough, Liu Yong sighed: "In the sound of the broken hong, the sun is set up." ”
In the Qinglou, Liu Yong was a celebrity and was pushed to the middle of the stage, but he was polluted by unhealthy tendencies and had a lifetime of sleepiness.
Zhao Yuping, a teacher from "Hundred Lectures", said: "A crane, if you have to go to the chickens, then there are only two final results: either you can only be assimilated by the chickens, or you are forced to die by the chickens." ”
When you are rich and rich, go to a place with many people, and you are a "master" in the eyes of everyone. But if you have been in the group for a long time, you will meet people who are jealous of you, people who praise you, people who hurt you in the dark, and people who deceive you...... All kinds of people are coming, and your life will be trapped.
The ancients admonished us: "The spear strikes the bird, and the knife cuts the snake on the ground." ”
Rather than being controlled in a crowd, it is better to be alone.
The richer you are, the higher your life is, and there are not many people who can match you.
The crowd is mostly a pyramid structure, with many people at the bottom and few at the top. You have to get used to going to a group with fewer people, and if you don't have a suitable group, don't be afraid to walk alone.
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The Land of Wind and Flowers: I'd rather have an old husband and wife than look at it.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan Zi, the minister of Qi, helped deal with national affairs and sent an envoy to Chu to make meritorious contributions.
In order to praise Yanzi, Qi Jinggong married his daughter to Yanzi.
Yanzi refused.
Qi Jinggong didn't understand: "My daughter is young and beautiful, and your wife is old and ugly, why are you not satisfied?"
Yan Zi said: "My wife, when she was young and beautiful, accompanied me in her struggle. Now she's old, but how can I abandon her? I promised to love her for the rest of my life, and I have to do it. ”
The sage Confucius heard this story and praised it: "Don't take one's own right, refute the wrongs of others, and excuse yourself to avoid blame, and be righteous." ”
Don't abandon your family because you're rich, and don't go to lustful places because your pockets are bulging.
When you meet someone who is beautiful and the other person still loves you as you get older, then something is wrong. He will love your money and will break up your family, and you will be the unlucky one in the end.
In any family motto, there is a clause: "Refuse temptation." ”
In "Zhu Zi's Family Motto": "The beautiful concubine is not the blessing of the boudoir." ”
In "Yan's Family Motto": "Don't be contaminated with delusion." The husband sings and the wife follows the truth and harmony. ”
True love is to accompany a lifetime, and it is to love a person's youth and love a person's old age.
May the people who accompany you all your life not complain about your troughs and not be jealous of your peaks. Anyway, the ups and downs, all together.
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A person's wealth is the result of his own struggle and the result of the concerted efforts of the family.
If you indulge a little, you're in vain.
It's like a dam, it takes a few years to build it, it can store water for a few months, and then it will collapse in a few minutes.
The richer and richer life is, the more we must guard against the slightest and be strict with ourselves.
Go to the above places less, and go home for dinner when you have nothing to do.
In case you go, you immediately remember that the place of right and wrong is not suitable for a long time.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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