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My name is Li Jingjing, I am 32 years old this year, and I am an ordinary housewife. My husband and I just settled on the AA system, and we thought it would be fairer, after all, we are both people who work and earn money. We live in a small city and have a lovely two-year-old son named Xiaobao. My husband's name is Li Ming, a middle-level manager of a private company, and he is busy with work, but he is also a good man who takes care of his family.
Just when we were just trying the AA system, a small family storm quietly came. It was a Saturday afternoon, I was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen, Li Ming was reading the newspaper in the living room, and Xiaobao was taking a nap in the bedroom. Suddenly, the doorbell rang. I wiped the flour from my hands, walked to the door, and when I opened it, standing at the door was my husband's mother, who was my mother-in-law, who was holding our grandson, Li Ming's younger brother's child, a little boy with big eyes and fair skin, who looked to be only four or five years old.
"Mom, why are you here?" I asked, a little surprised.
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "Jingjing, I want to come and see you, and by the way, I will bring Xiaobao over to reunite with you." ”
I looked at Li Ming with some embarrassment, and he also seemed a little hesitant. After all, we now have our own rhythm of life, and suddenly having a child will have a big impact on our lives. But seeing the gentle smile of our mother-in-law, we were embarrassed to refuse directly.
"Alright, Mom, come in and sit down. I smiled and let them in.
"Jingjing, I'll go to the bedroom with Xiaobao first, he may not be awake yet. As she spoke, she turned and walked to the bedroom.
Li Ming and I looked at each other and smiled, and then I went back to the kitchen to continue to be busy, while Li Ming accompanied my mother-in-law to chat in the living room.
After a while, Xiaobao woke up, I came out with him, and my mother-in-law was so happy when she saw Xiaobao that she couldn't close her mouth, and while teasing Xiaobao to play, she told us interesting things about Xiaobao. Watching the interaction between her and Xiaobao, I can't help but feel warm in my heart, or many children, the atmosphere at home will be more lively.
At dinner, our family sat around the table and enjoyed a hot meal. However, after eating, when it was time to settle the bill, a small embarrassment quietly happened.
"Mother-in-law, the dinner money is 60 yuan, and Xiaobao's meal money is 30 yuan. I said as I handed the bill to my mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law looked at the bill, then smiled and said, "Oh, do you still need to worry about this little money? ”
I looked at Li Ming, and he also looked at me with some embarrassment, after all, we had just set the AA system, and it would be a little embarrassing to suddenly ask my mother-in-law to pay.
"Mom, in fact, we recently set the AA system, do you think this will work?" Li Ming said tentatively.
When my mother-in-law heard this, her face changed slightly, and she said with some dissatisfaction: "AA system? But, since you say so, well, I'll treat you to a meal next time. ”
Li Ming and I looked at each other awkwardly, feeling a little uncomfortable. This time it was a relief to resolve the embarrassment, but we also know that this problem may arise in the future. After all, our family relationships need to be carefully adjusted.
My mother-in-law stayed at our house for a few days, and life was peaceful. During the day, Li Ming and I go to work, while my mother-in-law takes care of Xiaobao, occasionally going out for a walk or going to a small park nearby. In the evening, three generations of us sat around for dinner, chatting about family life, talking and laughing, but also having fun.
However, over time, some small details began to reveal contradictions. For example, at the dinner table, my mother-in-law is very doting on Xiaobao and always gives him food first, while Li Ming and I feel that Xiaobao should learn to eat by himself and cultivate independence. This small difference gradually brews dissatisfaction and contradictions between us.
One night, Li Ming and I were watching TV in the living room, and my mother-in-law came in with Xiaobao and said with a smile: "Jingjing, you see Xiaobao has learned a new skill today." ”
I smiled and asked, "What skill?"
The mother-in-law said proudly, "He can use chopsticks to pick up things!" I taught him today, and he learned. ”
I looked at Xiaobao with some surprise, he was sitting upright in his mother-in-law's arms, holding a pair of chopsticks in his hand, carefully holding a piece of tofu on the table, and he did look very good.
Li Ming also smiled and said, "Xiaobao is awesome! However, Mom, we said before that we should let Xiaobao develop the habit of eating by himself and not rely too much on us." ”
When the mother-in-law heard this, she said with some dissatisfaction: "What does it matter? Children learn things only by practicing more, and there will be no major problems if I teach them." ”
Li Ming and I looked at each other, and I said softly, "Mom, should we let Xiaobao learn slowly by himself? Otherwise, he will become too dependent on others." ”
When the mother-in-law heard this, the expression on her face stiffened a little, she was silent for a while, then lowered her head and said softly, "Okay, I know." ”
This little argument seems to have widened the distance between us. In the next few days, my mother-in-law became a little cold, and Li Ming and I were no longer as amiable as before. After all, family relations are a delicate and complex thing, and a small contradiction may affect the entire atmosphere.
However, an even greater contradiction is yet to come. The night before my mother-in-law was to leave, we had an even more heated argument that might have completely changed our relationship.
That night, our family had dinner at the dining table, and the atmosphere was a bit dreary. The mother-in-law held the dishes and chopsticks, without saying a word, with a hint of displeasure on her face. Li Ming and I were also silent, and we both knew in our hearts that such an atmosphere was not a long-term solution.
After eating, I cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks and was about to go to the kitchen to wash the dishes, but my mother-in-law suddenly spoke: "Jingjing, I don't think you have enough respect for me." ”
I was stunned for a moment, I didn't expect my mother-in-law to suddenly ask such a question, I was a little surprised and asked, "Mom, where did we disrespect you?"
The mother-in-law said in a deep voice: "You don't let me meddle in my affairs, you don't let me educate Xiaobao, and I feel very uncomfortable even if you have to settle the food money with me." ”
I listened, and I panicked, and I knew that this quarrel was inevitable. I tried to explain: "Mom, it's not that we disrespect you, it's just that we hope to give Xiaobao a healthy growth environment so that he can learn to be independent, so that it will be good for him in the future." ”
But the mother-in-law said reluctantly: "The child is my grandson, of course I know how to educate him." Don't always meddle, I have my own way. ”
Li Ming saw that the atmosphere was a little tense, and hurriedly came out to speak: "Mom, it's not that we don't trust you, it's just that we feel that we should respect each other's ideas, after all, we are also Xiaobao's parents." ”
When the mother-in-law heard this, she shook her head: "Your idea is too modern, I think you don't respect your elders." ”
Li Ming and I glanced at each other, and we both felt a little uncomfortable. After all, we want to give Xiaobao a healthy and happy growth environment, but at the same time, we don't want to hurt my mother-in-law's feelings. However, this quarrel has deepened the contradictions between us.
That night, neither of us spoke again, each immersed in our own thoughts. Until late at night, I was in bed, unable to sleep. I know that this quarrel is not only about education, but also about the entanglement of family relationships. We need to find a solution to restore our relationship to its former harmony.
Early the next morning, I discussed it with Li Ming and felt that I should have a good talk with my mother-in-law to find a solution to the problem. So, we made an appointment to sit down together after dinner and have a good conversation.
In the evening, our family sat at the table and ate a hearty dinner, and the atmosphere was still a little heavy. However, Li Ming and I are both determined to solve this problem.
After eating, I cleared my throat and said, "Mom, we all felt very unhappy about our quarrel last night. I think we should have a good conversation and find a solution to the problem. ”
My mother-in-law looked at us, nodded, and motioned for us to continue.
I continued, "Mom, I know that your care and love for Xiaobao is genuine, and we are very grateful. However, as Xiaobao's parents, we also hope to give him a healthy growth environment so that he can learn to be independent and self-reliant. It's not that we don't trust you, we just hope that we can respect each other and work together. ”
Li Ming also said: "Mom, we know that you have your educational philosophy, but we also hope that you can understand our thoughts. We're not trying to deal with you, we just want to have better communication and understanding between us. ”
The mother-in-law listened, was silent for a while, and then said softly: "Actually, I also know that you are for Xiaobao's good, and I am not unwilling to listen to your opinions." It's just that sometimes, I feel like you're not respecting me enough and it makes me feel a little hurt. ”
Li Ming and I listened to it, and our hearts were a little moved. We know that my mother-in-law really loves Xiaobao, but there is just a little deviation in her expression. So, I smiled and said, "Mom, we will consider your opinion more in the future, and we will respect you more." Hopefully we can get along better with each other. ”
Li Ming also hurriedly said: "Yes, Mom, we will communicate more in the future so that you don't feel hurt." ”
When the mother-in-law heard this, a smile appeared on her face, and she said with a smile: "Okay, then we will understand each other in the future and work together to give Xiaobao a happy family." ”
Li Ming and I glanced at each other, and we both felt relieved. Although this quarrel caused some friction between us, it also allowed us to get to know each other more deeply and made our family relationship stronger.
After that in-depth communication, the atmosphere in my house has obviously become much more relaxed and harmonious. My mother-in-law has also begun to integrate more into our lives, and Li Ming and I have become more respectful of my mother-in-law's opinions and suggestions.
Every night, we would sit around the table for dinner, talking and laughing. My mother-in-law would often amuse us with some interesting stories from her childhood, and Xiaobao was very happy because of it. Li Ming and I will also take the initiative to ask my mother-in-law's opinion so that she can feel the importance of being at home.
Not only that, Li Ming and I also specially arranged some time to walk with my mother-in-law and go to the park to play, so that she could feel the warmth and care of the family. My mother-in-law was also very pleased with our changes, and she often boasted about the harmony and happiness of our family when chatting with neighbors and friends.
In terms of educating Xiaobao, Li Ming and I also pay more attention to communication with our mother-in-law and respect her education methods. We began to learn to listen to each other's opinions, negotiate with each other, and give Xiaobao a more comprehensive growth environment.
As the days passed, the atmosphere of my house became better and better, and the relationship between me and Li Ming became more harmonious. With our joint efforts, my mother-in-law has slowly integrated into our family and become an indispensable part of our lives.
Through this family turmoil, we not only solved the previous conflict, but also made our relationship closer, and made us more aware of the importance of family. I believe that in the days to come, we will face the challenges of life together and create a better future together.