It is true that the bride price depends on whether the man takes the initiative or not, but the main character of the bride price is a color word, just an auspicious picture, but many people open their mouths for hundreds of thousands and do not give a dowry, which is very inappropriate.
The woman can't force it to ask for hundreds of thousands, and the man can't force it to get the bride price back, so it's emotionless and boring.
My friend told me: I also have a daughter, and she is very good, I told my daughter, you want to start a family in the future, I will not ask for a bride price, I just hope you find the same as your three views, mutual respect, and knowledge. opened his mouth to ask for a bride price, and he felt like he was selling his daughter.
Don't ask for a bride price too much. Since ancient times, in the past, when daughters got married, they basically did not bear the support of their parents, and the bride price was compensation for their parents. Now the situation is different, and it is also given according to the respective situation.
In ancient times, the man paid attention to the right family, and the man's dowry and the woman's dowry corresponded, and the dowry was generally higher than the dowry, and some were doubled.
This money is brought by the woman to the small family, and is generally in the hands of the woman, but it will be used to supplement the family. A woman with a small dowry is looked down upon by others.
The kind of unilateral payment to the woman's parents belonged to concubines in ancient times, and concubines were equivalent to goods and had no status, and the husband's family could give them away or resell them to others at any time.
Some of the current women's families not only want to marry like their wives, but also covet the wealth of the concubine.
The poorer the family, the more money is lacking, the more the bride price is required, and the city generally does not have a bride price, so it really does not look at that much money. Reaching out to ask for money is the first thing to be looked down upon.
After spending so much bride price to get married, is it true that after marrying back, the wife will obey her orders? The wife who has emptied the family savings and married back, and has to serve like a leader, for fear that she will be unhappy, which boy still wants to get married?
Many women's parents, even if they are not married, even if they are so clear, then forget it. From ancient times to the present, those who do not bring back the bride price are called selling their daughters.
You either do it according to the new style and don't want the bride price, or you come according to the old rules and give the bride price for your daughter to bring back, how can you want the old rules to be good and not bear the responsibility of the old rules?
Marriage is to support each other, and when one party is in trouble, they have a care for each other, which is a relationship in which one plus one is greater than two. You spend your own money, or you should live by yourself.
If you don't bring it back, it's terrifying, people marry you, it's to share honor and disgrace, and you're willing to die, I mean the bride price for your wife (new family), you must be willing.
The meaning of the bride price should also be like this, my friend married a daughter, afraid that her daughter would suffer, so she discussed with her in-laws and gave 200,000 yuan each to assist them.
In fact, you can ask for a little less bride price, as for whether the bride price should be brought back to the mother-in-law's house, it depends on the economic conditions and ideas of the woman's family, and it cannot be mandatory to bring it back to the mother-in-law's house.
Nowadays, many women want to protect their palms upwards and treat marriage as a business! Can a boy respect this marriage?
The bride price is the attitude of the man, and giving more and less is the support for the child's small family, not the money for the woman's parents to sell their daughter, because the birth of a child must be guaranteed, and the woman can not give birth.
My colleague told me: I don't give much bride price, my family in the countryside, and his family in the city. When I went to college, I didn't have much money left at home.
After going to work, getting engaged. When I bought a house, the target family took half of the down payment, and I took half of the down payment here (my parents borrowed a part, and I saved a part), and after taking the money, I basically had no money.
The name of the house is ours, and the loan is repaid by my provident fund. We took more than 10,000 yuan of the gift money collected by my family, but we didn't ask for it here. Think about it at that time, when I got married, I didn't give much dowry, and the object was pregnant and hadn't handed over the house.
Now, the children are 8 years old. Look at the right person, the bride price is not important, you can pay for the small family together equally. The others, both of them have a family, and they have to resist the wind and rain!
Some people say that the woman's parents raised their daughter, 10,000 a year, 200,000 in 20 years, did they grow up drinking the northwest wind?
Everything is bought by your family, and you have taken a fancy to your family's things? What is there in other people's mother's houses? I don't know what is going on, to put it bluntly, if you get divorced, it is equivalent to your whole family prostituting for nothing!
If you have such thoughts, you should not have children at all, and the daughter you give birth to should not be married, can't you just keep her as an old woman?
You gave birth to a child and raised a child, that is your obligation, and you will not let her start a family, what's the use of keeping it, and you want to use it to sell it for money?
If you want a bride price without a dowry, to put it bluntly, you are selling a girl, a man with backbone and ability, no one will want a woman from this kind of family haha, supporting the elderly will show it in the future, using the rhetoric of money, it is too fake, it seems that if you don't give money, you won't support it Yes.
Women can mention the bride price, is it wrong for the man to ask to bring it back, there is no requirement for the woman to + dowry 168,000, it is good to bring it in together, after all, the man has a bride price, and the woman does not have to pay the dowry?
My classmate is also yes, I talked with his girlfriend for three years, the woman's family asked for 300,000 dowry, and made it clear that 300,000 yuan would not be brought back, and his family also gave him 300,000 yuan, but this kid directly bought a Volkswagen CC, and the rest of the money bought a watch.
All the women who mention the bride price don't understand one thing: the bride price itself is not the point, the point is whether you are worth the price. : If you can do it with three virtues and four virtues, husband and children, and filial piety to your in-laws, I don't think anyone will be disgusted with giving a bride price.
The symbolic bride price of 35,000 yuan, as well as the sense of ceremony, is very good. It's okay to set aside some money to start a small family, but you can't use it as income, it's shameless.
But if there are 200,000 or even 300,000 or 400,000 at every turn, it belongs to selling girls or selling themselves!
Bride price, your parents have worked hard all your life, and you need a bride price to raise you. What do the two young people think? Although the old people on both sides give you money just to make your young couple a little more comfortable.
In ancient times, the man paid attention to the right family, and the man's dowry and the woman's dowry corresponded, and the dowry was generally higher than the dowry, and some were doubled.
This money is brought by the woman to the small family, and is generally in the hands of the woman, but it will be used to supplement the family. A woman with a small dowry is looked down upon by others.
The kind of unilateral payment to the woman's parents belonged to concubines in ancient times, and concubines were equivalent to goods and had no status, and the husband's family could give them away or resell them to others at any time.
The bride price is to be issued, and it is necessary to express the etiquette to the bride price of 2 or 30,000 yuan in Guangdong, and the ceremony can be. If you want more than 100,000 or hundreds of thousands at every turn, there is no family affection for doing this.
A small amount of bride price is a festive etiquette! But no matter how good the customs or methods of governing the country are now, many people have been distorted by selfishness! In the end, there is only one result: Everyone harms others, which is equivalent to harming themselves! The bride price is generally half a year's salary for men, and it is quite reasonable, so that the woman can bear what the man said in the past.
The bride price is a folk custom that can be negotiated according to the economic conditions of the two families. The man's family conditions are not good, but he himself is very good, and people are growing and changing.
If the man's family conditions are good, he doesn't want your woman's family to replace him, and his family doesn't want to lose face to his son and himself.
Especially now that he is basically an only child, he will not slack off in the marriage of his children. So don't ask poor families for a high bride price, you can get it at present, and you can borrow it.
Can the daughter see his family's life in dire straits after she gets married? If so, then the woman's family education will be a failure.
What is the bride price, you can't go empty-handed to see friends or relatives, it doesn't look good, so bring some gifts.
Similarly, the new in-laws who go to get married cannot go empty-handed, and the gifts they bring are called bride price. It's a matter of what the other party brings, not what you want. Asking for a bride price is a beggar act and is not advisable.
The bride price is not wanted, asking for a bride price is the same as begging for food, you need the other party to be willing to give, and if you are not willing to give the bride price, you can't ask for it. The man is willing to pay and give the bride price, which is a normal marriage.
Even if the woman's family wants a bride price, what can be changed if it is given to you, the man will always have a knot in his heart in the future, and he will think that the woman is buying it with money, which will harm the woman's family and the girl, and he will not respect the woman's family too much in the future.
I think that the bride price is given according to ability, and if it is forced to be demanded by customs, it is likely that many couples will be separated. And who did the woman's bride price end up for?
We are here to give the bride price, the woman has to add some on the basis of the bride price, adding more and less also depends on the ability, and in the end all the money will be given to them 2 people, and the woman's family will not want it.
When a classmate of mine got married, neither family had any money, and the bride price money was lent to him by the boss, and the money was returned to the boss after the marriage. Therefore, if you want a bride price, it depends on the woman's family concept, whether to sell her daughter or marry her daughter.
A single-daughter family does not understand a family with both children and daughters.
In modern times, the man gives a high bride price, and the woman has to make a lot of requirements, and the woman's parents do not pay a dowry, so it is strange that there is no difference.
Think about how much we didn't see when we went to a banquet when we were children, but how much the bride's dowry was. What does society look at now?
Marriage is not poverty alleviation. In the past, the bride price was given for marriage because women did not go out to work, and the bride price given by the maiden family was also given to the daughter, and it was used by the future body. Isn't it all about equality between men and women now? Why do we need a bride price?
There are many marriages in China around the world, which has become a kind of transaction, and those who marry because of love will not consider any shackles other than two people.
Giving a bride price is a kind of etiquette and a kind of respect for the woman. If the woman has to make this bride price into a commodity and form a way to make a fortune, I don't have too much for a penny.
Many women only say that they want a bride price and do not talk about the bride price, and when the bride price is clear, the marriage contract should also be made clear, so why are many women unhappy as long as they talk about the bride price?
Yes, but it should be good to take an idea, 18,000, 38,000, 68,000, 88,000 is not okay? When did the sky-high price become a custom, and shouldn't the custom be passed down from ancient times to the present? Is it also the standard to push up 20-30 years?
Both the bride price and the dowry are investments made by both families to build a new family. Now the young couple live alone and live their own small lives, and instead of marrying chickens and dogs as before, they move more with the woman's family and spend more for the woman's parents.
The bride price is just a ceremony, not a sale of daughters. The bride price is a traditional etiquette, but because of comparison, because of other plans, it has become tasteful and deteriorated, and it has lost the meaning that traditional etiquette should have.