True renunciation,
It's not about what you give up.
Author: Insight CC
Someone on Zhihu once asked a question: What is the real renunciation?
The most common answer in the comment section is: throw, throw, throw.
It seems that in everyone's consciousness, throwing away the things they don't use and living a simple life like a model room is the ultimate goal of breaking away.
But is that really the case?
After watching the CCTV documentary "The Subtraction of Life", I realized that blind renunciation will only increase anxiety for people, but cannot directly bring happiness to people.
People who really know how to subtract from life will never only focus on the simplification of things.
They tend to start from these three aspects to make renunciation truly a way of life that suits them.
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- Buy cautiously: Breaking away is not not not buying, but not buying easily.
In a lifetime, there are very few things that people really need, but most people can't control their desire to buy and buy.
They make it a habit to stock up, and as a result, their happiness plummets as things pile up more and more at home.
Under the influence of this mentality, many people feel that since they want to start giving up, they simply don't buy it.
This documentary denies this view and puts forward the point that it is not about not buying, but not buying easily.
There is a protagonist in the film, a white-collar Wenwen who lives in Beijing.
She is very fond of hoarding and shopping, always thinking about what to buy, and never calculating the cost of family living.
With the same style of shoes, she can buy them all the colors.
She is reluctant to throw away the clothes she hasn't worn for many years, and the old things she doesn't use.
As a direct result, the exponential growth of items in her home has exploded, and the living space has been squeezed to the point where there is not much left.
In her own words: "I feel like I live in a garbage dump every day. ”
In such a mess, Wenwen finally made up his mind to change.
To this end, she specially invited a storage organizer to come to the house to help with the disconnection, and make the home clean and orderly by sorting and discarding items.
In addition to this, she also followed the advice of the organizer and did not buy unless necessary.
And stick to this habit all the time.
Later, the organizer returned to Wenwen's house with the camera and found that her home was still very tidy, and Wenwen herself was comfortable.
In the documentary it says:
We can control the number of items through space, and control people's desires by controlling the number of items, so as to reduce some unnecessary consumption and waste.
In the days to come, only buy items that suit you and really need them. In this way, you and I can live the best quality of life in a careful budget.
Attached is a list of discarded purchases:
1. Buy the essentials, no matter how expensive, and don't buy the cheapest items.
2. Don't buy things you don't need to be gregarious.
3. Single-function items, see if there are any alternatives at home before buying.
4. Make a shopping list before you go to the supermarket.
5. Buy only one piece of clothes, pants, hats and other items of the same style.
6. Clothes that you don't wear can be recycled to earn money and reduce waste.
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- Make the best use of things: Breaking away is not about throwing things away, but about cherishing things.
The concept of renunciation originated in Japan.
It means: to cut off what you never need, to get rid of superfluous waste, to get rid of the obsession with things.
In general, the original meaning of abandonment is not to blindly throw away, but to give up what you feel is superfluous.
If you lose something and make you feel anxious, it goes against the original intention of giving up;
If you leave something to cherish and make you feel at peace in your heart, it is also a practice of renunciation.
The real renunciation is actually sorting out one's own heart.
In the third episode of the documentary, I talked about a post-95 generation who likes to collect old things, Wu Kaisi.
Wu Kaisi is a top student of South China University of Technology, and after graduation, he devoted himself to the collection of old things.
Ninety-nine percent of the things in his house are second-hand, including the clothes he wears.
In Wu Kaisi's view, old things have warmth, which will make him feel an inexplicable sense of intimacy.
Therefore, every time he collects old things, Wu Kaisi will be particularly devoted, and he is not at all in the opinion of the unexpected world.
Once, a friend asked him: Do you know that when you are picking up garbage and rummaging through garbage cans, many people are there to watch you?
Wu Kaisi smiled and replied:
I'm enjoying the state of being where I'm now, I'm free of thought, I'm free, I'm free, I'm free, I'm free, I'm not paying attention to what you're talking about.
Everyone's energy is limited, and only by letting go of unnecessary parts of life can we pay attention to the real needs of our hearts.
As it says in the documentary:
The real renunciation is not about what you give up, but about seeing what you really need.
Learning to make trade-offs is the core of the concept of renunciation.
In the days to come, instead of continuing to sink in the abyss of materialism, it is better to eliminate those who should be eliminated and leave those that are worth keeping.
Only in this way can you and I control the rhythm of our lives and gain true spiritual freedom.
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- Fit yourself: There is no perfect lifestyle, what suits you is the most important.
Eiko Yamashita wrote in "Breaking Away":
Breaking away, from a deep point of view, is a kind of life organization concept that lives in the present.
After all, everyone's tolerance is limited, and if the load is too much, the boat of life will be overturned.
Only by unloading the burden on your body and choosing a lifestyle that suits you can the boat calmly sail into the distance.
The last episode of the documentary tells the story of middle-aged cartoonist Liang Xiaoyu.
In his early years, Liang Xiaoyu was a designer for a game company.
At that time, his salary was very high, but the high pressure of work often caused him to consume his body too much and unable to take care of his family.
Once, he was still in a meeting at two o'clock in the morning, and when he was open, his eyes were black, and he almost fell to the ground, and it took a long time to recover.
Liang Xiaoyu realized that if he continued like this, his body would have serious problems sooner or later, and at that time, what should his wife and unborn children do?
Thinking of this, he resolutely resigned.
After ending that kind of tired life, Liang Xiaoyu started working as a cartoonist at home.
Although his salary is not as good as before, after spending more time with his wife and children, he feels more peaceful and satisfied than ever.
Later, when recalling this experience in an interview, he also said with deep feelings:
Renunciation does not mean abandoning all desires, but rather confronting one's truest desires.
When you really know what you want, it doesn't matter if it's hard work or if you're not understood, because that's what you really want.
Therefore, the true sense of renunciation must be to gradually get rid of those desires and find the true self.
As the orator Joshua said in his speech:
We all need material things to survive, but when we treat those as the most important things, we lose sight of what is really important in our lives and neglect the purpose of our lives.
Only by removing those things that you don't need from your life can you concentrate on and live a happier life in a cluttered life.
Life is a journey of wisdom that simplifies complexity.
Those who cannot learn to get rid of the shackles of materialism and obsession will be burdened by them and live a very heavy life.
Only if you know how to subtract from life, follow your heart to choose, and finally screen out, it will be the light life you want.
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When CCTV introduced "The Subtraction of Life", it said such a sentence, and I feel the same way:
When will we realize that less is more, and life should be subtracted.
When, we are willing to stop and look at our own lives.
At this time, we are counted as entering the door of renunciation.
All ways of renunciation teach us never to throw away, but to find a balance between the material world and the emotional world.
In the process of organizing things, we can sort out our inner turmoil and gain spiritual peace.
Mr. Lin Yutang once said: The wisdom of life lies in gradually clarifying and filtering out those unimportant impurities, and retaining the most important parts.
When you know how to make trade-offs and simplify your life in this way, you will be able to clear your mind of burdens and see the true meaning of happiness.
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