The author of "The Road Few People Walk, the Journey of Mental Maturity" said, "Falling in love is not true love." ”
Men and women who are in love can't help but say enthusiastically, "I love you!" ”
In fact, this is just your desire, and this desire is related to the sexual impulse.
The passion of falling in love does not last long, it is like brilliant fireworks.
No matter how exciting it is, it will soon return to calm.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" Data-track="21" Why do > fall in love? </h1>
Falling in love is a temporary collapse of the boundaries of the self, it is a temporary degradation of emotions and hearts.
Newborn babies have no boundaries on themselves.
As he waved his little arm, he felt the world move with him;
When he heard his mother singing a lullaby, he thought it was his own voice;
When he saw his mother moving, he thought he was moving too.
In the infant's world, he and the world are one and the same, without boundaries.
Two- or three-year-old children are often the "Chaos Demon King" in the family, and if they are not happy, they will lose their temper.
Although he knows that not every wish can be fulfilled, he still fantasizes that he can do everything.
They love the story of Superman and The Flying Man.
Teenagers who have entered adolescence are no longer interested in the story of the flying man.
They really feel the limitations of their bodies and abilities,
They are eager to break through the limits, but they can't break through, and they feel helpless.
They vaguely know that they can only survive better if they integrate into the group.
They need small partners.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="32" > living in the boundaries of the self, making people lonely. </h1>
Falling in love is a sudden collapse of a part of one's own boundaries, becoming one with others.
Emotions are like a torrent of broken banks, rushing to the lover, so the loneliness disappears, and you are ecstatic.
You believe again that you can do everything, like going back to when you were two years old, you thought you could dominate the world.
However, the feeling is illusory, and you are out of touch with reality.
The cruel real world, sooner or later to break the fantasy of a two-year-old child, is like breaking your love dream.
After the hallucinations are shattered, you are surprised to find that you are still two people, and the boundaries of the self begin to return to their original state.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="36" > fall in love, not real love, it is an illusion of love. </h1>
Falling in love is not a planned and conscious choice, it requires opportunities and fate.
Falling in love is not an expansion of the boundaries of the self, but a temporary partial collapse.
It may be a good relationship that allows you to experience a beautiful love that you will never forget.
It may be a sinful fate that makes you feel a piece of your heart in exchange for a scar.
It can be a scam that leaves your home hollowed out and in debt.
It can be a doom that you can't avoid.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="38" > couples can only truly fall in love after they are out of love. </h1>
The basis of true love is not falling in love, and it doesn't even need to feel like a relationship.
True love requires effort, and falling in love does not require effort.
True love allows the heart to grow and perfect, and it no longer returns to its original state.
People who have not fallen in love want to have a moth to the fire.
People who are deeply involved in it are eager to shed a layer of skin and become another self.
You who are hunted by the love network do not have to regret or resent.
It is only a temporary loss of the self, a temporary collapse of boundaries.
Summon up the courage to rediscover your lost self,
Turn what was once a weakness into the strongest armor.