Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In love, not every beginning will have a good ending.
Some people obviously love each other very much, but they scatter as they walk. Sometimes you are wholeheartedly devoted to someone, but the other person is thinking about how to separate from you.
Feelings are a matter of two people, and when he wants to end the relationship, sometimes he will not say it directly, but give you some hints and wait for you to take the initiative to leave.
Let's take a look at 4 hints that a person wants to end a relationship with you, and let it go if you understand it.
01
Communication decreases and replies become short and cold
Many times, to judge whether a person doesn't love you anymore, you can see the clues from what he says to you.
When he wants to break up, there is a very noticeable trait that there is less and less communication between you.
He no longer takes the initiative to chat with you as he used to, and when he replies to your messages, he becomes short and cold.
For example, you used to talk for hours every day, sharing stories about each other's lives and interesting things.
But now, the messages you send him often have to wait a long time to get a response, and the content of the reply has become very short, with only "um", "okay", "got it", etc.
This change in communication often means that the other party has psychologically distanced themselves from you and is preparing for a breakup.
Love needs to be discussed, and when communication slowly decreases, then the temperature of the relationship will also drop.
As Oscar Wilde said, "Between men and women, there is no pure friendship, in which one always has illusions about the other, either male to female or female to male." ”
However, when this "illusion" is shattered, communication becomes less, and the relationship comes to an end.
02
Avoid physical contact and reduce intimacy
When we fall in love with someone, we want to be infinitely close to each other and want to have more intimate behavior with them.
However, when the other person wants to break up with you, he will avoid physical contact with you and take the initiative to reduce intimacy.
For example, he no longer takes the initiative to hug you, or even wants to hold hands with you, and even when you sit next to him, he can't help but want to distance himself.
This physical alienation is often the most obvious hint that a person wants to leave you.
He's actually tired of you and doesn't want to be intimate with you anymore. Maybe he's lost interest in you, or maybe he's having a new relationship outside.
But either way, when he doesn't want to get close to you anymore, your relationship starts to deteriorate.
As Plato said, "Love, and only love, can make a man dare to give his life for the one he loves, and this can be done not only by men but also by women." ”
However, when love is gone, this "courage" disappears. Instead, all that remains is to stay away.
03
Often going out alone, the itinerary becomes mysterious
When a person wants to break up, he tends to become very "mysterious".
He'll often go out on his own, and he's starting to keep his itinerary secret from you. He will no longer share everything with you as he used to, but will find all kinds of reasons to refuse to go out with you and refuse to stay with you.
This change, maybe he wants to have his own space, or maybe he has a new person outside.
He spends all his time elsewhere, on other people, but he doesn't want to leave it to you.
It's not uncommon for a person to go out alone. But if this behavior becomes frequent and secretive, then you need to be vigilant.
As Shakespeare said, "True love cannot be expressed in words, but deeds are the best illustration of faithfulness." ”
When the other person begins to be mysterious to you, then his "loyalty" may have begun to waver.
04
No longer caring about the future
People who love each other together will definitely plan for the future. With a common goal, this relationship can go long-term.
But when the other person wants to break up, then he will become indifferent to your future. He will no longer ask you what you think, your plans, and he will not imagine the future with you.
This change in attitude is that on the one hand, he has lost interest in you, and on the other hand, he already has his own plans, but it has nothing to do with you.
This is actually sending a signal that most of his heart is no longer with you. None of your business is him, and he is just waiting for an opportune opportunity to leave your side.
When a person wants to end a relationship, the above four hints will be very obvious.
If this happens, we can try to redeem it. But if the other party has made up his mind, there is no need to dwell too much.
Just because, you can't wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep, and you can't keep a person who is determined to leave.
Letting go is the end and a new beginning. In this way, you have the opportunity to meet the person who can really accompany you for a lifetime.