If I were to ask parents a question: Which one would you choose between your child's health and learning?
I think most people would choose to be healthy.
If I ask again, on the premise of children's health, let you pay attention to children's health, and don't force children to study, can you do it?
I think most parents would probably choose to remain silent.
People are always like this, they don't know how to cherish when they have it, and they don't know how precious it is when they lose it. It's a pity that God never gives people a chance to choose again.
17 years old is the age of prosperity, and most children at this age are studying in the classroom, writing hard for the future college entrance examination.
And all this has become a luxury for 17-year-old Wang Liang.
And his father, Uncle Wang, is also in deep self-blame. What happened to Wang Liang, and what does this have to do with Uncle Wang?
01
On this day, Uncle Wang, who was doing odd jobs outside, suddenly received a call from his son Wang Liang's homeroom teacher, Mr. Lin, asking him to go to school.
When Uncle Wang wanted to ask Mr. Lin what was the matter, the other party had already hung up the phone.
Uncle Wang's son Wang Liang is a high school student, and now he is studying in a key high school in the county.
With a puzzled mood, Uncle Wang hurriedly returned home, changed into clean clothes, briefly explained a few words to his wife, and got on the bus to school.
At this time, Uncle Wang didn't know that there was earth-shattering news waiting for him in front of him.
When he arrived at school, Uncle Wang went to his son's classroom first, and he was eager to know what was going on.
As a result, the son didn't see it, but heard a bad news: "My son was sent to the hospital by the teacher." "When I wanted to continue to understand the specific situation, the students didn't know anything.
Later, the head of his son's class said to Uncle Wang: "Our head teacher has an explanation, let you come, go to his office and wait." ”
Uncle Wang, who had no choice, had no choice but to go to Mr. Lin's office under the leadership of the class leader.
Uncle Wang, who was anxiously waiting in the head teacher's office, finally waited for the head teacher, Mr. Lin. As soon as Mr. Lin entered the room and saw Uncle Wang, he didn't have time to sit down and said with a serious expression: "Father Wang Liang, you are here, I will take you to a place." ”
On the way, Mr. Lin saw Uncle Wang's worry and said to him, "Don't ask anything, you'll know when you get to the place." ”
When the car stopped, Uncle Wang found that they had arrived at the gate of a county hospital.
Mr. Lin took Uncle Wang to the door of an office in the hospital, knocked on the door a few times, and the sound of "come in" came from the door, and then Mr. Lin took Uncle Wang into the door.
After entering the door, Mr. Lin said to the doctor in a white coat, "Dr. Liu, this is Wang Liang's father, you can talk to him if you have any questions." Then, Teacher Lin told Uncle Wang that he could call him if there was anything wrong with him, and he went back to school.
Uncle Wang, who had not yet reacted to a series of incidents, was in a state of ignorance, and was awakened by a doctor's words: "Wang Liang suffered from liver cancer." ”
When he heard the doctor explain why his son had this disease, Uncle Wang beat his head: "I hurt my son." ”
02
When Wang Liang was born, Uncle Wang set off firecrackers all morning.
Although it is said that there is equality between men and women in the new society, there are still people who do not have a boy in the rural family and are still looked down upon and called "out of the household".
Therefore, although Wang Liang has two older sisters, Uncle Wang risked being fined and made his wife pregnant with a third child.
Wang Liang's birth indicates that Uncle Wang has taken off the hat of "no household", no longer has to listen to other people's gossip, and no longer has to lower his eyebrows and face others.
Wang Liang's birth made Uncle Wang feel that although his life was not rich, his life could be regarded as complete: both children and daughters.
He also secretly made up his mind: "I must let my son study hard, be admitted to university, and be able to get ahead in the future." ”
Wang Liang has lacked the joy of childhood since he was a child.
When he began to babble, Uncle Wang asked his daughter, who was already in school, to teach his son to recognize numbers and words. Every bit of progress of his son fills Uncle Wang's life with laughter.
Although he was fined tens of thousands of yuan because of Wang Liang, the family's life was worse, but it did not affect Uncle Wang's yearning for his son's future.
In Uncle Wang's heart, his son's only task is to study.
When Wang Liang saw that his parents were working hard and wanted to help his parents work and reduce the burden on his parents, Uncle Wang would say: "Your task now is to study, and if you study well, it will be the best reward for your parents." ”
From elementary school to junior high school, Wang Liang has always been someone else's child: smart, sensible, and good at learning. Uncle Wang has always been proud of his son, and when he talks about his son with others, he is also full of pride.
Because the family was too poor to afford to send their three children to school, Wang Liang's two sisters dropped out of school one after another and went out to work to subsidize the family.
His sister's dropout of school further stimulated Wang Liang's motivation to study, he knew that his learning opportunities were not easy to come by, and if he didn't study well, he would be sorry for all the efforts of his family.
Wang Liang's hard work finally paid off, and during the high school entrance examination, he was admitted to the county key high school, and he was also the only child in the village who was admitted to the county key high school. This incident made Uncle Wang really raise his eyebrows.
03
After entering high school, the competition for learning is particularly great because the students who enter this school are all outstanding students from each school.
It turns out that the learning methods of primary school and junior high school are not suitable for high school learning, and what is fought in high school is not only the accumulation of knowledge, but also the improvement of learning methods and thinking ability.
Wang Liang obviously felt powerless. He fell into a strange circle in his studies: the more he tried harder, the more he seemed to lose the effect, and the more he did not see the effect, the more anxious he became.
He felt that he was the hope of the whole family, and if he could not get into college, he would be a sinner in the family. For a while he even became autistic and had symptoms of depression.
Uncle Wang saw that his son's grades had declined badly, and every time his son came home, he would tell him: "Son, you must study hard, and the whole family is counting on you to be a good person." Your sister and we worked hard to earn money just to get you into college. ”
Later, in order to improve his son's academic performance, although the family was not wealthy, Uncle Wang also helped his son register for a cram school in the town, so as to facilitate his son's tutoring at home once a week.
Others go home once every two weeks, they are all cheering, for Wang Liang, it is just from one cage to another, and he does not feel the joy of going home at all.
On the one hand, I feel sorry for my family if I can't learn well, and on the other hand, the pain of not being able to learn how to do it makes Wang Liang have great pressure on his thoughts.
Wang Liang always believes that "diligence can make up for clumsiness", so he began to increase the time for studying.
In the morning, he wakes up more than an hour earlier than his classmates to memorize the knowledge points of various subjects.
At night, he slept 2 or 3 hours later than his classmates to brush up on questions, and once, a classmate woke up and found that Wang Liang was still writing hard there.
Normally, children enter high school to consume a lot of energy and physical strength, and parents will buy a variety of nutritional products for their children to replenish their physical and mental power.
And Wang Liang, because of the poverty of his family, not only does he not have nutritional products, but sometimes even a simple meal is a luxury.
Every time Wang Liang's father saw his son loading pickles at home, he was relieved: "Now there are too few children like my son who know how to save." ”
In order to reduce the cost of living expenses, he was reluctant to buy new clothes, and every day he wore a school uniform issued by the school, eating old pickles made at home and steamed buns bought in the canteen.
Even, sometimes, when the food grows hair, he is reluctant to throw it away, washing it in water and eating it.
At the beginning of his sophomore year of high school, Wang Liang often felt dizzy, and at first he thought that he might have a cold, so he bought some medicine in the clinic to eat. The symptoms have lessened, and it is not taken seriously.
When he went home once, he felt abdominal pain, so he told his father Uncle Wang, who said, "Are you under pressure to go to school and want to skip class, what can be wrong with the child's family?"
Wang Liang's father bought him some medicine for stomach ache at the home clinic and drove him back to school.
Soon after returning to school, Wang Liang continued to devote himself to intense study, and when he had a stomachache, he found a book to put on his abdomen to reduce the pain.
It was a physical education class, and one of the events in the class was a sprint race, standing at the starting point. As soon as Wang Liang wanted to start running, he fell headlong to the ground.
The physical education teacher hurriedly called the head teacher, Mr. Lin, and then called the 120 ambulance and sent Wang Liang to the hospital.
The doctor in the emergency department, as soon as he saw Wang Liang's face, he knew the general situation of the child. Later, a series of tests were done, which confirmed the doctor's conjecture: liver cancer.
04
When asked about the cause of Wang Liang's illness, Dr. Liu, who knew what had happened, said: There are three reasons for Wang Liang's illness.
First, "staying up late" Wang Liang sleeps less than 5 hours a day, and in the long run, his body has been seriously overdrawn and cannot be repaired in time, which is the main reason for his illness.
Second, the pressure from studying and the pressure from his family makes his body under high pressure every day, and all organs in his body are overloaded, and his body will also have problems.
Third, unhealthy diet, Wang Liang eats pickles and steamed buns, which is not only nutritionally insufficient, but also produces toxic bacteria from moldy food, which is not small to the body.
Today's Uncle Wang regrets it very much, if he doesn't put so much pressure on the child, the child won't stay up late to study, resulting in physical overdraft. Is it that the child will not get sick.
If you don't cry in front of your child all day long, your child won't eat moldy food, and he won't get this disease.
Unfortunately, there are no ifs in life, only results, and everyone is responsible for what they do, even at the cost of their lives.
The teachers who learned about Wang Liang's family made a donation to Wang Liang, hoping that Wang Liang would recover soon, return to campus, and take the college entrance examination with them.
But this donation is a drop in the bucket for Wang Liang.
Dr. Liu told Uncle Wang that Wang Liang's liver cancer had reached an advanced stage, and there was no point in retreating it, and that the treatment required huge costs and was not something that their family could afford.
Uncle Wang finally gave up treatment, he just wanted to accompany the child on the last journey in his lifetime.
The most painful thing in life is "the white-haired person sends the black-haired person," I hope that Uncle Wang will not blame himself too much, and accompany Wang Liang to spend these few days, which will become the thoughts of his future life.
With the prevalence of electronic products and the rise of the food delivery industry, more and more young people stay up late to play games, hungry for takeout, and unhealthy work and food make patients with liver cancer younger and younger.
17-year-old Xiao Zhao, who also has liver cancer, lives in an ordinary family, and his parents work outside all the year round, and they will send money to Xiao Zhao every month for various daily expenses.
In addition to attending classes and studying, Xiao Zhao eats in the cafeteria at noon, basically orders takeout, and goes out to eat barbecue at night stalls at night.
In addition to diet, Xiao Zhao is extremely irregular in terms of work and rest, due to the absence of his parents and lack of restraint, Xiao Zhao often stays up late to play games and chase anime.
After a while, Xiao Zhao often felt a stomachache, and he thought it was caused by eating something raw and cold, so he didn't care.
Later, this phenomenon became more and more serious, and even fainted in pain several times.
Seeing that the situation was serious, the teacher notified Xiao Zhao's parents. The parents received a call from the teacher and rushed home.
After repeated examinations and verifications in major hospitals, it was confirmed that Xiao Zhao was suffering from advanced liver cancer.
Although Xiao Zhao's parents knew that there was little hope, they still wanted to do their best to save their son's life, and now Xiao Zhao relies on chemotherapy and targeted therapy every day to extend his life.
Xiao Zhao's parents often blame themselves for their lack of companionship for their children, if they were at home, the children may not get this disease, but there is never a regret medicine in this world.
Write at the end
Dong Yuhui said: In a person's life, the short-term struggle is intelligence, the medium-term struggle is perseverance, and the long-term struggle is physical strength.
In the end, a person will find that fame, fortune, and wealth are not the most important, but health is the first.
Learning is important, and children's health is even more important, because learning puts all kinds of pressure on children every day, and children under pressure will not only lose the joy of life, but also lose their physical health.
I hope that every child can be free from disease and grow up healthy.