Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Marriage is like a cup of tea.
After repeated brewing, it has become bland and tasteless, and it has lost its original mellow aroma.
A marriage is properly managed, and it is two people who reap happiness. If it reaches the point of no return, both sides have unshirkable responsibilities.
A man's betrayal of his marriage does not mean that the original partner is the biggest loser.
If you can find out your own shortcomings and aspects that you have neglected, you can also have more understanding of marriage.
After a man has an affair outside of marriage, he insists on divorce, and the original partner is generally lost in the following places.
02. Lose in the management of marriage, and the relationship between husband and wife is indifferent
Neglecting the management of marriage is like forgetting to water a plant and letting it wither day by day.
Before my college classmate He Yun got married, she was the daughter of her parents who doted on her in every way. She is confident that her husband will deliver on his promise and bring her the happy life she wants.
After getting married, He Yun still stretched out her hand to eat and opened her mouth, calling her husband around.
Every day, her husband comes back from work to cook for her, goes to her designated shop to buy desserts, massages her shoulders, and fetches her feet. At the slightest disappointment, she will lose her temper and run away from home.
After a long time, the husband's patience was also exhausted.
He met a gentle and virtuous woman outside of marriage and insisted on divorcing He Yun.
No matter how He Yun cried or how He Yun's parents pressured, he was unmoved. He didn't want to continue to serve He Yun like a nanny.
Running a marriage requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife.
If, in marriage, a woman is not good at managing her marriage, and just blindly takes or gives, it will lead to an imbalance in the relationship between husband and wife.
Love needs to be managed, and it also needs to be expressed.
The original partner who was betrayed by a man lost in the management of the marriage and the maintenance of the relationship between the husband and wife.
The relationship between husband and wife is becoming more and more indifferent, and the slightest love is not felt in life, and men will not hesitate to give up this marriage and go to the beauty they desire.
03, lost because he was not empathetic and did not communicate with his husband
Chen Haixian, a well-known psychological counselor, pointed out: "Many times, people do not choose the partner in front of them, but choose the idealized lover in their hearts. ”
A man's mind is not as delicate as a woman's, but he also hopes that there is a woman around him who understands him. Being able to give him understanding and support gives him more motivation to work hard and struggle.
In life, men are not good at confiding and will not easily show their vulnerable and frustrated side.
If a woman can pay attention to his emotional changes, can give him companionship and comfort in time, and be his confidant, the man will be more determined to be with her.
The original partner who was given up by the man was largely due to the loss of empathy and neglect of communication and exchange in getting along.
Both of them stay in their own world, creating a huge gap between each other, without any expression of love and emotional exchange.
Such a weak relationship between husband and wife cannot withstand any tests and crises, and will not make men have the slightest nostalgia and reluctance.
04, losing is finding the wrong object and falling in love with someone with poor character
In "Good Things Come in Pairs", Lin Shuang graduated from a prestigious university.
Originally, she had a bright future, but in order to better support her husband's career and take care of the children, she chose to retreat to the family.
Later, she found out that her husband had betrayed her, not only maintained an extramarital relationship with the company's female subordinates, but also worked hard to climb to Huang Jiayi, the daughter of the company's director.
In order to divorce as soon as possible, the husband did not care about the relationship between husband and wife, drove Lin Shuang and his daughter out of the residence, and sold the house as quickly as possible.
In order to make Lin Shuang compromise, he used means not to let Lin Shuang see his daughter, and kept threatening her, so that she almost collapsed.
At this time, Lin Shuang had to admit that she had lost, she had not seen through her husband's true face from the beginning, and had been deceived by him for so many years.
After a man is merciful outside of marriage, he insists on divorce, not necessarily because the original partner himself has done something wrong.
Her biggest mistake was to look at the wrong person and marry a man with poor character.
Marrying a man with poor character, no matter how much the original partner pays and how perfect he is, he can't get his sincerity.
From the beginning, the original match was wrong, and such a result was only a matter of time or time.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
If the marriage has deteriorated, the woman should also wake up in time: take back her heart, stop her own giving, and choose to let go.
Marriage is not the whole story of a woman. If you continue to consume in the wrong relationship, a woman will not have any chance of winning.
Only by starting over can we strive for the possibility of happiness for ourselves.
Adjust your mentality in time, go all out to manage your life, and leave anyone, you can still live a free and brilliant life.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.