Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Marriage is like a big project. If you work alone, you will be exhausted, and you may not be able to do it well.
Two people work together and cooperate tacitly to present a more perfect state.
Most of the women who don't have a good marriage and don't feel happy are because they have taken on more burdens that don't belong to her.
In marriage, women who are very tired and are not loved by their husbands have a common characteristic: they have to take care of everything and love to worry.
02. Everything must be managed, so that men have no room for development
Once, I was talking to my mother, and she said something:
My father has a colleague who has good skills and strong work ability, but he has not developed much. It had to do with his wife.
When they were young, they often had to work overtime in the factory, drawing drawings, debugging machines, and technicians needed to work overtime.
At that time, his wife came to the factory to make trouble, talked to the factory director, and said that men could not be sold to the factory, and he had to take care of his family.
The factory director didn't want to mess with her, and a lot of work was handed over to others to handle, trying not to let him work overtime.
When I went out to study, I didn't dare to send him, I would rather train a new person than reuse him.
Later, he became inactive and lost his original heart, and his wife scolded him for being unproductive.
Wives are too lenient with their husbands and have no sense of boundaries and will limit the development of men.
Women always give restraints to men, which can make him feel miserable. He will become numb to married life, and his love for his wife may also turn into resentment.
Moreover, the more women manage, the easier it is for men to ignore everything and become a "hands-off shopkeeper".
03, I love to worry too much, and I carry more and more burdens in my marriage
Wang Xifeng in "Dream of Red Mansions" is a fairy-like character, graceful and luxurious, dignified and dignified.
She has a strong nature, and she supports the affairs of a large family by herself. She is proud of this, and Qin Keqing also said that she is "a hero in the fat powder pile".
However, she spent too much time on housework, and her husband was very dissatisfied with her resolute and worrying attitude.
He didn't see her worrying about labor, and he didn't approve of her efforts.
Wang Xifeng did a good job, but he couldn't get half of his praise; if something happened, when he went on a business trip, he put all the responsibility on his wife, so that Wang Xifeng had a hard time.
In the end, Wang Xifeng also died early because of overwork, and a minor illness became a major illness.
Women have to take care of everything, waste too much energy, and constantly consume their physical energy and hard work.
Men will not see how virtuous you are, they will only feel that "you are too lenient".
A woman who loves to worry always feels that her husband can't do everything well at home. Accustomed to taking care of everything, let yourself work hard and get tired.
Men also become ungrateful and irresponsible because they can't get the approval of their wives.
Women who manage too much and worry too much will have more and more things and responsibilities in their marriage, and the more tired they become.
04. Women, learn to let go and learn to be lazy
George Bernard Shaw said: "The relationship between husband and wife after marriage is not a one-sided request and give, but must be done to the best of their ability, each to the fullest." ”
Many women are not pampered by men, not because you are too stupid, but because you are too capable.
The more stupid a woman is, the more care she will get.
For example, if she has no strength and can't unscrew the cap, men will be happy to do it for her, and women can't do housework or cook, and men are willing to try to do these things.
The last thing a woman needs in marriage is to be too capable and virtuous.
Marriage requires two people to operate together, and two people need to pay and maintain together.
Plato said, "If you are not happy, if you are not happy, then let it go, if you can't give it up, then you will be miserable." ”
Learn to let go, let the man also bear some trivialities, and give praise at the right time, the man will not feel tired, but he will feel very happy.
After being recognized, men will be willing to give more. He will take the initiative to give you more love and put you on the tip of his heart.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Marriage is for two people, like a scale, and it is inevitable to maintain balance.
Women, don't always feel like you're a "savior" who can save everything. If you are a weak person who is properly protected, you will feel the dedication of your husband.
He can take on the responsibilities of the family, and will pay more attention to the family and the relationship management with his wife.
Life is a long road, don't let yourself live too tired, too hard. Don't always do everything and not get the love and gratitude of your husband.
Learn to let go, learn to be lazy, learn to guide a man to run a marriage with you, and you will live an easier life.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.